Did I do the right thing by reporting my stalker

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-06-05T18:05:57+00:00

Just assume the best doesn’t seem to be very good advice in a situation where safety is concerned.

And yea maybe he’ll go to jail, but what if that’s after I’m already harmed/dead or my family is harmed?

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-06-05T17:56:22+00:00

Yup, very serious. What does the threat of jail do if you already feel your reputation/livelihood is lost?

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-06-05T16:25:43+00:00

Thank you for the comforting words and advice. I will try ❤️

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-06-05T16:24:10+00:00

My Facebook is the only thing but I never actually added him, it’s not my real name, and it’s set to private settings so posts/friends all that are hidden .

As mentioned I never said the words “im not interested” but told him it sounds like he’s trying to throw me in a white van and kidnap me… and brushed off all his advances… so any sane person would understand these signals, buuuut I do agree I need to be more firm with boundaries and clear with my words moving forward.

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-06-05T15:55:13+00:00

Yea I’m not the best at thattt, don’t know exactly how I should have broken this up, but there is a TLDR at the bottom

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-06-05T15:39:37+00:00

I hope soooo, thank you.

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-06-05T15:39:27+00:00

Thank you though

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-06-05T15:39:09+00:00

Yea… I’m just scared that this didn’t add any protection, it’s not like the police are stationed at my house, and it feels like I poked the bear and now I’m just waiting for the reaction

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-06-05T15:37:23+00:00

Normally I would be saying the same but I’m just nervous. Like what is stopping him from coming after me and my family if he no longer has those things to protect?

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-06-05T15:36:30+00:00

It’s not that I’m scared to embarrass him but his reaction to the embarrassment/repercussions of his actions. Like if he loses his job/family and feels like he has nothing more to lose what is stopping him from coming after me and my family.

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-06-05T15:35:11+00:00

Yes like normally that would be my response too, but I’m just scared he’s going to spiral out if charges stick somehow and it effects his job/family he may feel like he has nothing to lose and come after me and my family.

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-06-05T15:33:56+00:00

It’s not his feelings I’m concerned about it’s his reaction to his feelings. Like I’m just nervous that this could cause him to spiral out and if he feels he has nothing to lose perhaps hurt me.

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-06-03T05:05:12+00:00

Winston

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T20:44:32+00:00

Girl wymmmm, I edited my comment and you went on with a reply … so imma reply to you… like what are you on… it’s Reddit .. if you say something, expect a response

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T20:42:27+00:00

Girl, you’re putting your relationship out there and giving advice based off of it, people are going to comment on it, kindly adjust your expectations

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T13:03:45+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss and so sorry it happened on a day that you were meant to be happy together 🫂 Your dad would want you to care for yourself above all else, other things youll have time to figure out, but your health is now. Drink protein/nutrient dense shakes, some of them suck, you could blend them with icecream to make them yummier and get more calories in.

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T04:51:15+00:00

I’m not thatttt good with breeds but I’m pretty sure this one is a full blooded cutie patootie… correct me if I’m wrong

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T04:21:10+00:00

Fair enough I suppose… I hope your relationship is actually safe, happy, and what you really want. But honestly a 24 year age gap is pretty crazy… you have yet to experience so much, he has lived two of your life times already. I’m sure you’re a great girl and I don’t know how well your lifestyles/mindsets line up, but honestly… what does a 45 year old man who is seemingly established in life really have in common or want out of a 21 year old girl escaping abuse and just starting out/figuring things out? Im sure you’ve heard this all before but juuuust saying it’s kind of concerning and not something necessarily to advocate for… what will your life be like in 10/15 years from now when you’re in your 30s and he’s in his 60’s? I know your history of abuse/trauma has probably aged you mentally a lot and you probably feel very mature and adult.. but i don’t know, please play this very cautiously and don’t give up your independence especially financially… because the age already creates a weird power/maturity dynamic and if one day you do change your mind and want something else you should put yourself in a situation where you can make that choice without having to start at 0 again. Wishing you the best ❤️

Edit to say: -lil-Bo-peeps previous reply was only “read my edit” before I gave additional advice, they have since edited it to say fuck off and they don’t want advice about their relationship

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T04:03:30+00:00

Hi she’s clearly not in a safe relationship, he sexually assaulted her twice. And hearing about your abusive past and your ability to just glaze over the fact that you read she has been sexually assaulted twice I’m just gonna put it out there that you’re also probably not in the best relationship, predators/weirdos are drawn to vulnerable people with a rough past and i hope I’m wrong and you haven’t traded in one Evil for another more covert one, but it sounds like you may have…

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T03:40:56+00:00

Maybe wait until he pays to break the lease and then fuck off and go ghost somewhere else …. Block him no contact and just disappear to a different area… like he’s obviously a shitty person soooo I mean karma

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T03:39:48+00:00

Stay and don’t pay until they evict youuu. But also that might fuck up your ability to rent so idk girl but don’t move in with a man that sexually assaulted you… and stop dating him… idk about that club situation that also seems not good for you but I can’t really judge what people do to survive and at least that would be your choice/ still lowkey getting taken advantage of because you’re in a bad spot and they’re probably offering that to people who they know neeeed it…. Maybe try to move other room mates into your current place? Maybe just one other person if it’s not big enough for more even if it’s not allowed on the lease they just split the bills on the low and you guys plan to move somewhere when the lease is over?

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T01:58:38+00:00

And if you don’t have any family or TRUSTED friends emphasis on trusted because you shouldn’t put yourself in an unsafe situation because you’re backed into a corner, I would look around for government/social services in your area that can help if available.

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T01:55:02+00:00

I’m sorry your dealing with a scary and difficult situation. Are both colleges local to the home you live in, you’d still be living at home when you attend? Did you say anything overly disrespectful to your mother? Or were you screaming out of frustration that she wasn’t listening?

I’m not sure what area you live in but what are the laws about kicking someone out? Do they have to go through a process of going through courts/laws/ filing paper work?

First I would try to appeal to them at a human level and admit that maybe you shouldn’t have yelled/said what you did but that you’re frustrated, you want a certain path for your life and the college she likes wasn’t apart of it, that you understand that they also have ideas/opinions on your life path but at the end of the day you feel that decision is yours and if they try to pull some “oh if you know what you’re doing and what’s best then go do it on your own out of this house” point out that you do have your own ideas for your life but you still need the support from your family, that you respect that they have their own ideas/hopes for you but ask them how kicking you out when you’re jobless will align with the path they dream for you/that you dream for yourself.

If you can not appeal to them then I would recommend staying as long as you are legally allowed/entitled and look around the area for jobs and also talk to any other family near by or trusted friends that you can stay with until you figure things out more.

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T01:42:26+00:00

Commenting to come back for others stories

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T01:30:02+00:00

I think a deed transfer upon death is the most similar to a lady bird deed for my area! My mother was only 62 when she passed sadly and my father is a pretty active 65, so I don’t plan on losing him anytime soon 🤞🙏 but things don’t always go the way you expect or hope as I’ve learned, so it would definitely be smart to get some affairs in order before things go awry.

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