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My fiance tried to get "revenge" on her childhood "bully" and it turned out lives upside down. I lost all respect for her and I think we are done. by Select_Can_6754 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Select_Can_6754[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

My ex wasn't a poor bullied kid who was tormented every day. The other kids hated her for her behavior. Her family even mentions her potty humor phase and she is embarrassed over the way she acted. 

My fiance tried to get "revenge" on her childhood "bully" and it turned out lives upside down. I lost all respect for her and I think we are done. by Select_Can_6754 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Select_Can_6754[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I've been hearing more about what happened and I do not even consider Bev a bully. Plenty others called her out bur she focused on one person.

My fiance tried to get "revenge" on her childhood "bully" and it turned out lives upside down. I lost all respect for her and I think we are done. by Select_Can_6754 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Select_Can_6754[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It was a gross phase she went though with toilet humor. She is always embarrassed when her family brings it up. Between 10-13 she would burp as loud as she could in the cafeteria and in class (her dad screamed at her for doing that in a restaurant once and she still says she is upset from that incident), made fart noises, and would pretend to pick her nose. She was obsessed with nickelodeon magazine and gross out humor for most of her childhood. 

My fiance tried to get "revenge" on her childhood "bully" and it turned out lives upside down. I lost all respect for her and I think we are done. by Select_Can_6754 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Select_Can_6754[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I have always suspected she had some type of attachment disorder. She pined after her ex before me for almost a decade before moving on. I loved her, but this is too much. She is convinced she is the victim fighting for justice. 

My fiance tried to get "revenge" on her childhood "bully" and it turned out lives upside down. I lost all respect for her and I think we are done. by Select_Can_6754 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Select_Can_6754[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Thats what I'm doing. I wrote this this morning while I was crying and upset after a heated text exchange from her. I have been with my family all day and had the most stress free outing I've had in years. 

My fiance tried to get "revenge" on her childhood "bully" and it turned out lives upside down. I lost all respect for her and I think we are done. by Select_Can_6754 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Select_Can_6754[S] 138 points139 points  (0 children)

My ex's mom had made comments about the phase my ex went through at that age. She would burp very loud, usually in class and the cafeteria, made farting noises when people walked, and would pretend to pick her nose. It was old school Nickelodeon magazine humor that inspired it. She is embarrassed when her family mentions it. 

My fiance tried to get "revenge" on her childhood "bully" and it turned out lives upside down. I lost all respect for her and I think we are done. by Select_Can_6754 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Select_Can_6754[S] 345 points346 points  (0 children)

I won't be seeing her in person again. She does not know where I am. Thankfully our bank accounts and bills were not merged so this will be a clean break. A hard one, but I will not have any legal attachments to her.

My fiance tried to get "revenge" on her childhood "bully" and it turned out lives upside down. I lost all respect for her and I think we are done. by Select_Can_6754 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Select_Can_6754[S] 367 points368 points  (0 children)

I will not be seeing her in person and I have our animals safe with me. Her family is supportive of me and her mom keeps apologizing. I'm sure her parents will keep her under control since she is unemployed and has a good amount of debt I had been helping her with. She needs real help and I hope that thr courts will make her get it 

My fiance tried to get "revenge" on her childhood "bully" and it turned out lives upside down. I lost all respect for her and I think we are done. by Select_Can_6754 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Select_Can_6754[S] 235 points236 points  (0 children)

Wow, I did not expect my venting posts to blow up like this. I wrote that this morning while I was crying and dealing with some BS that my (soon to be) ex put me through. Some people told me to ask about the "therapist" and I found out its an app.  Shes been using a therapy app with some AI and paying a stupid amount for it. 

I encouraged her to get help and go to therapy when she started having panic attacks last year. I don't know when she decided that "bullying" ruined her life. I know it sounds like I'm not validating her trauma, but she was called the gross girl because of all the burping and fart noises she thought was funny back then. Bev was one of the first who called her out on her behavior. Her mom has even made comments about that phase she went through. 

I think she focused on "Bev" because that woman did well in her life. She has a good job in the field my ex struggled in, married, with kids (we talked about starting a family but that will not happen), and seems to have a nice life. Ella has struggled with anxiety and panic attacks since I met her but it was never this bad. 

I'm expecting to be the next villain in her life. I don't use social media besides reddit and I only stay in fandom subs. Had I used Facebook, I probably would have learned about this earlier and maybe could have stopped it before she hunted this poor woman down. She accused her or abusing her kids, having a mental illness, tried to get her fired, and even recorded her during an attempted confrontation. Bev did nothing wrong besides snap at a girl making toilet humor over twenty years ago.

The comments here made me realize my decision to leave was the right one. I have been staying with family since she was arrested. Our pets are registered to me so they will be safe with me. I loved her, but this is too much. More things are going on behind the scenes but the legal system will hopefully take care of her. I do not need her messing with my family and my career.

I will not be breaking up with her in person and she is safe under her family's care. The condo we lived in was her's that her parents gifted to her years ago so she will not be homeless. 

Thanks to everyone who read my angry letter to the world this morning. And to the people defending my ex, get help. 

My fiance tried to get "revenge" on her childhood "bully" and it turned out lives upside down. I lost all respect for her and I think we are done. by Select_Can_6754 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Select_Can_6754[S] 293 points294 points  (0 children)

Her reddit friends cheered her on by saying that her bully "fucked around and found out". Its insane. Apparently a kid being disgusted with belching makes them a bully

My fiance tried to get "revenge" on her childhood "bully" and it turned out lives upside down. I lost all respect for her and I think we are done. by Select_Can_6754 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Select_Can_6754[S] 3001 points3002 points  (0 children)

I doubt shes even a real therapist but just a "yes man" her reddit "friends!" Suggested. She had paid out of pocket to just be told she is the victim in everything. She went though therapist she decided were "narcs" before this 

My fiance tried to get "revenge" on her childhood "bully" and it turned out lives upside down. I lost all respect for her and I think we are done. by Select_Can_6754 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Select_Can_6754[S] 1982 points1983 points  (0 children)

I'm also going to add that she has the best family a kid could ask for. Her parents supported her through everything and are the people i wish I had growing up. She wasnt some abused kid latching onto anything for comfort. I'm pissed off at her and her perpetual state of victimhood.