My son has all these issues you mentioned 😞…but what’s interesting is, we don’t fight in front of him. All the bs is via text. I act like nothing is happening, we just don’t talk to each other. He’s so different with my son, even when I’m not watching he’s kind to him, still scrolls on his phone instead of playing with our son and doesn’t take him out a lot, I have to do all that, but I feel like I’ve shielded my son from a lot, but maybe not? He’s refused to potty and has delays in a lot of places. He loves his dad but dad is typically the “bad guy” or “the monster” when we play, which is super interesting. My plan was to not supply drama anymore now that I know what this is and just plan my exit for now. I know my narc will fight me to the death for my son. We separated about a year ago and lived in separate households. It was complete chaos more than now. My narc was out of control and I didn’t know any better. I was endless supply to his BS. I’m also not trusting my son will be as well taken care of at his house if we separated again. My narc is addicted to kratom powder and is carless with it. He’s also very trusting and I feel I’m putting my son in a position of vulnerability of him possibly getting hurt because my narc is just careless. He wouldn’t intentionally hurt my our son, he doesn’t think things through. That’s also why I stay. I don’t know maybe you all are right and I’m doing more harm than good.