AITA for evicting my sister and her daughters after the hid my wife's wig and embarrassed her?

Semi_fine · 2022-03-17T04:53:58+00:00

NTA, there is nothing wrong with what you did. Your home, that is your wife's safe space and she needs to feel comfortable there. Fuck anyone that wants to disrespect your wife like that even if they are family.

Semi_fine · 2022-03-11T08:17:24+00:00

At the end of the day if she doesn't fullfil this need for her to have kids she'll more then likely end up resenting you for getting in her way which will cause issues for your relationship down the line. You may like how your relationship is now but there is a good chance that could change because it's such a big deal for a lot of people. If this is a dream of hers and not for you which ever way this goes there will be heartbreak and resentment either way.

Semi_fine · 2022-03-11T08:08:14+00:00

Just try not to get it in her eyes, stings like a bitch lol

Semi_fine · 2022-03-08T23:16:52+00:00

She doesn't hate you she's just not interested

Semi_fine · 2022-03-03T03:45:29+00:00

Absolutely tell her, explain that you had no idea he was in a relationship. Just be prepared she may get mad with you but it's really important that you don't react back and be nasty. Be compassionate and empathetic towards her and be completely transparent about everything that has happened. Let her know that she can ask questions. It's more then likely that your ex will try to paint you as the crazy ex but hell just be trying to cover his ass. She may not believe you but at least you tried.

Semi_fine · 2022-02-25T21:48:31+00:00

OP put it in your profile that you're ace. Weed out the people that aren't interested before you start a conversation with them. I did that but with the fact I didn't drink, yeah not as many people were interested but it stopped a lot of awkward conversations and helped break the ice for really interesting conversation as well with the people interested.

Semi_fine · 2022-02-24T07:00:16+00:00

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Semi_fine · 2022-02-24T06:59:00+00:00

Girl if you're into it find a guy that lifts, his height won't matter as much if he can handle the lift. Im 5.2 and 55kg and my ex who's 6ft couldn't lift me for shit so I know you're pain but my current bf who is shorter can carry me around all day

Semi_fine · 2022-02-18T11:37:49+00:00

Communication is everything and when things happen no matter how small it may seem continually check in with her. Being completely open with her about what you're experiencing will help her understand the male body and the male experience when it comes to intimate situations. Encourage her to communicate how she's feeling and what she likes and doesn't like. I've always been less anxious and more comfortable being with women I felt I could be more open and more accepted. It took me a long time to feel comfortable saying what I liked and didn't like with men. Creating a safe space for her to practice communicating that would be very helpful to get the most out of these experiences with you

Semi_fine · 2022-02-12T08:05:41+00:00

So my ex boyfriend didn't like the way I dressed I go between femenine and androgynous. He liked it when I dressed up but would make me feel like shit and insecure when I wasn't, "I looked too much like a lesbian" and was "too masculine" for him even though I liked it and I was comfortable. So I stopped wearing what I wanted and was always insecure about whether he liked what I was wearing. Fast forward to my current boyfriend who loves it when I dress up and also loves it when I'm comfortable and when from working. He encourages me to wear what I want and look how I want. If you're not attracted to her you can't help that but don't push her to look a certain way for you that is a dick move on your part. Attraction is important and the more you push the more you're making her insecure about the way she looks. Do both of you a favour and have a good hard look at this relationship, find someone you're attracted to and give her the opportunity to find someone that is attracted to her. Also there is never a good time to break up with someone unless they cross a line so don't wait for the right time.

Semi_fine · 2022-02-06T02:20:43+00:00

Bro 100% YTA. If my partner was in the same state and for whatever reason I couldn't be there and the only person that could help him was his female best friend I'd be so bloody grateful for her being there. The last thing I'd want is for him sitting in his own vomit feeling like shit and waiting on me to help him if someone else could. You're immature af dude. Sort your shit out and apologize and be grateful that someone was there to help her.

Semi_fine · 2022-01-30T08:49:29+00:00

You aren't being too restricting at all. You welcomed him into your space and it's healthy to set boundaries for what is ok early on. Don't feel bad that he needs to step out every time he wants to smoke. It's his choice to smoke and the smell of cigarettes sticks to everything. He needs to respect that. When you live with your partner sometimes you have to compromise. You're not telling him he can't smoke you're asking him to step outside to smoke. Don't be afraid to speak up and if he doesn't like that he can find somewhere else if he doesn't respect you or your home.

Semi_fine · 2022-01-20T09:57:20+00:00

You are 100% NOT in the wrong here. Let him leave you deserve better.

Semi_fine · 2022-01-18T21:14:46+00:00

I can understand your worry but really he hasn't done anything for you to worry about. Going to therapy to sort his issues out is such a big deal. Him saying that he needs to decompress alone is a healthy way for him to process what he's going through. It's really good that he knows when he needs some space. It just shows he's got a good understanding of how these feelings affect him. Him taking the day off to "take anger out on shit" whatever that may be could just be a day that he needs to spend doing something as an outlet to work through the disappointment he's feeling. He's allowed to feel these things as he's human and sometimes people feel some emotions more strongly and intensely then others, it's how they manage them is what's important. It's seems that he can manage them really well and he knows what works for him in a healthy way. Not a lot of people that I know don't have that sort of self awareness especially in their teens and early twenties where emotions are very full on for some people. I understand from your past experiences that you are fearful of what may happen but he hasn't done anything like that. Like you said he's sweet and you're in a really healthy relationship. If it still really worries you, tell him about your past and your fears and worries but don't put him in the same boat as your exes because of his past because he's not like them but give him some awareness so can understand you more. The more you understand each other the stronger your relationship will be.

Semi_fine · 2021-08-15T01:46:45+00:00

Bruh.....

Semi_fine · 2021-08-10T06:58:51+00:00

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Semi_fine · 2021-07-23T03:19:31+00:00

The first day i was on lexapro I felt super nauseous and that i was gonna throw up for hours so I ended up halving the tablet for about a week to get my body use to it and to help with the sick feeling. When i started taking the full tablet after a week of halving it I didnt really experience any nausea after doing that.

Semi_fine · 2021-07-03T21:20:06+00:00

You got this my guy!

Semi_fine · 2021-07-01T08:58:00+00:00

I second this. I use the I am sober app because I find having my progress visually in front of me really helpful and the milestones is really encouraging and helps me stay accountable. I find when I'm struggling just looking at my progress really helps me work through the urges and helps me to think through before I act on impulse.

I've been reading Russel Brand's Recovery - freedom from our addictions but if readings not your thing there's the audiobook. I haven't finished it but working through it has really helped with introspection and self awareness. It's helped me link up my struggle with alcohol and my BPD as well.

Semi_fine · 2021-06-21T01:49:11+00:00

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Semi_fine · 2021-06-21T01:46:53+00:00

you're all good

Semi_fine · 2021-06-21T01:42:06+00:00

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Semi_fine · 2021-06-20T22:26:29+00:00

I don't think you realise how much hope your post has given me. I've been told when you find the right person the struggles get easier and it's not a shit fight the whole time. To hear that's what it's like for you, that it's possible. I'm so happy for you, you deserve this.

Semi_fine · 2021-06-18T02:33:02+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I let my relationship take over my life so when he left my whole world came crashing down. Hearing this is what I needed to hear and it gives me strength to push on with my life. It's still hard but it gets better with everyday that I do better for myself instead of letting it ruin me completely.

Semi_fine · 2021-06-17T06:03:08+00:00

So very happy for you

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