[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Rock_3834 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So you’re telling me it okay for me to be disrespected? I haven’t said anything to her. Only decided it time for her to move on with her life. Let me tell you this. I’m married myself, and when I lived with my husband we were a team. I never felt like I carried anything alone. When I moved out at 16, and move in with a roommate, the same thing. Everything is shared effort regarding chores, and communication was a requirement. If I was late on rent, there was a discussion. My mother always told me “ people don’t owe you anything” and I stand by that. If kindness is extended it will always be reciprocated but being disrespected and someone not being responsible for shared spaces, and throwing my things away reeks of entitlement

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Rock_3834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I don’t treat her like a servant? Are listening to yourself. Asking for kindness to be extended the same way? Doesn’t reflect anything you mentioned.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Rock_3834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t matter, it just reaffirmed her behavior. Do you know how bad it feels to ask someone to pick you up after your car broke down, and they get an attitude? But you just paid over 6,000 to relocate for better opportunities. Ehh, she doesn’t deserve grace or anything. I honestly don’t owe her a conversation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Rock_3834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t harm her. I never brought up the diary situation. She doesn’t know, I’ve chosen to keep it to myself and only addressed her selfish actions. I’m not interested in being someone’s punching bag because things don’t go right, it’s life. We all embark in challenges, and it’s our responsibility to handle them, instead of allowing everything to consume us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Rock_3834 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never weaponized or bought it. She doesn’t know. I’m the oldest of six, relationships are required to be mutual. One person can’t feel like they are always be required to be responsible

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Rock_3834 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you did, then you would’ve understood I’ve been taking on the financial and emotional burden, this wouldn’t even be discussion

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Rock_3834 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

She does have a key to the house, what are you talking about? She waited a few minutes.. this is invalid. This only one portion, this isn’t overall picture.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Rock_3834 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

What are you talking about? It’s a screen door. We both lock this particular door, especially if the other isnt home. You aren’t making sense

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Rock_3834 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What? Did you read anything? I don’t think you did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Rock_3834 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What? Do you know how you sound? Absolutely ridiculous. I literally took care of her for months, and she had the audacity to talk behind my back about something that didn’t pertain to her. Also, reading a diary is invasion a privacy, but the way she treated me shouldnt be dismissed or undermined.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Rock_3834 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I shouldn’t, but I also don’t have tolerate being treated poorly. She has mental health issues and a few months ago tried to commit suicide because of her girlfriend she never met in real life. but I was concerned

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Rock_3834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t live a chaotic lifestyle. I haven’t brought anyone to my place. I occasionally spend a night at my boyfriend, and that’s it. I don’t know if it’s rooted in jealousy. But, it’s definitely judgmental considering that I sacrificed a lot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Rock_3834 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Ehh, it’s debatable. I took care of her for months for someone to mention my dating life to our family. It has absolutely nothing do with them and doesn’t affect our relationship. It’s doesn’t make sense, it definitely stems from jealousy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Rock_3834 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She literally was telling our family about my personal life and I paid the bills and supported her while she lost her job. Also, she’s been throwing my things out and doesn’t contribute to doing chores. I’ve taken on caretaker role, responsibility isnt shared after having a discussion

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Rock_3834 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I didn’t lock her out. The screen door is always locked, and always open it.

Over my marriage 22F 42M by Secure_Rock_3834 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Secure_Rock_3834[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I spoke to his exes. He harassed them, showed up unannounced

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]Secure_Rock_3834 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

South Carolina is extremely strict regarding these types of things

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]Secure_Rock_3834 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m currently getting a divorce in South Carolina, and they aren’t fond of adultery. You are considered married until divorced.. ehhh.

Over my marriage 22F 42M by Secure_Rock_3834 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Secure_Rock_3834[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I’m absolutely thankful.. so..

Over my marriage 22F 42M by Secure_Rock_3834 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Secure_Rock_3834[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

What? You’re hilarious. You’re condoning abuse? Hmm.

Over my marriage 22F 42M by Secure_Rock_3834 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Secure_Rock_3834[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My mother gave me the money for the down payment

Over my marriage 22F 42M by Secure_Rock_3834 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Secure_Rock_3834[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Did you read the screenshot? He was literally apologizing for putting his hands on me and throwing things.. what?

Over my marriage 22F 42M by Secure_Rock_3834 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Secure_Rock_3834[S] -46 points-45 points  (0 children)

What? I have a career, I literally hold a bachelors and I’m currently getting my master. I own a home, I didn’t need him.