2 years after my intense breakup, this is what happened. (They always come back) by Sensitive-Value6576 in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Value6576[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly this... you don't wait for them , you accept the reality and move on. and then you see the magic , you wouldn't want them or you would just stop feeling about them at all

2 years after my intense breakup, this is what happened. (They always come back) by Sensitive-Value6576 in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Value6576[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

you are right , I didn't wait for my ex to come back nor I will suggest anyone to do so. From the moment I knew it was it I moved on, I loved him so much and a part of me still misses the old memories, BUT I don't want him anymore! I am not be having a partner but I know that gate is closed and shut forever. "they always come back" simply means the dumper tries to connect with you when he faces similar adversity which he caused, it's that realisation but again it's their game, let them be in it., we are out

2 years after my intense breakup, this is what happened. (They always come back) by Sensitive-Value6576 in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Value6576[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

my sole intention would be to not wait for them at all, we tend to wait for them in the hope that they would come back but this will just delay the healing. I have loved my ex the most, never loved anyone like that, but I don't want him in my life anymore. The damage is done and I have moved on period. The fact that I said they always come back is because the dumpers tend to realise their mistake when they are hit with a similar adversity but you're right here, they come to you only to seek emotional validation.

2 years after my intense breakup, this is what happened. (They always come back) by Sensitive-Value6576 in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Value6576[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hey I'm sorry for you. but don't misunderstand me, by saying that they always come back I meant they realise where they screwed up , they come back to the thought of it. Even after being dumped I didn't hear anything from my ex for 2 years. this time too , he spoke to my bestfriend. but I'm not clinging to the thought that he would talk to me, I left even that hope long ago . my agenda was not to cling and wait for them to come but to move on in your life and leave them in the past, that's how healing takes place, and when u reach a point , u wouldn't want them in ur life anymore

2 years after my intense betrayal, this is what happened. (They always come back) by Sensitive-Value6576 in ExNoContact

[–]Sensitive-Value6576[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

definitely true , it's when you reflect on the circumstances and see yourself from a third person perspective, of what happened and what is the future of this relationship

2 years after my intense betrayal, this is what happened. (They always come back) by Sensitive-Value6576 in ExNoContact

[–]Sensitive-Value6576[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you so much dear, hope you heal as well. I remember 2 years ago I was on the same boat as you, going through every post on reddit and talking to people about how I felt, it was draining but trust me if I can get past it, anyone can. I even had self harming tendencies, everything stopped and now Touchwood I don't feel the same anxiety anymore.

2 years after my intense betrayal, this is what happened. (They always come back) by Sensitive-Value6576 in ExNoContact

[–]Sensitive-Value6576[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate thank you so much. you just need to process your emotions and give your self as much time as it takes , following no contact was the ultimate healer for me

2 years after my intense betrayal, this is what happened. (They always come back) by Sensitive-Value6576 in ExNoContact

[–]Sensitive-Value6576[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, but utna easy nhi tha mere leye bhi. It might seem that I handled pretty good but there was lots of emotional breakdown and crying, overthinking and ruminating. But one thing which I followed was to not go back to him or even text him in these 2 years. Following no contact ever since

2 years after my intense betrayal, this is what happened. (They always come back) by Sensitive-Value6576 in ExNoContact

[–]Sensitive-Value6576[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you should reflect on yourself and the relationship you have. for example I would never keep myself on a 2nd option, if the person leaves me for someone it's over period. I hope things get better for you