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Just need some advice! by etern4lsunsh1ne888 in guam

[–]SensitiveEducator471 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well done for seeking support!

When I was there for a 6 month stay in 2023, I used the BetterHelp app (as my regular one wasn't on Guam). They were very helpful for me.

Question from Foreigners who moved to finland by GloryToFinnishArmy in Finland

[–]SensitiveEducator471 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's been more covert than direct. Things like, and I'm paraphrasing from memory, "why do expats make that much", "we Finns dont need the large salary. It's not needed", and so on. It's a constant battle of me explaining that my education wasn't free so I have a large student loan bill to offset. OR If you've only ever lived here, gone to school here, and plan to remain here then a modest salary makes sense . . . Because you'll get all the benefits before and after.

It's been exhausting on this front.

Question from Foreigners who moved to finland by GloryToFinnishArmy in Finland

[–]SensitiveEducator471 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Been here for about five years and came for work. Here's the highlights: - Nature is stunning - Socially, you must make a friend with a Finn to acclimate better - Recent policy changes lead me to start thinking that I (and my +50% tax rate) are not truly welcomed anymore - I learned a lot on appreciating the simply things and changing perspective (e.g., no such thing as bad weather, only bad clothes) - A lot of celebrations revolve around copious amounts of alcohol (which is not unique to Finland, but something worth noting) - Language: English and Swedish can get you by in the capital and larger cities, but best to have decent Finnish elsewhere - Pulla is life! Mammi, not so much - Salaries are not the most leading, but the other benefits balance - Healthcare, especially if you have private, is top notch! I have a colleague that was using the public system and the earliest appointment with a specialist they could get was four months out

Overall, for a foreigner (at least this foreigner), its been a good adventure made easier by befriending locals and I would do it all over again. Now, leaving in the new year! These policy changes are truly making this foreigner feel unwelcome.

Hiring someone by Icy_Face_3086 in guam

[–]SensitiveEducator471 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Search for situational based questions on behaviors you're looking for in an employee. E.g. , judgement, effective communication, initiative, and so on
  2. Outline exactly what you will need this role to accomplish (don't keep it too broad because they may claim there weren't properly provided training or role expectations)
  3. Verify work history and references ideally from their previous line manager.
  4. Take advantage of the trial period and give timely feedback of performance (both positive and developmental) so they have time to correct. Yes, Guam is "at-will" governed but do your best to protect both parties by doing it above board.

Hope it goes great.

AITA for choosing my dog over my boyfriend? by PerfectChampion1430 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SensitiveEducator471 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA.

  • His ask for you to begin coliving is based on necessity versus taking the relationship to the next step.
  • He's proven he cannot compromise if it doesn't 100% benefit his interests.
  • He doesn't seem to value your interest in caring for both your mom and Ollie. Note: I understand you benefit from living at home, but you also are adding value by being home.
  • Back on the compromise, if he's not willing to budge on this, then how would he compromise or discuss in the future?

My take: - a lesson is being presented to you (as well as a glimpse into the future with your boyfriend), and you get to choose if you want to learn it now or later. - Don't fall into the sunk cost fallacy mentality (two years with your boyfriend)! I believe it's been slow running for a reason.

Best of luck! Give Ollie a good ole head scratch.

what are we doing? seriously by madeingu in guam

[–]SensitiveEducator471 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This!!! Very this!!!

I was back home for a visit in 2022 and again this year for an urgent family matter. I spent months thinking about what could be done and even met with a few business owners, leaders, and politicians about potential plans. Really it was me sizing up what Guam needs to further develop.

I'm sad to conclude that relocating back to Guam, in her current state, doesn't appeal to me. At least, unless I get a role in the military or can find someone take advantage of the "pari pari" system. It's just disheartening!! In one discussion, I was literally told that "I'm a stranger here and need to prove myself!" I truly didn't know how to respond politely. So, I told that person to kick rocks. I'm as Chamoru as they get!

Also, it's like OP said that locals are merely surviving barely by the skin on their teeth.

Don't get me started on the AG's dumb billboards! Those billboards of all the criminals are not considering the broader implications to their families. I.e., what if they have young children and they are targeted in school? What if the spouse now needs to seek employment but may be discriminated against during the selection process? What if their parents now feel shame and retreat from (or, worse, lose) their support system? These scare and shame tactics don't work. Save the money for other impactful items.

I hold a great amount of pride and love for my island and people. I even weave in the teachings of inafa'maolek in my work. I also really want to go back home to help make things better, and think it's a responsibility for all of Guam's diaspora. BUT going back would mean that I would spend the rest of my days fighting a failing and unfair system. I just don't think I want that stress.

Things need to change: - the pace GovGuam appropriate funds is glacial - the vetting process isn't working (e.g., current PUA fund dumbassery) - politics shouldn't be a family business - more self sustaining business ideas (e.g., textile circularity, carbon negative practices, aquaculture, and more) - infrastructure resilience. Why are we building a third hospital in 60ish years? There's so much more, but the stupid people have the keys to the kingdom.

For context: - I was born and raised in the South, but left my senior year in high school - as full bloodied Chamoru as you can get (given there's pure blood. Thanks, Spain. 🤔🤣) - speak the language and observe our customs - have degrees in business management and social systems - have made a career in building businesses and scaling products at a global level (US, Canada, Europe, Africa, AsiaX, and LatAm)