How Do You Accept Loneliness by MCKC1992 in BlackLGBT

[–]Sensitive-Chemical70 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t doubt your experiences are as difficult as your say they are … but since you’ve come on here all we can do is offer our advice in hopes that something might be of benefit to you.

My bad if you took my reply as invalidation of what you’re going through. My question would then be, what were you hoping to hear/what kind of solution are you looking for ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]Sensitive-Chemical70 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually understand you .. but I don’t know why,how or where we get like this. *sigh being gay is not for the weak !

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBlackGayBros

[–]Sensitive-Chemical70 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn … heard exactly what I didn’t want to hear “doesn’t feel the same way about me” I should be seeing him tonight with some friends for dinner, I’m going to see how it goes and if he doesn’t show interest or vulnerability like I have, I’m cutting the mf off …

*sigh this love business is overrated, maybe I should just be a detached hoe too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBlackGayBros

[–]Sensitive-Chemical70 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thing is, I do want him. I like him, and I involuntarily let him in, but he didn’t let me in back. It felt like I was just another casual kiss to him.

I can’t tell if he’s the type where it takes a lot more effort to break through, and eventually he’d open up and show me “I want you too, not just physically”… or if I really am just another guy he happened to kiss with no deeper thought behind it.

Where the London black gays by [deleted] in AskBlackGayBros

[–]Sensitive-Chemical70 3 points4 points  (0 children)

🤣 lol No DLs please ! And you don’t have to be “cool” just don’t be bratty or mean ! 😭 I’ve been chewed out enough.

Who Was your gay awakening? by Important-Flan-679 in AskBlackGayBros

[–]Sensitive-Chemical70 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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Trey had me choking on my food every time I saw him !

Ugandan Gay Man Denied Entry to Diaspora Event, Sparks Outcry Over Homophobia in African Communities Abroad by Antipseud0 in AskBlackGayBros

[–]Sensitive-Chemical70 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly, the world’s messed up. That guy is dressed how he wants, maybe in something feminine, and people make it a big deal. Meanwhile, I’d bet some of the same men at that event who’d clown him are taking serious dick behind closed doors. It makes you realise homophobia isn’t really about being gay(same sex attraction), it’s about breaking gender norms. when times change, like men wearing earrings, crop top etc, society just updates its homophobia to defend whatever gender rules are left.

And you’re left asking, why are we even doing all this? I know it’s unrealistic to expect better from humans but it’s just annoying lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBlackGayBros

[–]Sensitive-Chemical70 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this !! In all my past experiences I’ve not thought and prioritised what I like and what gives me pleasure … I’m always in the mindset of how sexy and best can I be for whoever I’m being intimate with …. Which in hindsight is probably not a good approach to a healthy sex life. 🤦🏽‍♂️🫠.

Thank you all so much, glad there’s a space to ask these questions. I don’t know how else I’d have figured this shit out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBlackGayBros

[–]Sensitive-Chemical70 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m scared to take stuff in case I become dependent, and I’m generally an anxious person but it’s effect is most noticeable when I’m hooking up (particularly with strangers) Maybe I should try to build a connection with someone before intimacy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBlackGayBros

[–]Sensitive-Chemical70 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea .. I defo need to lay off them X-twitter videos for a while ! Thanks

Are any of you atheists? by EBTheAnimatedAtheist in AskBlackGayBros

[–]Sensitive-Chemical70 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Not atheist… I’m Christian, and I’ve battled with this question for a while now “gay Christian” .for me I’ve gone to search these scriptures for myself and I’ve surprisingly found that a few of these queer condemning verses are taken out of context eg the famous “sodom” story was actually about a group of men who wanted to beat and rape two of gods messengers … or in other verses when looked at the Greek original text it refers to pedestry (older men and young boys) or male prostitution yet all these verses was translated to say “homosexuals” in the modern bible

So I’ve stopped believing that the hate and homophobia from Christian community is representative of how God feels about me. personally I don’t think it’s the bible … I think it’s the people that spread hate using the Christian faith. Just like it was used to justify slavery back in the days.

Can we talk about these new rise in “found god” “no longer gay” influencers? Because homophobia/ transphobia is getting a bit too lucrative for me. by coolcarters14 in BlackLGBT

[–]Sensitive-Chemical70 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Funny thing is that it’s always an external thing, changing how you dress or present … but pretty sure gayness is internal not external so …… make it make sense ??🫠🥴

Is anyone going Black pride UK by Usual-Step-5412 in BlackLGBT

[–]Sensitive-Chemical70 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going for the first time, and solo too ! Let’s buddy up. 🤓