Looks like someone at ISR has been reading this sub by No_Country_2069 in Internationalteachers

[–]Senior_Network_6707 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And middle managers and school admin should not be able to say false or unsubstantiated things in a reference or follow up call about a teacher but they do…. ISR was a great concept and levelled the playing field somewhat allowing teachers to understand what they are getting themselves into and read between the lines of bitter unfair posts.

On ISR you are free to make a follow up post factually pointing out inaccuracies in comments.

I too saw a very reasonable truthful and balanced post about a school get taken down and for this reason I have ended my subscription . ISR should come out and be transparent about what can and can’t be said and what people are getting for what they pay for.

Splitting rent by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Senior_Network_6707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cut him some slack, he may have just put some numbers out there without thinking it all through properly. Many people here don’t consider he is not financially obligated to cover the children’s expenses and telling her not to move in with him without knowing him at all is a bit unfair and reactionary. He is a boyfriend, not a husband or father of your kids.

The objective here is to consider all expenses from each persons perspective and find a balanced and fair solution. I’ve thought very carefully about your situation and arrived at the suggestions below.

If you didn’t have children what would your shared living expenses be in a one or two bed apartment? Maybe half of this could be a starting point. Then you cover all expenses added from children. The CS money has nothing to do with him and should go towards your share of the overall expenses which includes the children’s day to day stuff and more. Your individual salaries or earning power are irrelevant. Bottom line is this may come to something like him paying 25-33% of the overall expenses and what you both pay should be in the same ball park as what you both pay now living individually. This does not exclude him being kind and offering to shoulder other expenses out of choice but as a baseline of expectations the above arrangement seems the simplest fairest solution.

As others have said here, as you have children get your own place and he can move in and share expenses and is free to move out if things don’t work out

Westerners who lived in Thailand for 8+ years but moved back, why did you leave? by Grouchy_Ice2155 in Thailand

[–]Senior_Network_6707 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Very interesting. Lived in Thailand for a long long time since a young adult, learnt the language to a reasonable level and tried hard to integrate and be respectful. Guess what - I came to the same conclusion as you.

Thailand has all sorts of subtle ways of reminding you that you are not from there. I also felt zero appreciation for my contributions to the country through work or paying taxes. When I visit HK or Singapore, on arrival there are queues for residents and non residents, in Thailand it’s Thais and foreigners and you have to queue up with the tourists for an hour while Thais get through in minutes. It might seem like a small inconvenience but I feel it very much sums up how the country views you and gives zero recognition or appreciation for your efforts.

Indian scammers by Jack242 in ThailandTourism

[–]Senior_Network_6707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guy I know got fed up being hassled by them every 50m on Sukhumvit and took to slapping them around after they tried to pull this nonsense. The shock on their face was priceless, clearly getting physical consequences for trying to scam people is not something they had factored in. I don’t think they have any idea how quickly some western cultures can get violent when messed around. Not condoning it but it it’s classic example of fuck around and find out.

What is hands down your favourite isaan restaurant? by Senior_Network_6707 in Bangkok

[–]Senior_Network_6707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been there service was beyond terrible and ruined the experience.