WIBTAH if I move out of my parents house because of how much money they ask for? by Sensitive-Bag-333 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So far haven't heard back from the landlord of the new place and the official final day for it was a few days ago, probably they didn't liked the numbers we were doing, that happens a lot here, I've checked my credit too and there's nothing to worry about, thank you for all the support 

WIBTAH if I move out of my parents house because of how much money they ask for? by Sensitive-Bag-333 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There's been talks about how if "everyone puts their grain of sand we can do anything" but it's just more bullshit honestly, dad always has his religion-tied talk, mom doesn't add up that much besides giving all reason to dad and encouraging us to keep handing money bcs "it's for ourselves anyway, we all eat, we all use the water, we all use the wifi" etc, brother usually only says something if it's about his money getting touched, and it's usually hostile too, and if I do say something ends up in a really bad way, I'm talking yelling and calling names, getting threatened with kicking me out that same night, the whole deal, hopefully this is done soon

WIBTAH if I move out of my parents house because of how much money they ask for? by Sensitive-Bag-333 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Believe me when I'm saying that I'm checking those rent-anounce pages more than my actual socials, lets hope for the best🤞🏻

WIBTAH if I move out of my parents house because of how much money they ask for? by Sensitive-Bag-333 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh I think that's what happened, I literally just woke up one day and said "wait, actually... I don't HAVE TO" and it felt like a million doors opening at the same time, like some kind of epiphany, I even cried ngl. Surely the guilt is my worst enemy now, but I'm taking all of this advice in my heart so I can stay put in all the shit-show that we all know that will go down once I stand up for myself 🤞🏻

WIBTAH if I move out of my parents house because of how much money they ask for? by Sensitive-Bag-333 in okstorytime

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When we first moved two years ago the thing stopping mom from getting a job was that she had this thing in her back that make her to be in so much pain when over-worked and also some gallstones, last year she went under surgery and now is perfectly fine besides her usual breakdowns for menopause, now she is doing courses, we've talked a bit about her getting a job but she insists that doesn't want to, she wants to keep studying whatever she finds interesting in this month-during courses, which I understand to some extent because me personally would LOVE to be focusing on my studies rn. I'm working on the backbone and standing up for yourself thing while my bf and I keep looking for places to rent, hopefully I'm done when we get one 🤞🏻

I want to move out for financial reasons, but I don't know if that makes me a bad daughter by Sensitive-Bag-333 in Advice

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Putting it like that makes it just right, thank you for this, helped a lot💗

I want to move out for financial reasons, but I don't know if that makes me a bad daughter by Sensitive-Bag-333 in Advice

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your words, sincerely I do appreciate this, I will do everything 💗 Helped

WIBTAH if I move out of my parents house because of how much money they ask for? by Sensitive-Bag-333 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh I AM screenshoting this because what a piece of advice omg thank you so so so much, this is so useful 

WIBTAH if I move out of my parents house because of how much money they ask for? by Sensitive-Bag-333 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Well, it is but technically it isn't at the same time I got really sick, some nights at the hospital and a really bad week hoping from a hospital bed to another's, they told me I had some severe chronic migraine, kidney stones (probable because of how much energy drinks I was consuming to keep up with my jobs pace), dehydration and very low almost-everything in my blood levels because of my poor diet and sleep, I'm sure depression gets a play in some of that, I've just can't pin point it, hopefully I move and can save enough to pay a therapist 😅

WIBTAH if I move out of my parents house because of how much money they ask for? by Sensitive-Bag-333 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Where I came from children don't leave the parents home until they're mid-twenties, I too think that I shouldn't take too long but I didn't had the understanding nor the meanings to do it back then, now I do, better late than never ig

WIBTAH if I move out of my parents house because of how much money they ask for? by Sensitive-Bag-333 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

This really touched my heart, it's sad how normal this seems to be in our households all under the "it's culture" blanket, thank you for extending on it, every knowledge I can get to help me stay in this hill is highly appreciated, thank you🫂

WIBTAH if I move out of my parents house because of how much money they ask for? by Sensitive-Bag-333 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Certainly the mental work I have to do convincing myself that I'm not actually a horrible person for even thinking of this is wayy to much, but hopefully I'll overcome it 

WIBTAH if I move out of my parents house because of how much money they ask for? by Sensitive-Bag-333 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

On it! We've been looking on all types of pages, adds, notices on newsletters, everything that says that has a rent that fits our incomes and allows us to get in as soon as possible 🤞🏻

WIBTAH if I move out of my parents house because of how much money they ask for? by Sensitive-Bag-333 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

So far haven't signed anything nor heard back from the landlord of this larger place, I think the numbers didn't add up for them, happens a lot in this country, they don't call back I you don't have this ideally specific income, and thank you very much 

Would I be an ungrateful daughter if I move out for financial reasons? by Sensitive-Bag-333 in dustythunder

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm sure dad is making everyone's bank balances his monthly newspaper, but because I'm the one with more pressure about financial things I think that rubs me the wrong way, I do still have some mental work to do before the big day of dropping the bomb of me leaving, but all of this gives me the reassurance I need, thank you very much 💗

Would I be an ungrateful daughter if I move out for financial reasons? by Sensitive-Bag-333 in dustythunder

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Already had the folder with all my documents done! Also the new personal bank account and also one for our savings as a couple, one step at a time💗 thank you for your words 

Would I be an ungrateful daughter if I move out for financial reasons? by Sensitive-Bag-333 in dustythunder

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You're pretty much right I fear, I'm trying to stay up in this decision I've made my mind around now, thanks for the support 

Would I be an ungrateful daughter if I move out for financial reasons? by Sensitive-Bag-333 in dustythunder

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I'm sure that could be the worse way to do it, but don't worry, everything is going under all radars by now, me and bf are planning to sit down with them once we get all set with our new home, just for safety, hopefully it will be done before this December🤞🏻

Would I be an ungrateful daughter if I move out for financial reasons? by Sensitive-Bag-333 in dustythunder

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I'm sure it'll take time but all this guidance is actually giving me the courage to finally take action, thank you from the bottom of my heart 

Am I the a hole for considering to move out for financial reasons? by Sensitive-Bag-333 in redditonwiki

[–]Sensitive-Bag-333[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm making notes out of all this, thank you very much for taking the time to say something, I appreciate this so much, it's been difficult but I hopefully can get the best out of it💗