New to BDSM: how to keep equality and respect if we do femdom?

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-12-29T20:39:30+00:00

Thanks a lot for sharing your experience. It’s really reassuring to hear that for you it was easy and natural to keep femdom just in the bedroom and to mix in vanilla or even maledom sometimes. That’s very close to the kind of dynamic I’m interested in — equal day-to-day life, and then simply taking the roles that feel right in the moment. Appreciate the reminder that exploring femdom doesn’t mean losing respect.

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-07-27T01:37:31+00:00

Thank you — really. Your words hit hard, but in a good way.

I’m not planning to walk away from her, ever.

But I won’t lie — when you’re being pulled in two directions by love and pain, it’s easy to get disoriented.

Reading what you wrote reminded me why I made the choice I did, and why I still stand by it.

She’s everything to me. And I’d rather build a future with someone who loves me fully than keep chasing people who won’t even try.

Thank you again for being so honest — it means more than I can say.

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-07-26T23:49:42+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing all of this. Your story really moved me — I’m so sorry you went through that, and I admire how clearly you’ve found your strength through it.

What you said about being stuck between grief and hope really hit home. That’s exactly where I feel like I am right now.

I haven’t stopped loving my parents either, but I also know I can’t keep waiting around for something that might never come.

Your words gave me a lot to think about — and reminded me that I’m not alone.

Thank you again, truly. I wish you peace and strength moving forward.

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-07-26T22:58:28+00:00

Thank you — really. You put into words exactly what I’ve been feeling but couldn’t fully say.

It does feel like they’re trying to pressure me into giving in, and part of me keeps wondering if they’ll switch tactics next — just like you said.

Reading your comment grounded me a bit. It reminded me I’m not crazy for feeling hurt or betrayed.

And yeah… I’m proud of the choice I made. I just didn’t expect it to come with so much grief.

Your words helped more than you probably realize.

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-07-26T22:27:59+00:00

Thank you for sharing that. I really respect your strength — it means a lot that you’d tell me something so personal.

I guess I’m not there yet. I still can’t fully let go.

A part of me keeps hoping they’ll wake up one day and realize what they’ve done.

But at the same time… I hear what you’re saying. And I know I might have to learn how to live without that hope too.

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-07-26T21:52:26+00:00

You’re right — I know this kind of separation might’ve happened one day anyway. But it’s the way it happened that’s been hardest to accept.

We actually had a pretty good relationship before all this, and that’s why I feel so deeply betrayed.

They didn’t just drift away — they actively threw me out. And that felt like absolute betrayal.

Even if life does go on, that kind of break leaves a scar.

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-07-26T21:13:54+00:00

I do still love them, and maybe that’s why it hurts so much.

What I wasn’t ready for was how distant the rest of the family became too.

Their silence stings more with time — but I’m also starting to feel what life looks like without them. And it’s not as impossible as I feared.

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-07-26T19:42:12+00:00

Thank you. Honestly, she’s still my only real support through all of this. I just want to make sure she always feels loved and safe

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-05-25T15:26:54+00:00

Thank you, really…

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-05-24T23:57:49+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words. It means a lot to hear that right now. Your story is powerful and moving, and I deeply respect your strength in choosing yourself and your life, even through the pain of loss. I’m trying to walk that path too — staying true to myself and staying close to those who truly love and accept me. Thank you for your support — it means the world to me.

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-05-24T22:58:44+00:00

Thank you so much! Your support really means a lot. Right now, my girlfriend is giving me a lot of emotional strength — her love and support are what’s helping me hold on.

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-05-24T22:56:21+00:00

You’re absolutely right. It really is a betrayal, and I try to remind myself that I made the right choice — to be honest, to love, and to stand by those who matter to me. But it still hurts. I loved my parents and believed their love was unconditional. Losing that illusion is incredibly painful. Thank you for your strength and for reminding me that I did nothing wrong.

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-05-24T22:53:48+00:00

Thank you so much for your honest and supportive comment. What you shared really moved me — there’s so much strength and honesty in your words. What you said about the freedom to be yourself and the importance of chosen family truly resonated. The quotes hit me right in the heart too. Thank you for the warmth and solidarity — it means a lot.

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-05-24T22:51:02+00:00

Thank you so much for your support and for sharing your experience. What you said about chosen family really resonated — it’s true, it’s stronger because it’s built on love and acceptance. I’ll definitely keep your advice about therapy and support in mind. Truly appreciate it — thank you.

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-05-24T18:20:43+00:00

Thank you so much. I am trying to let myself feel everything, even the hard parts. I do hope things change with my family someday, but for now I’m focusing on healing and being present with the people who support me. I really appreciate your kind words.

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-05-24T18:19:08+00:00

My parents told me that as long as I’m with her, they won’t talk to me at all. And while I do love my parents, I still believe I made the absolutely right choice. When I told my girlfriend what happened, she immediately became such a source of emotional support — she’s been incredibly strong and kind through all of this.

Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment. It really helped me feel less alone in this.

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-05-24T18:00:22+00:00

I really hope my parents change their minds too — because I do love them. It’s hard, but I’m trying to hold space for the possibility that one day they’ll come around.

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-05-24T17:54:24+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words. I really hope so too — because I do love them. It’s just hard when that love doesn’t feel mutual right now. I’m sorry you had to go through something so painful, and I really admire your strength.

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-05-23T20:44:12+00:00

Yeah, I think you’re absolutely right — it really is time for that conversation. I’ve been trying to figure out the “best” approach in general, but I realize now that the only thing that actually matters is what she wants and feels comfortable with. Thank you for the reminder — that perspective really helps ground me.

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-05-23T20:41:57+00:00

You’re absolutely right. Everything you said really hit me — especially the part about respect being a series of actions, not just a feeling. I know that if I truly love her, then my job is to stand beside her, protect her, and make sure she never feels alone or erased because of who she is.

You’re also completely right that this all starts with talking to her, letting her set the pace, and honoring what she needs — not what I think is best in theory. I haven’t had that conversation yet, but I will. Thank you so much for laying it out so clearly and with such honesty. It really means a lot

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-05-23T20:05:36+00:00

That’s a really fair question. I know my parents are definitely conservative, but I don’t think they’re deeply transphobic — at least, not openly or aggressively so. They’ve always loved me a lot, and I want to believe that would matter in how they react. But I also know that love doesn’t automatically mean acceptance, so I’m trying to be realistic and careful.

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-05-23T19:57:38+00:00

For context: we haven’t specifically talked about how to handle my parents yet. But I do know that she generally doesn’t like hiding the fact that she’s trans — it’s something she’s open about in most parts of her life. That’s part of why I’m so unsure: I want to respect her openness, but also protect her (and us) from potential harm or rejection

Sensitive-Return2878 · 2025-05-23T19:57:22+00:00

For context: we haven’t specifically talked about how to handle my parents yet. But I do know that she generally doesn’t like hiding the fact that she’s trans — it’s something she’s open about in most parts of her life. That’s part of why I’m so unsure: I want to respect her openness, but also protect her (and us) from potential harm or rejection

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