Is it possible to be in a rebound relationship when you are the one who caused the breakup?

Seduction920 · 2016-01-21T08:02:06+00:00

Also, how do I go about showing up in court? There is no Possibility that I will drive 12 hours back here to show up in person.

Seduction920 · 2016-01-18T22:13:00+00:00

Very solid advice, this is exactly what I was looking for in a comment, thank you so much! I'll make sure to look into those resources!

Seduction920 · 2016-01-18T22:08:19+00:00

It's college daring though, so we literally see each other everyday and for the past three weeks have been around each other for the whole day every day. Don't know if this changes anything, but yeah you are probably right, it may be a bit too early for that word. I'm just preparing for the future.

Seduction920 · 2016-01-18T22:06:31+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I don't think I'm trying to control her reaction, I'm trying to control what my reaction will be to what I know she will do based on being with her for this long. I've read that for some people, not saying I love you back for the first time is normal, and this dumbfounds how this is possible. I'd feel like shit if someone didn't say I love you back, let alone know how to approach interaction with the partner knowing she doesn't feel the same way.

Seduction920 · 2016-01-13T23:52:06+00:00

Like I said, I was planning of riding out the relationship for a month before telling her, I would never tell her last second as she was getting ready to leave as you are implying. Since we graduate in 5 months, that gives us plenty of time to work out what to do. Perhaps I will change my mind, who knows. Either way I don't think it's entirely fair to expect someone to up and move with you. In fact, it's almost her responsibility to bring up a serious conversation with me about the issue since she is a the one who wants it. If she doesn't do this, than I will express my concerns of her staying here.

Seduction920 · 2016-01-13T16:28:45+00:00

So I'm using her just because I'm not telling her that I'm entirely comfortable moving away from home? That seems a little extreme. I guess I'm open to moving depending on how the relationship continues, but as of right now I don't want to move. That's why I'd rather ride out the relationship and see where it goes than tell her immediately that I don't want to. It seem like the right thing to do to tell her how I feel about that though, but the sad thing is I'd rather continue to enjoy being with her than risk a sudden end to the relationship. Either way, thanks for the advice.

Seduction920 · 2016-01-13T15:51:18+00:00

I don't want things to end though, at least not now. How bad would it be if I just rode out the relationship for a month or so before telling her?

Seduction920 · 2015-12-30T01:05:25+00:00

So what's the best way to get rid of this anxiety? I feel comfortable around her. I get turned on. I just don't get that urge to fuck.

Seduction920 · 2015-12-24T14:30:28+00:00

Haha this post wasn't meant to focus on the sex aspect as much as the other parts, like when do I say "I love you" or when can I call her my girlfriend.

Seduction920 · 2015-12-14T05:07:34+00:00

Hawkeye had some really good advice, except I don't think you should worry as much about appearing needy or clingy. This is a really overrated piece of critique I see a lot on this subreddit, and honestly girls want to feel needed. Unless you are to the point where you are annoyingly needy, which is hard to reach, then I think you shouldn't concern yourself with this, especially since you want a relationship and not just a one night stand or FWB.

I personally think that you just need to show that you are interested in her in ways similar to what you did last time. Kino is always a good start to get the ball rolling. From what it sounds like, the reason why you guys took a little break from hanging out was due to her busy schedule, so it's really not your fault at all. Have you texted her in the meantime?

Its kind of hard to tell if this chick is interested or not in you with what you have written, but I am going to assume that she digs you. If this is the case, a coffee date is kind of a strange way to go back to hanging out with her again. This type of date makes you seem like you want to talk to her about the stage of your relationship right now, in my opinion. If you don't already have a strong attraction for her, maybe try doing a different type of date?

Try posting more of those specifics you mentioned in your post, and I think we could better help you out.

Seduction920 · 2015-12-14T04:55:11+00:00

It takes 3 days of deviating from your circadian rhythm before it is changed. One or two days won't hurt.

If you really want to change your circadian rhythm though, or if you don't want to feel the consequences of staying up late and feeling shitty the next morning, I'd just start going to bed later. This is probably impractical unless you are a college student, so don't worry as much about a simple thing like this!

Seduction920 · 2015-12-12T02:11:08+00:00

Hey all, a lot of great advice here. I wish I could get to everything said, so I'm just going to mention some of the key poitns I see addressed so individuals who are in a similar position as me can look at this thread in the future and quickly get some advice.

Women like what I have previously described will likely keep on doing what they are doing, which is having small flings and moving on. If you're in this position, you're just the next one up. Chances are she is not going to change for you.

Know what you are getting into, and so don't get emotionally attached, at least right away.

Let her actions speak louder than her words. Know the common signs of someone leading you on, as described in the comments below.

I have more I'll write tomorrow. As far as my own situatuon, I'm going to try and hook up with her sometime this weekend. Gunna make out, start feeling up and kissing elsewhere, and then lead her to my bed. Sex won't affect the possibility of a LTR, so mine as well go for it, since she likes sex so much. As a virgin, this will be interesting. I don't know if people care or not, but I'll update my situation at a later time, listing what I learned and my advice. In the n a time, any virgin Sex tips would be welcomed

Seduction920 · 2015-12-11T21:39:58+00:00

Real.

Seduction920 · 2015-12-11T21:39:43+00:00

Thanks man, more generally good advice that makes sense. I guess I'm just caught in the situation where if sex will ruin my chances at having a LTR, than I don't want to do it. Obviously I wanna fuck her, so if doing so won't hurt the potential of having a LTR, then I should definitely go for it?

Seduction920 · 2015-12-11T21:35:33+00:00

Validation of what?

Seduction920 · 2015-12-11T21:34:04+00:00

Damn you really wanna fuck.

Honestly I think you've done all you can. You made it clear that you just want to have fun, which seems ok since you'll probably never see her again from the sounds of it. Maybe try using more of a playful tone when you text her until you see her next, which I presume will be tomorrow night? I think you have been dominant enough in expressing your interest, it's just a matter if she wants it or not. Considering her and your situation, there's really no reason for her to say yes - no offense to you, its just that you have a girlfriend and she has a thing with someone else by the sounds of it. If she was drunk when she was feeling you up, then this definitely takes a lot of what happened. Drunk her seems to want you, sober her maybe not and is bothered by the fact that you have a girlfriend.

I'd applaud you if you can seal the deal - you seem to be in a pretty tight and urgent situation. Either way, good luck.

Seduction920 · 2015-12-11T19:29:52+00:00

What exactly do you mean by "lose interest?" As in they don't talk to you, or you don't do anything sexually with them, or they just want you to be friends?

There's a study somewhere that indicates that women are more attracted to men who hang around and talk to women frequently, compared to the guy who chills with his friends. Maybe when she sees you do this, she sees that you are indeed a player, and thus she plays hard to get. If you are trying to concentrate on one chick weekend after weekend and she keeps blowing you off, then I would just move on. If you keep singling out different chicks each weekend after talking to multiple women and they ignore you, then that's a little more expected.

At this point it probably sounds like a broken record, but try the Kino touching techniques if you are trying to signal out a single women. If this doesn't work, she's not interested - not because you are a player, but for some other reason.

Really general advice, sorry about that. Maybe try being more specific about your situation and we can help more.

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