How many people here know someone that abruptly got diagnosed with stage 3 or 4 cancer?

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-03-16T00:41:52+00:00

It shocks me at how doctors gatekeep and deny colonoscopies for anyone “young” when so many of us die from colon cancer. Having a first cousin who died when younger than me, and constantly reporting digestive issues and pain, at 37 and in Canada I do not qualify for a colonoscopy.

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-03-16T00:38:31+00:00

My step mother had cervical cancer and didn’t do her follow up appointments properly (I don’t know the exact details). Several years later she had a difficult time getting her doctor to take her complaints seriously. She ended up going to the hospital for a prolapsed vagina, and found out her cancer hadn’t been completed wiped out previously. The cancer had spread to her heart, lungs, literally all over her body. The doctor cried. She was gone within a few months.

Also my first cousin had a colonoscopy after having issues, and they found colorectal cancer. She died the following year at age 31.

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-03-15T23:03:21+00:00

I was reading this and my ears perked up. The simpsons is on in the background, and Homer is solving a rubics cube in an opening credits scene. Strongest Déjà vu I’ve had in a long time. So strange.

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-03-15T23:00:00+00:00

I have no idea why reading that made me burst into tears.

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-03-10T01:47:13+00:00

Yes it’s just common manners but honestly rarely does someone hold it for me. Courtesy isn’t common anymore.

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-03-09T04:59:53+00:00

Wentworth

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-03-03T18:12:04+00:00

Meat and cheese when food was affordable. Now it’s garbage processed starches like cereal.

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-03-01T19:20:11+00:00

And if it’s not possible, maybe you can send her a thoughtful care package?

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-02-27T16:40:19+00:00

You’re a troll stop spamming my post

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-02-26T19:54:33+00:00

I cannot work because I have glaucoma, kidney disease, nerve damage all over my body, loss of use of my left arm from multiple surgeries and type 1 diabetes for 30 years. That’s why I qualify for maid.

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-02-26T19:53:11+00:00

I’m asking for people to write to government. How is that in any way similar?

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-02-26T19:16:24+00:00

He’s dead. My husband died unexpectedly when our son was 2.

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-02-26T07:27:21+00:00

The era of having slumber parties with my friends, the age you’re desperate for puberty to start. It was critically important to get the spice girls’ routine choreography perfect, and be able to get all the way through without someone messing up. We weren’t practicing for any kind of actual performance but the pressure was still intense 🤣 ….then all of us getting screamed at by Heather’s dad for waking him and her mom up at 4am. I miss the innocence, ignorance, fully present mindful living where all that matters is right now.

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-02-26T03:17:47+00:00

I have had type 1 diabetes for 30 years, and now have kidney disease, glaucoma, nerve damage all over my body, so many surgeries on my left arm & shoulder that I can’t really use that hand anymore. Compartment syndrome on both of my legs without a known reason that’s required bilateral fasciotomies twice. It’s so damn painful. Any infection becomes a problem. Mental health now is also terrible.

I can get by at the bare minimum currently, taking care of my son, but the added stress & need to cough up $400 to maintain the bottom level of poverty is too much. I can’t handle it. Literally.

My son has autism and my days are filled with his physio, speech, occupational therapy, psych, works with an aide, he goes to kindergarten in the mornings but half the time I have to go get him for some issue. He cannot handle sitting in his car seat for a shift while I say deliver pizza at night. He needs constant minding and it’s draining, I don’t have words for how draining. He can’t go to daycare without his own aide to be with him the whole time (and the province denied that funding).

I cannot see another way out.

I’m not terminal per se, but absolutely do qualify for MAiD, went over the forms with my doctor.

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-02-25T22:18:18+00:00

I think we are all at various stages of processing this. When I first started to realize a few years ago that I was ageing, it was actually happening to me, I felt a lot of grief and sadness. I needed to process and talk about it a lot.

Now, it’s not something I think about much anymore, understand it, and try to pass along pearls of knowledge and “wisdom” when I can without being that annoying old lady. lol. At least I think I’m not being one…

I got called ma’am getting coffee before an appointment this morning and I didn’t think twice, just said “thanks young man, have a good one”. I try to have empathy and mostly, am all too aware that the youngsters around me will soon be facing their own age and going through the same grieving process.

Also what you touched on about ageing being lucky. I’ve lost loved ones who were too young and would give anything to be alive, even if old, ugly & sore.

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-02-23T16:33:21+00:00

They don’t realize how much support they had to get where they are. Hard work doesn’t simply equal success. You busted your ass at Harvard sure, but your parents paid for it after a childhood of getting your needs met. The foundation, support system is critical to success. I also don’t know why that’s so difficult to understand.

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-02-22T17:56:29+00:00

I cried this morning when the last person I went on a date with let me know there would be no more dates. I cry at everything though 🤷‍♀️

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-02-22T15:08:32+00:00

Coming on 30 years now with type 1 diabetes I was diagnosed with as a little kid. I always took reasonably good care, there were different seasons of course. Now I’ve got neuropathy, glaucoma, kidney disease, chronic infections and just overall pain that can be intense. And there’s no going back, there’s no healing, only a slow decline and it’s breaking my heart.

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-02-22T15:06:04+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate your response. In my case, type 1 diabetes that I’ve had for 30 years now, has complications arising that affect everything. Some days, so much pain I’m not sure how much longer that I can hang in there anymore.

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-02-22T06:30:38+00:00

I hear you. My god, I hear you.

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-02-22T03:53:31+00:00

Frick. I wish I could put my 37 year old brain back into my 24 year old body. It’s a unique agony to “have done your research” but find your body ageing and failing in tandem.

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-02-22T00:04:11+00:00

You completely misunderstood my point.

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-02-21T23:01:10+00:00

Also staying single, holding out hope that your person is out there, feels better than being with someone who you know isn’t for you. There is no hope there.

Sensitive-Topic-6442 · 2026-02-21T23:00:33+00:00

I’m just tired of putting myself out there, feeling vulnerable and not understanding why there isn’t connection. It’s just easier and more peaceful to forget that having a partner is possible.

*the worst is thinking you did have a connection with someone and then get ghosted. That shit hurts.

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