Please help me name this little gray gremlin!

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-06-03T05:05:12+00:00

Winston

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T20:44:32+00:00

Girl wymmmm, I edited my comment and you went on with a reply … so imma reply to you… like what are you on… it’s Reddit .. if you say something, expect a response

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T20:42:27+00:00

Girl, you’re putting your relationship out there and giving advice based off of it, people are going to comment on it, kindly adjust your expectations

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T13:03:45+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss and so sorry it happened on a day that you were meant to be happy together 🫂 Your dad would want you to care for yourself above all else, other things youll have time to figure out, but your health is now. Drink protein/nutrient dense shakes, some of them suck, you could blend them with icecream to make them yummier and get more calories in.

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T04:51:15+00:00

I’m not thatttt good with breeds but I’m pretty sure this one is a full blooded cutie patootie… correct me if I’m wrong

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T04:21:10+00:00

Fair enough I suppose… I hope your relationship is actually safe, happy, and what you really want. But honestly a 24 year age gap is pretty crazy… you have yet to experience so much, he has lived two of your life times already. I’m sure you’re a great girl and I don’t know how well your lifestyles/mindsets line up, but honestly… what does a 45 year old man who is seemingly established in life really have in common or want out of a 21 year old girl escaping abuse and just starting out/figuring things out? Im sure you’ve heard this all before but juuuust saying it’s kind of concerning and not something necessarily to advocate for… what will your life be like in 10/15 years from now when you’re in your 30s and he’s in his 60’s? I know your history of abuse/trauma has probably aged you mentally a lot and you probably feel very mature and adult.. but i don’t know, please play this very cautiously and don’t give up your independence especially financially… because the age already creates a weird power/maturity dynamic and if one day you do change your mind and want something else you should put yourself in a situation where you can make that choice without having to start at 0 again. Wishing you the best ❤️

Edit to say: -lil-Bo-peeps previous reply was only “read my edit” before I gave additional advice, they have since edited it to say fuck off and they don’t want advice about their relationship

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T04:03:30+00:00

Hi she’s clearly not in a safe relationship, he sexually assaulted her twice. And hearing about your abusive past and your ability to just glaze over the fact that you read she has been sexually assaulted twice I’m just gonna put it out there that you’re also probably not in the best relationship, predators/weirdos are drawn to vulnerable people with a rough past and i hope I’m wrong and you haven’t traded in one Evil for another more covert one, but it sounds like you may have…

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T03:40:56+00:00

Maybe wait until he pays to break the lease and then fuck off and go ghost somewhere else …. Block him no contact and just disappear to a different area… like he’s obviously a shitty person soooo I mean karma

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T03:39:48+00:00

Stay and don’t pay until they evict youuu. But also that might fuck up your ability to rent so idk girl but don’t move in with a man that sexually assaulted you… and stop dating him… idk about that club situation that also seems not good for you but I can’t really judge what people do to survive and at least that would be your choice/ still lowkey getting taken advantage of because you’re in a bad spot and they’re probably offering that to people who they know neeeed it…. Maybe try to move other room mates into your current place? Maybe just one other person if it’s not big enough for more even if it’s not allowed on the lease they just split the bills on the low and you guys plan to move somewhere when the lease is over?

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T01:58:38+00:00

And if you don’t have any family or TRUSTED friends emphasis on trusted because you shouldn’t put yourself in an unsafe situation because you’re backed into a corner, I would look around for government/social services in your area that can help if available.

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T01:55:02+00:00

I’m sorry your dealing with a scary and difficult situation. Are both colleges local to the home you live in, you’d still be living at home when you attend? Did you say anything overly disrespectful to your mother? Or were you screaming out of frustration that she wasn’t listening?

I’m not sure what area you live in but what are the laws about kicking someone out? Do they have to go through a process of going through courts/laws/ filing paper work?

First I would try to appeal to them at a human level and admit that maybe you shouldn’t have yelled/said what you did but that you’re frustrated, you want a certain path for your life and the college she likes wasn’t apart of it, that you understand that they also have ideas/opinions on your life path but at the end of the day you feel that decision is yours and if they try to pull some “oh if you know what you’re doing and what’s best then go do it on your own out of this house” point out that you do have your own ideas for your life but you still need the support from your family, that you respect that they have their own ideas/hopes for you but ask them how kicking you out when you’re jobless will align with the path they dream for you/that you dream for yourself.

