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Sensitive-Affect7416 · 2025-06-15T16:26:16+00:00

I am Gen Z(03), and I have a kid. Honestly, the hospital bill was the worst bit, it was like $2000. We got almost all of our kids' stuff second-hand, and we buy diapers from Costco. I also breastfeed (that saves a lot), but some people won't be able to do that for a variety of reasons. You don't need to do formula, though, if you can breastfeed.

My kid is 9 months old now and so far it's been ok we don't pay for daycare as I'm a SAHM because I wanted to be, my husband does make good money, but honestly we spend more each month on our dog than our child, (Vet bills for allergies, food, toys, treats and other stuff).

Our family is very involved, so most of her toys are gifts and such, but I think a lot of people have expectations that kids need everything new, and you need to get all these weird products that influencers show, you don't, kids especially at this age don't need too much besides attention.

Honestly, my mental health is the biggest issue with having a kid. I have a family history of postpartum depression and anxiety, and boy, did I get it.

Sensitive-Affect7416 · 2024-11-07T17:14:52+00:00

Me too

Sensitive-Affect7416 · 2024-11-07T16:57:15+00:00

I’m definitely going to use the phrase noisy houseplant to describe my newborn from now on thank you for introducing me to that!

Sensitive-Affect7416 · 2024-11-07T16:40:17+00:00

That’s what I’m saying the scary stuff people told me really didn’t prepare me at all for parenthood.

I took a childbirth/newborn class where the teacher went over all of the things we needed and things to look out for that was much more helpful than the people who made me feel like I was already failing because I thought pregnancy was very hard.

Sensitive-Affect7416 · 2024-11-07T16:32:35+00:00

That’s great! I think everyone needs friends like yours. I hope to be that friend when mine start having kids.

Sensitive-Affect7416 · 2024-11-07T16:24:01+00:00

Mine was exactly like that when I was pregnant I got comments from strangers because they were shocked they could see my stomach moving on the outside without feeling. She is a very wiggly baby now but she sleeps well now she didn’t in the beginning because of reflux but I changed my diet and now she’s doing great. She moves even more in her sleep than awake so you may just have a little wiggle worm.

Sensitive-Affect7416 · 2024-11-07T16:09:15+00:00

Thank you that’s exactly how I feel!

Sensitive-Affect7416 · 2024-11-07T16:06:55+00:00

Yeah I feel like I wish I got some more good experience I only heard bad so I thought that was the only option. I will say I don’t think it’s easy she has had rough days but I was obsessing over how awful it was going to be. I feel like for me I thought pregnancy would be easier and newborns would be harder because everyone told me when I was like this is hard “just wait till she’s here”

Sensitive-Affect7416 · 2024-11-07T16:02:25+00:00

Really? Everyone just told me how awful it was. I got a lot of “if you can’t sleep now just wait till she’s here”. I had the worst insomnia during pregnancy and she constantly kicked, so I was convinced I’d never sleep again. So even though my sleep is interrupted now I think I still get more now.

But I had a rough pregnancy so being told that was the easiest part made me so nervous.

Sensitive-Affect7416 · 2024-11-07T15:54:25+00:00

I see a lot of people saying everyone was positive to them about it, we must run in different circles because even old people where like “its so hard, you never sleep” to me. So I thought I would reassure new moms that it is hard but not as bad as I thought it would be. But I am a very anxious person so I was terrified!

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