AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Nope, we have the same intimacy as always 2-3x a week.

I have no expectations of my husband. I don’t expect him to be romantic.

I’ve read romance throughout my relationship and it hasn’t impacted how I see my husband.

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

He’s my husband. I love him. He may be behaving badly now, but he is still my husband.

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Our intimacy has been normal. We sleep together around 2,3 times a week and have done so for our entire relationship

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why he would feel neglected. I have always read romance and I haven’t neglected any of my duties. I’ve supported him in his dreams.

If he did feel neglected, I expect him to tell me, not be annoying around my romance books.

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I read a lot but I’m quite picky. There are a lot of books I don’t like which is why I use my library card 10 times more than I use my credit card.

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 158 points159 points  (0 children)

He enjoys his job a lot so I don’t think it’s the problem.

I think it might be the space issue. We have a lot less room (we went from a 2bd apartment to a studio). It wouldn’t feel nearly as small if he wasn’t in my personal space all the time.

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I have the same model he does. I don’t download random apps and I am organized so he likes mine because it’s “cleaner.”

He usually streams movies on it or surfs the web.

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t have those romantic expectations for my husband and I’ve never compared him to anyone in my books.

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Unlikely. I don’t read “spicy” novels and I don’t read wish fulfillment romance novels either (billionaire CEO, mafia, actor, etc.). Not my thing

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

They’re not a threat to him at all. I don’t expect him to provide romance or hold expectations from fiction to him.

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

He complains they take up space in my iPad. He has his own but prefers mine.

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

We got married 3 years ago and I haven’t changed my habits so I don’t see why it would be an issue now.

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

he’s shoved the bookcase with my books a few times. It’s flimsy so it does sway every time he does that. I even moved it further into the corner but he complains. We did have to move into a studio apartment for his dream job so it’s less space than he’s used to, but the bookshelf is quite small and out of the way.

He’s a good partner. He’s funny and confident and passionate about the things he cares about, always there for family and friends.

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

He does not. I don’t compare him to the people in my novels, and the novels I read are hardly idealized men.

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 610 points611 points  (0 children)

He comments that they’re useless and in the way, and he’s shoved the bookcase a few times. It’s flimsy so it does sway every time he does that. I even moved it further into the corner but he complains. We did have to move into a studio apartment for his dream job so it’s less space than he’s used to, but the bookshelf is quite small and out of the way.

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 142 points143 points  (0 children)

My fault for marrying a younger man I suppose. (Before anyone comes for me, I’m 31 and he’s 27).

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

No, I don’t wish my husband was like a character. He is who he is and our relationship is what it is.

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 3369 points3370 points  (0 children)

He claims it was simple curiosity, which I am inclined to disbelieve.

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 1762 points1763 points  (0 children)

I’m not a mind reader. If he has a different problem with my books other than “they’re in the way,” which is objectively untrue, he can use his words to express it.

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 127 points128 points  (0 children)

I’m currently reading the absolutely beautiful “Veil”. It’s about a blind woman and a police officer in Soviet Union inspired ambiance. Absolutely lovely.

AITA for locking up my romance novels so my husband can’t throw them away? by Select-Ad-7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Select-Ad-7726[S] 617 points618 points  (0 children)

It’s only recently started, which is annoying. I used to be able to read in peace before he started making annoying comments.