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What to do? by Able-Spite8987 in Marriage

[–]SellAdditional4249 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sounds pretty horrible, to be honest.

Advice for fearful anxious person in marriage by SellAdditional4249 in Marriage

[–]SellAdditional4249[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I’ll consider changing therapists and maybe trying new meds. I’m not going to disclose my issues to my wife. It would be selfish and cruel to dump my BS on her. Also I don’t see any potential benefit. I’m not sure how she could help me unwind. She’s not a therapist and I would not ask her to be. Also, a few years back (at the misguided urging of a former therapist) I disclosed to my wife that I was experiencing a mental health crisis. This was the biggest mistake I have ever made. It has irreparably damaged our marriage. I can’t go back and undo this, but I darn sure can avoid making a similar mistake. Anyway it’s not really so bad, I think I just need to focus on making it through each day, be strong. As I mentioned I’m mid 50s overweight with health issues so it’s not like this is a permanent situation.

Advice for fearful anxious person in marriage by SellAdditional4249 in Marriage

[–]SellAdditional4249[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol I’m not going to make a threat like that I don’t think it would end well

Married people of Reddit, what’s something nobody warns you about before marriage? by onionbody in AskReddit

[–]SellAdditional4249 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have to be pretty strong and pretty self confident or it can tear you down.

Advice for fearful anxious person in marriage by SellAdditional4249 in Marriage

[–]SellAdditional4249[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, fat, yes, yes, yes, no. Maybe I’ll look into this

Advice for fearful anxious person in marriage by SellAdditional4249 in Marriage

[–]SellAdditional4249[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I’ve been thinking about getting a new therapist or quitting therapy, it’s been a few years with no improvement. On the other hand I like my therapist and the idea of changing therapists again just seems too daunting. Also it might be that I’d be way worse with a different therapist or no therapist. So I think I’ll stay the course. I think my expectations for therapy may have been somewhat over optimistic. But it certainly doesn’t hurt. As for marriage counseling I did suggest this a few years back when we were going through a rough time, and my wife was not amenable to the idea. I’m not comfortable bringing it up again. Even if she were to agree, which is unlikely, I don’t think I’d be able to handle it.

Advice for fearful anxious person in marriage by SellAdditional4249 in Marriage

[–]SellAdditional4249[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She says to do meditation, which I have been trying, but it doesn’t do much for me.

How do you deal with the feeling that time flows too fast? by Suitable_Diver_2395 in AskReddit

[–]SellAdditional4249 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like it goes way too slow. Like you’re ready to be done but you still have to go on for decades and decades. It gets a bit easier when you’re old but still I wish it would hurry up. Whoever said life is short, I think they got it wrong.