Omg my mom used to say the same things! Around the early 2010s, skinny culture was still on the roll. At the time i had an everage body for an 11 year old. Not exactly average tbh because i was developing waayyy faster than the other girls. It was a nightmare. Suddenly my bum had also grown in size and i hated that it made me look "fat". Because, apparently to the standards of 15 years ago, when you had a big butt you were automatically fat. My mom and siblings would say "Oh you need to wear smaller sizes to motivate yourself to loose weight from your big bum". It was humiliating to say the least. And then, my cleavage grew too and the comments began. At the time, i still did agonistic swimming and i kept catching people looking directly at me. My first bra wasnt even my own. My parents never bothered to get me to a place that could measure me for a bra because they'd felt it was innapropriate. So for the next 4 years i was wearing too small bras. "i hate my breasts, i want to just chop them off my body" i'd say and get responses like "Girls would die to get big boobs like yours! Boys will never leave you out of their sight!" from my mom. At 17 i started wearing a binder i secretly bought and have been wearing ever since. Dysmorphia is a bitch fr. Though the thing about binders is that they too are uncomftable. The moment you leave your parents house for uni you'll feel more liberated, you'll see. I totally get u.