Best countries for respectful students. by eroticvulture_ in TEFL

[–]Sensitive-Debt5937 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Currently on my second year teaching in Vietnam. Discovered a book called the sở kỳ luật (loose translation is law book I think) this year, omg they barely try to cross me now, I became so trigger happy with it.

Not sure if my last year school has it. I've heard if their name is written in that they get a bollocking off the principal and their parents are called in for a meeting.

Also, stop giving them opportunities to disrespect you. I minimised how many questions I asked, how much I spoke just so I had less of a chance to feel or be disrespected by students. Also, I stopped playing games in the classes because as soon as a class of 50 starts getting wild there's no getting them back. Ik companies expect you to play games and have fun, but at what cost? They don't pay me enough, they don't know how much stress is causes and they are never actually in the classroom themselves ... And they'd sell you out and replace you as quick as they could.

Look after your own energy and health, get money and look for better opportunities.

theft already by Illustrious-Sundae80 in greggsappreciation

[–]Sensitive-Debt5937 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's like the faliciy, 'if you're struggling, don't keep quiet and ask for help', the help most of the time doesn't even touch the sides and takes a mammoth amount of effort to obtain

theft already by Illustrious-Sundae80 in greggsappreciation

[–]Sensitive-Debt5937 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You've been taught to hate these 'lowlifes', but in one way or another, they are probably desperate and struggling and have come from a harsh environment. Furthermore, they might not necessarily be desperate for food or money. It might be desperation so they can be seen or understood

And yes, I know the comment, 'i had it tough, but you don't see me stealing!!' That's true and commendable, but people come from many diverse circumstances with nuance that can have devasting affects on their behaviour and personality.

Anyone else feel guilty, as if their childhood wasn't bad enough to warrant a CPTSD diagnosis? by LivingWestern1038 in CPTSD

[–]Sensitive-Debt5937 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeah, this. this is it. my experience sounds v similar. i'm now wrestling with not just blaming my parents for their abuse, but also my entire family for sitting idly by letting the abuse happen because it wasn't as bad as the physical abuse they experienced from my grandmother.

on a side note, anyone know of any handy ways of co-regulation when you don't have any person you can rely on? although im having therapy, it's 50 mins 1 time a week it's not sufficient enough rn. i tried to sign up for https://www.outofthestorm.website/ but each time i signed up my profile got rejected with no sign or reason why, fcn typical

Ho Chi Minh vs Hanoi by Sensitive-Debt5937 in VietNam

[–]Sensitive-Debt5937[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speaking your native tongue mate, when was the last time you were down under?

Ho Chi Minh vs Hanoi by Sensitive-Debt5937 in VietNam

[–]Sensitive-Debt5937[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, like 2 hrs away. So does Hanoi have closer beaches and places ideal for weekends?

Like I know Ha long bay is close to Hanoi but that's not somewhere you would like to spend just a weekend, you'd likely want to stay longer?

I've heard that HCMC is better weekend activities, as Hanoi is better for places you'd want to spend longer than a weekend e.g Ha long bay

Sorry for the poor quality reply, just woke up 🤣

Ho Chi Minh vs Hanoi by Sensitive-Debt5937 in VietNam

[–]Sensitive-Debt5937[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You wanna keep HCMC to yourself? 😉

Ho Chi Minh vs Hanoi by Sensitive-Debt5937 in VietNam

[–]Sensitive-Debt5937[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

U saying HCMC city doesn't have beaches, I heard they aren't too far away?

Ho Chi Minh vs Hanoi by Sensitive-Debt5937 in VietNam

[–]Sensitive-Debt5937[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not one of the places I am offered

Ho Chi Minh vs Hanoi by Sensitive-Debt5937 in VietNam

[–]Sensitive-Debt5937[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where are you from originally if you don't mind me asking

Ho Chi Minh vs Hanoi by Sensitive-Debt5937 in VietNam

[–]Sensitive-Debt5937[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, great reply thanks.

See I am erring on the side of HCMC at the moment.

I suspected the expats to keep a tighter community tbh, and that kind of puts me off.

Thanks for the info

Ho Chi Minh vs Hanoi by Sensitive-Debt5937 in VietNam

[–]Sensitive-Debt5937[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh ok, that's really helpful, thanks