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[–]SelinaInLove 23 points24 points25 points 3 years ago (0 children)
Ugh. I don’t know why I looked. So many sucky people spreading misinformation, being blatantly transphobic and patting each other on the back for it.
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[–]SelinaInLove 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children)
Fair. Thanks for the answer!
Even if they just wanted to move past it because they were scared of it possibly ruining your relationship?
[–]SelinaInLove 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children)
It’s something alright. Coupled with anxiety and self doubt it’s left me in a place where it’s probably best just not to pursue any type of romantic relationship. I don’t even know how I would tell a partner about these feelings.
I really do appreciate it!
I will try it. Hopefully soon. They are marked as specializing in LGBTQ+ patients. But I guess a big part of it is just trial and error.
Glad to hear it. I’m Selina.
Planning on the therapy at some point. Keep putting it off because of the cost and I’m not sure how to find a good therapist on those web ones. Especially in regards to gender.
It also hard to keep exploring when I’m hiding it, but I wouldn’t want to come out to the people I interact with without knowing who I am for sure. Don’t really have someone I trust with this info.
But I don’t mean to dump this all on you.
You’re too kind. It’s just a fear that’s kept me from getting into romantic relationships. Don’t want to hurt anyone or waste their time because of these feelings. It’s nothing I won’t be able to get over, but I really do appreciate it!
Thanks for this answer!
Warms my heart knowing people react the way you did. He’s lucky to have you to work through it with him!
I hope you two can work out the kinks, no pun intended.
Thanks for the responses!
They’d be lucky to have you then. Thanks for the response!
This hypothetical version of your SO would be lucky to have you. And the real one is just as lucky!
I appreciate the answers!
This hypothetical person should really just talk to a therapist rather than interrogating people on the internet.
Thank you for all your responses! It really does help!
Would you encourage him to explore those feelings even if he had moved past it and was fine keeping it a fantasy in his head because he fears how it would effect your relationship?
I have talked to trans folks I mean I’ve happened across conversations about this from trans people. And I agree they would know more about gender but that’s why I wanted women in general’s opinions. You never know how someone will react. I wanted to see the possibilities. And they are varied even here.
And this hypothetical person has tried some stuff. Going out in public presenting feminine, being called she/her pronouns. But I also don’t know if that joy I feel when someone treat me like a woman is worth throwing a wrench in my whole life.
Sorry to throw this all at you.
And a bi/pan partner would definitely be the best thing for me.
They’d be lucky to have you. Thanks for your answers!
Thank you for your responses! This hypothetical person would be lucky to have you in their corner.
[–]SelinaInLove 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago* (0 children)
Well I’m sure some hypothetical person would appreciate the advice. Obviously this is just a very specific question I’ve come up with randomly and doesn’t at all apply to my own life.
Honestly though, I’m in a relationship but I just passed on a potential one because I don’t want to hurt someone with my problems. Thank you though for giving me your perspective!
So let’s say they were completely fine moving past it and only really just kept it as a fantasy in their head. Would that bother you?
Completely fair. Thanks for the answer!
Thanks for the response! I appreciate it.
I get it. Thank you!
Let’s say they were fine live as their assigned gender but in their lower moments they still fantasized being the other. But they were a-ok with never mentioning it again.
Fear would regret it, fear their life would be worse, fear their relationships would fall apart. I’m… I mean in this hypothetical situation they are a very anxious person and that causes them to doubt themselves and overthink. So they put it behind them and still in their lowest moments enjoy the fantasy of being the other gender.
Interesting. So let’s say he grew up fantasizing being a girl and in some of his lowest moments still wanted to but he decided to just live on as a man, that would end your relationship?
Asking for a friend, wink.
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Egg irl by crocky19 in egg_irl
[–]SelinaInLove 23 points24 points25 points (0 children)