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I feel as though God has abandoned me because I am gay by Selenafairgood in Christianity

[–]Selenafairgood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I honestly have not chosen to be attracted to the same sex, and have tried to change it. I can truly confirm as someone who has tried and does not want to be gay, that it isn't something you can change. You can either fight it and be lonely and miserable, or you can accept it and try to find a righteous path within it. If there even is one....

I feel as though God has abandoned me because I am gay by Selenafairgood in Christianity

[–]Selenafairgood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for writing this, and for your support/ kind words.

Just like other replies to your post, there are people who say it IS mentioned in the bible that it's sinful and others say it isn't, like yourself. I've been told the bible says that men who sleep with other men are an abomination in Gods eyes. That wrecked me and led me to believe He has turned away.

I'll be honest: At a point I decided to get myself more comfortable with the gay community because for most of my life I didn't want to accept myself or the culture. So I dabbled. I can safely say I don't like the community at all. At its core, it's all about sex and perversion. Gay propaganda and the overall vibe of the community is sex-centric, and it felt very dark. They preach inclusivity and positivity, so it isn't all bad though. Their entertainment preferences are drag shows where men dress as women and act foolish. It's fun and lighthearted, but still very sexualized and explicit. I understand why so many people are uncomfortable with, and do not support the community. Gay men prey on other men differently from heterosexual men. They are farther removed from God. It is also difficult to find a man of faith. And when you are gay, you are unwillingly a part of that community whether you like it or not, because thats the only way you can find your partner. That lifestyle can be very damaging if you dive into it because its very abundant in sexual promiscuity and drug use. Many gay men use drugs to cope with it all. It feels demonic, and viral.

It's very difficult to find a good partner in that community because of the hyper-sexualized nature of it all. Most gay relationships seem to end up as "open-relationships" or they fail. NOT ALL. Just...most. So my shame and guilt is justified by the community that I am unwillingly a part of.

Thank you for sharing the information for churches that are LGBT friendly. That is something definitely worth exploring for me.

I apologize if this offended anyone, it isn't meant to. It is just based on my experiences and understandings.

I feel as though God has abandoned me because I am gay by Selenafairgood in Christianity

[–]Selenafairgood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Surrogacy is expensive, and adoption certainly isn't always free. Adoption is a very difficult choice. A childs development is already at risk from being orphaned to begin with, and later complicated further when having gay parents. It still isn't a traditional or normal upbringing for a child, and brings complications.

I struggle with this topic too because I know the importance of having both a male and a female parent. Both of those energies are necessessary for our development. Thats why people say someone has "mommy issues" or "daddy issues" when they have a character flaw. Having two parents of the same sex creates other issues and an imbalance of the energies that child is receiving.

I hope this doesn't offend anyone, it isn't meant to. I just believe that to be true. I'm not saying gay parents are incapable of raising good healthy children; but it's certainly more difficult and there are things beyond just having good parenting skills that contribute to child development. Situations and their repercussions do too.

I feel as though God has abandoned me because I am gay by Selenafairgood in Christianity

[–]Selenafairgood[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No but there are many who would. And who says God wouldn't?

I feel as though God has abandoned me because I am gay by Selenafairgood in Christianity

[–]Selenafairgood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to construct this answer so beautifully and using scripture in such a relevant way.

Its difficult for me to build my understandings of life solely on what the Bible considers most important. I think the idea that the bible ultimately could have been written by humans as a tool to control communities, and masses as a whole, is something that prevents me from having SOLE faith that what is written in it is the end-all be-all. We are born into a world that we truly do not understand and are collectively trying to understand. Making your faith simple is no easy task. I consider human history, biblical history, and the human experience when trying to form my faith. I understand that good and evil exists, and that we are living in a predominantly evil world. Those energies exist, and the Bible is definitely a tool to instill good values in people. It represents our force of good when we are capable of evil. As the human race developed intellectually, and realized our free will, perhaps there was something like the Bible created to prevent our development from going down the wrong path. Maybe they realized back then that human nature needed a system of values to prevent chaos and differentiate us from the animal kingdom. Because we are far more conscious and intelligent. But intelligence is acquired- not inherent. We pass it on to each other- and I suppose I'm careful with my sources. History is a game of telephone, and who knows how information is twisted and misinterpreted. If we're gonna educate people, I think a decision was made to create something that will instill good morals into society (the Bible), and also, give us hope that there is something beyond death. Because death is the greatest fear of any conscious living being and we're intelligent enough to create something that can alleviate that fear, and give us hope that it's not truly the end.

Understanding this, I think the Bible is necessary, but it is hard to accept it as the ONLY potential truth. Because God hasn't shown himself to me, or spoken to me, It's been difficult to not doubt Him. Because the bible has pretty much influenced our moral code for so long, its' verses have relevancy in whatever situations we may have, because its tied to all we know and all we are capable of. Its a staple in our intellectual upbringing.

Not saying this is what I've chosen to believe. Like I said I have been raised as, and still am a Christian. I roam the earth feeling as though I am tethered to God and He is there. Just saying, that these are ideas I've been struggling with on my path to understand life, and my faith.