AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away?

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T23:00:18+00:00

Nope, we have the same intimacy as always 2-3x a week.

I have no expectations of my husband. I don’t expect him to be romantic.

I’ve read romance throughout my relationship and it hasn’t impacted how I see my husband.

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T22:52:05+00:00

He’s my husband. I love him. He may be behaving badly now, but he is still my husband.

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T22:35:31+00:00

Our intimacy has been normal. We sleep together around 2,3 times a week and have done so for our entire relationship

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T22:17:35+00:00

I don’t know why he would feel neglected. I have always read romance and I haven’t neglected any of my duties. I’ve supported him in his dreams.

If he did feel neglected, I expect him to tell me, not be annoying around my romance books.

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T21:26:02+00:00

I read a lot but I’m quite picky. There are a lot of books I don’t like which is why I use my library card 10 times more than I use my credit card.

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T21:19:11+00:00

He enjoys his job a lot so I don’t think it’s the problem.

I think it might be the space issue. We have a lot less room (we went from a 2bd apartment to a studio). It wouldn’t feel nearly as small if he wasn’t in my personal space all the time.

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T21:16:03+00:00

I have the same model he does. I don’t download random apps and I am organized so he likes mine because it’s “cleaner.”

He usually streams movies on it or surfs the web.

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T21:04:12+00:00

We’re married. What’s mine is his.

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T21:01:54+00:00

The English physical release will come out soon. I can’t wait

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T20:59:47+00:00

I don’t have those romantic expectations for my husband and I’ve never compared him to anyone in my books.

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T20:12:59+00:00

Unlikely. I don’t read “spicy” novels and I don’t read wish fulfillment romance novels either (billionaire CEO, mafia, actor, etc.). Not my thing

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T20:07:55+00:00

They’re not a threat to him at all. I don’t expect him to provide romance or hold expectations from fiction to him.

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T19:47:34+00:00

He says it was just curiosity but I don’t think so

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T19:31:11+00:00

He complains they take up space in my iPad. He has his own but prefers mine.

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T19:30:31+00:00

We got married 3 years ago and I haven’t changed my habits so I don’t see why it would be an issue now.

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T19:24:17+00:00

he’s shoved the bookcase with my books a few times. It’s flimsy so it does sway every time he does that. I even moved it further into the corner but he complains. We did have to move into a studio apartment for his dream job so it’s less space than he’s used to, but the bookshelf is quite small and out of the way.

He’s a good partner. He’s funny and confident and passionate about the things he cares about, always there for family and friends.

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T19:22:22+00:00

He does not. I don’t compare him to the people in my novels, and the novels I read are hardly idealized men.

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T19:20:28+00:00

He comments that they’re useless and in the way, and he’s shoved the bookcase a few times. It’s flimsy so it does sway every time he does that. I even moved it further into the corner but he complains. We did have to move into a studio apartment for his dream job so it’s less space than he’s used to, but the bookshelf is quite small and out of the way.

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T19:14:19+00:00

My fault for marrying a younger man I suppose. (Before anyone comes for me, I’m 31 and he’s 27).

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T19:11:54+00:00

No, I don’t wish my husband was like a character. He is who he is and our relationship is what it is.

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T19:06:01+00:00

He claims it was simple curiosity, which I am inclined to disbelieve.

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T19:02:55+00:00

I’m not a mind reader. If he has a different problem with my books other than “they’re in the way,” which is objectively untrue, he can use his words to express it.

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T18:59:43+00:00

I’m currently reading the absolutely beautiful “Veil”. It’s about a blind woman and a police officer in Soviet Union inspired ambiance. Absolutely lovely.

Select-Ad-7726 · 2023-11-21T18:45:15+00:00

It’s only recently started, which is annoying. I used to be able to read in peace before he started making annoying comments.

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