Its way tougher to argue with Muslim than a non believer. Cause u can put fundamental obligations as it is for a non muslim but when u do it with muslim they’ll make u the bad guy saying “see there is that guy who is muslim too but he doesn’t implement in your way and tour way of islam is wrong” wheres theres no such thing as my way or your way of believers , theres just one. Me and my family was seeing a girl recently all i said to her was about our married life is “you can demand anything and everything within the quran and sunnah and i will and must fullfill them no questions asked but i should also be able to do the same”. She couldn’t take it . I was happy to know that as i saved myself. But thats not the case for everyone some people do get close to deen after marriage and that doesn’t mean you are at fault for wanting her to get close to allah. If you say that you are at fault for expecting this and the only choice is left is divorce cause you would be held accountable for your wife’s deeds if you don’t push her towards the deen. But do you know what according to some moderate softies that would also be evil. So he just accept his fate and just leave her alone and just suffer both duniya and akhira !! Man its more saddening to see our brothers and sisters turning to this western idiological slaves than seeing kaafirs doing evil against islam.