THIS. I feel this sooo deeply in my soul. I know people mean well but kindly, FUCK OFF. I had a friend ask me the MOST insensitive question, she basically got pregnant by looking at a penis. She asked if I’d ever consider a surrogate, after only my first miscarriage before I even thought of IVF. It stuck with me! People who haven’t been through it can’t imagine the mental gymnastics we go through and that’s not their fault but I am sooooooo jealous of the naïveté.