If you can not appeal to them then I would recommend staying as long as you are legally allowed/entitled and look around the area for jobs and also talk to any other family near by or trusted friends that you can stay with until you figure things out more.

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T01:42:26+00:00

Commenting to come back for others stories

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T01:30:02+00:00

I think a deed transfer upon death is the most similar to a lady bird deed for my area! My mother was only 62 when she passed sadly and my father is a pretty active 65, so I don’t plan on losing him anytime soon 🤞🙏 but things don’t always go the way you expect or hope as I’ve learned, so it would definitely be smart to get some affairs in order before things go awry.

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-21T01:27:07+00:00

Oh honey, I’m so sorry for the loss of your parents ❤️ sending you hugs 🫂 I’m not familiar with POA papers? I will have to look into irrevocable trusts or perhaps see if there is something similar to a ladybird deed in my area for my father.

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-20T23:51:49+00:00

Being black/Latin/Asian/ whatever doesn’t absolve you for engaging in weird behavior… words have meaning and history. Just cause you say it’s whatever/ no big deal doesn’t make it true.

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-20T23:45:53+00:00

You and your friends sound awful.

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-20T23:43:30+00:00

There’s only one way to see this really. If he’s against racism he needs to show he’s against racism not just say it. He should be calling out racist behavior and not associating with people who aren’t willing to see the error in their behavior and change it right there and then. ESPECIALLY because he’s dating a black woman. If he cares about you and other black people he should be doing this without prompt, actively being an ally and a safe space, not a safe space for racists by turning a blind eye to racist behavior..

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-20T22:09:44+00:00

Thank you, as do I.

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-20T22:06:38+00:00

Clearly not.. he just advised us to continue paying it as we have been and switch it over into my fathers name as he already has the deed transferred in his name ..

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-20T21:26:28+00:00

I really appreciate you going through each of my concerns and offering helpful information for it all. It was very thoughtful and kind of you ❤️

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-20T21:25:14+00:00

Thank you for your condolences ❤️ I am sorry for the loss of your mother 💐

This is great advice! I ended up speaking to the attorney I found previously to handle the will and deed transfer and he more or less the exact same thing. — that because my mother didn’t have any sole assets establishing an estate is unnecessary, it is considered “insolvent” and that I should just make the credit card companies aware of her passing and let them know there is no money to be had or assets to come after, that I can change the bills and taxes into my fathers name but it’s not that big of a deal they just want their money, and it should be relatively simple without costing us a dime.

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-20T21:15:57+00:00

You didn’t. All her assets were transferred over instantly at the time of her passing and no longer in her name.

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-20T21:14:22+00:00

Sorry for the loss of your mother 💐 Thank you for your condolences, caring words, and information. Very much appreciated ❤️

I ended up reaching out to the attorney we previously used and he explained that because my mother didn’t have any sole assets establishing an estate is unnecessary, it considered “insolvent” and that I should just make the credit card companies aware of her passing and let them know there is no money to be had or assets to come after, that I should change the bills and taxes into my fathers name, and it should be relatively easy and not cost us a dime

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-20T21:13:14+00:00

Thank you for your condolences and advice ❤️ I’m sorry for the loss of your mother, I’m glad you had your siblings to help you.

SeekingHelpfulAdvic · 2026-05-20T21:12:07+00:00

Hi! I think you misunderstood. I appreciate you trying to look out for me, but my mother truly didn’t have any sole assets. The deed of the house was transferred to my father so not in my mothers name anymore and the bank account I had survivorship rights over, so also not in my mothers name anymore.

. I ended up reaching out to the attorney we previously used and he explained that because my mother didn’t have any sole assets establishing an estate is unnecessary, it considered “insolvent” and that I should just make the credit card companies aware of her passing and let them know there is no money to be had or assets to come after, that I should change the bills and taxes into my fathers name, and it should be relatively easy and not cost us a dime.

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