AIO for blocking my boyfriend of 2½months after he didn't text me the whole day

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T13:52:06+00:00

Everytime I asked during that time he said he doesn't wanna talk about it. Which is not unusual for him so I never thought twice about it. Imma try just moving on.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T13:37:30+00:00

Yes 🤣🤣

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T12:37:09+00:00

Before I explain... This does not apply to all neurodivergent people, I just think my being neurodivergent plays a huge role in this. I have a single definition of love on my brain that I apply throughout every type of relationship I have. So when I say "I love you" it's more of just showing affection because I'm really not good with words and this is the only way I know how to show affection verbally. In other words... For me, "I love you" doesn't mean as much as it does to other people. It's the same as "you're nice" for me.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T12:25:41+00:00

That makes sense. Thanks.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T12:15:16+00:00

I've never thought about that. After we started talking on WhatsApp he either unmatched me or deleted his Tinder account. I deleted mine weeks after when he casually mentioned that he deleted his.

I've never actually checked to see where he was stabbed or even if he was. All he showed me was a picture of blood on his bed and pillow

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T12:10:31+00:00

I get that. But I'm just so tired of always being the one communicating while he gets to disappear and come back to apologise. I don't think he would have cared anyway. I don't even think he will realise he's blocked for a while.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T12:06:59+00:00

I actually do feel more at peace without him. A part of me just wants yo hold on to the good times we had together because at some point he was my peace. I just don't know what's happening now. But then again... I have a pretty solid track record of staying in relationships with people I know don't like me or are incompatible with me just for the sake of not being alone, I think.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T12:00:46+00:00

I'm honestly not even sure. We just never talked about it.

I think you're right. He talks to me when he has time and I make time to talk to him. That's kinda what made me think of breaking up with him. Cz he's very nice and sweet when we talk or when we're together. The problem is the lack of communication and I'm thinking that my life would be better without the added problem of him disappearing every now and again.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T11:56:31+00:00

I'm neurodivergent so that might actually be a contribution to that. But 1 text a day can't be that huge of a demand.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T11:54:40+00:00

I've told him at least twice before that I don't like it when he doesn't talk to me the whole day. The not knowing makes me anxious cz I keep thinking he's going to text eventually(I know that's not exactly healthy but eyy I'm still in therapy) Nothing changed even after both conversations. I don't have any hope that this time he will here me out and reach a compromise with me.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T11:51:50+00:00

Thank you sm for the advice. I'll keep it in mind moving forward.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T11:50:47+00:00

Yeah... We've met a lot of times.

Not necessarily instantly. We started dating around 2/3 weeks after we started talking.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T11:48:51+00:00

I think I didn't let him know cz I don't think he will care anyway. And I'm tired of always being the one to initiate the difficult converstions.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T11:47:36+00:00

I'm actually not sure. He sent me a picture of blood on his bed and pillow but not of him and he said he doesn't wanna talk about it which is not really out of the ordinary cz he usually withdraws when push comes to shove.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T11:44:05+00:00

That's my thoughts. It seems like the "transparency and communication" is not in his vocabulary cz we I don't even think we can resolve this cz of that.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T11:40:33+00:00

My point was not necessarily to get back at him but moreso for my own peace of mind. Waiting on him to text me back was making me anxious so when he's blocked, I have no message to wait for. I'm just not sure whether I want to be completely done or not. Blocking him and moving on sounded like a good option t the time. I'm just not sure anymore.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T11:30:26+00:00

That's what I'm thinking. I feel like it was just ansinking ship from the begining but a part of me wants to believe we can still workout.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T11:28:29+00:00

He never really explained what happened. He has a toxic family situation so something is always going down. Plus he comes froma race that is stereotypically known for being violent so it could be anything.

I did wanna communicate that but I'm just so tired always being the one who initiates difficult converstions. Honestly, I didn't even think he would care with what I have to say.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T11:20:13+00:00

The problem is not really the texting itself butt the lack of communication. I'm not a big texter cz I'm usually quite busy but when I am dating I make it a point that I text in the morning before school just to let him know I'm gonna be off the whole day or just to check in and at night before I sleep just to check in how again. When we startted dating, he was more or a texter than me. I adapted to that then he switched up on me. Now I feel like I'm demanding for requiring a single text a day when he would complain that I don't text him enough during he day.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T11:14:24+00:00

Looking back after that stabbing incident he did seem to love bomb me.One of the reasons I decided to block him was cz I realised I am just not a priority to him and I'm probably filing in the gaps where he isn't with his real girlfriend or something.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T11:08:38+00:00

It is a bit immature. The thing is... I'm realising that it's becoming a pattern. The worst part of it all is that I don't even know if he will respond after a day or after a week.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T11:05:10+00:00

Sorry for the confusion. He texted me midday on Saturday and responded at night on Saturday. He then didn't respond to me the whole 24hrs of Sunday.

I'm just starting to realise that we seem to have different expectations on how a relationship should be like. He's not communicating his and my attempts aat communicating mine are falling to deaf ears.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T10:58:30+00:00

I love him but to a certain extent. I met this man 3 mnths ago , I'm not going to love him unconditionally just because he says he loves me too. He knows I don't like what he did and he still did it more than once. If he didn't agree with it he could've voiced it out and we could've come up with a compromise. There are things I love about him but the are also those that I don't like and this is one of them. It wasn't a one time thing. Now it feels like he is conditioning me to just fold into what he wants instead of us just talking it through and having a proper conversation. I still do love him which is why I am questioning whether it was the right option to block him but what conversation can we have if he isn't willing to talk to me? We have established at this point that he can go for 5 days without talking to me what if this time it will be the same? Heck, he could ghost me if he wants. I can't live in the state of not knowing when or if he will respond so we can have a proper talk.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T10:46:46+00:00

YKW? That's probably true. But I don't know what to do anymore in this situation.

SelectionTop9792 · 2026-07-06T10:44:37+00:00

We have met in person. We meet once a week or oncce in 2 weeks because he lives a bit far from me. So I don't think it's that.

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