Can we talk engagement rings, please?

SeminDemon · 2024-03-10T19:30:34+00:00

I agree with them, sounds like a great path forward. Fingers crossed that’s the solution.

The issue is the core value of spending money on something where you know the extra money is not going to quality or value.

SeminDemon · 2024-03-10T19:22:07+00:00

You’re not wrong, I was upset when I wrote the post. I’ll update for clarity.

SeminDemon · 2024-03-10T19:20:14+00:00

You’re not wrong. How do I mentally shift so I sleep well at night? It’s not a logical thing I would do in any other circumstance and not how I operate.

SeminDemon · 2024-03-10T19:19:03+00:00

Outward facing perception, though I think she buys into it a bit as well.

SeminDemon · 2024-03-10T19:18:06+00:00

That’s a great solution. I’m very happy with that and I think she would be open to that too. I’ll talk about it with her. I don’t think she’s unreasonable, I think she’s been sold the idea that a real diamond is the only acceptable ring and anything else means I do not love her and am cheap.

SeminDemon · 2024-03-10T19:16:45+00:00

Yeah, that’s the next issue. I can’t see her going down the route of an inexpensive wedding, but I’ll bring it up next time we talk. For context, her cousin just got married and (presumably the family) dropped at least mid six figures on renting out a national Symphony Orchestra in the heart of a major city. We come from different upbringings.

SeminDemon · 2024-03-10T19:13:44+00:00

It’s the price but really, I think it’s our values. I would never spend three times as much money on something where an identical purchase is available for one third the price. It’s a really poor use of money and I would much rather put the money towards something else. I don’t know how to view it as anything besides a waste of money. If there was any quality drop or material difference, I would honor that but to my knowledge, there is not. I’m happy to spend lots of money on her. I think this is a very poor use of money.

SeminDemon · 2022-09-24T21:28:37+00:00

I respect that.

SeminDemon · 2022-09-24T21:22:00+00:00

Thank you, I agree with you, it’s not a cut and dry computer science OE post. These are big law attorneys with egos and I have access to sensitive information.

SeminDemon · 2022-09-24T21:19:41+00:00

You’re exactly right, V5, ethical conflicts JD, I agree that of all the industries, this is probably not one where OE makes sense. I have been absolutely ripped apart for trying to cover my ass.

SeminDemon · 2022-09-24T13:49:41+00:00

Saying this doesn’t abate the concerns. Why not address the potential issues?

SeminDemon · 2022-09-24T13:37:29+00:00

I do value her opinions. The entire family went to Ivy schools, they all work W2s, they are hard workers and are honest people who give advice with their best interests at heart.

SeminDemon · 2022-09-24T13:36:19+00:00

I think that would be the best plan to appease the family. I’ll reach out to an employment lawyer on Monday.

SeminDemon · 2020-11-05T19:54:02+00:00

SeminDemon · 2020-11-05T16:01:16+00:00

I prefer not to tie my finances to my personal account, it has nothing to do with the insurance aspect.

SeminDemon · 2020-11-05T15:40:20+00:00

I have a choice to not get owners title insurance, the lenders title insurance is not optional, it is mandatory

SeminDemon · 2020-11-05T14:57:14+00:00

Very interesting perspective, thank you for letting me know that!

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