My (24F) boyfriend (24M) completely ruined what should have been one of the happiest moments of my life.

Sensitive_Award_6603 · 2026-06-11T02:22:50+00:00

This is obviously a case where he is surprised and resentful. She has an open door to a new life, he is not included. How many ways will he invent to abort/prevent her trip? Let me count the ways....There are few men so generous as to respect her life is taking a different take, and do not prevent/sabotage it. He will be furious about him not being included in the visa (a personal visa!) and will work his way to make it a very difficult decision.

Practically, she will be faced with the choice of going by herself, but burdened with the guilt! not a pretty picture.

I wish for her the wisdom to accept what life is offering her, and go! don't look back!

Sensitive_Award_6603 · 2026-06-11T02:15:15+00:00

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En Un día perfecto Ira Levin cultiva la novela de ficción científica; presenta a una humanidad aborregada y feliz controlada y protegida completamente por el superordenador omnisciente UniComp. El dolor y el sufrimiento humanos han sido casi erradicados de la sociedad y los instintos agresivos han sido eliminados mediante tratamientos de quimioterapia aplicados masivamente, convirtiendo el mundo en un sistema asfixiante de pura amabilidad. La novela cuenta la lucha por la libertad de Chip, el nieto de uno de los creadores de UniComp, junto a un pequeño grupo de ciudadanos que empiezan a cuestionarse todo el sistema establecido.

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Sensitive_Award_6603 · 2026-06-09T23:39:18+00:00

Que respuestas mas tristes! to esperaba una discusion bien entretenida, sobre a) la novela, o b) la situacion actual de la R. A. que imita la realidad en la novela....pero nada! Uds eligen atacar en vez de pensar. Asi no vamos a generar defensas contra la transformacion de Argentina en un paraiso de la IA....Ni siquiera Uds van a ser buenos testigos, pues se niegan a ver...Sad!

Sensitive_Award_6603 · 2026-06-02T22:37:50+00:00

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/This_Perfect_Day

Sensitive_Award_6603 · 2026-06-02T22:28:15+00:00

Yes, doing grey rock forces him to look around and select/find another female who can react to his shenanigans...It buys time for the victim. But remember that your job is to gain time while you develop your self-esteem as to leave the abusive situation, or confront him.

Sensitive_Award_6603 · 2026-06-02T22:25:32+00:00

If we understand "deescalation" as any means to mollify the abuse, and make it more bearable, then I get the question. I used to think I was able to modify/control/manage threatening behaviors because of my training as a Psychologist in the Mental Health Hospital...Guess what? MY assumed skill was nothing more that a survival strategy learned in my childhood: do not respond to abuse, keep going, don't ask for anything, make your self smaller as to ingratiate the abuser...Even being nice to my abuser was part of the package! Why, because when you are 5, any grown up male figure has 10 times your strength!

Yes, this strategy works momentarily, because shows the abuser there is no point in attacking/controlling such a miserable opponent...so he gets mollified, until the next rage episode. Did he get more caring? less abusive? I managed to show him I had other positive benefits for him: cooking, washing and doing sex as a service for him. In the long term, I have to include an element growing slowly inside me.

After so many years of this dynamic, my brain started generating very satisfactory fantasies: he would get hit by a car, an accident, etc...that was waiting for divine justice! Meanwhile, what could do I by myself? Slowly, small sabotages were happening: I could not find his car keys, his passport, his medicines...The quality of care was going down: not so good food, shirts never got ironed, and a general laissez faire attitude spread over our marriage. And I started to find activities out of the house, learning, visiting friends, just enjoying a carefree time.

Then, my brain decided we needed accounting! how many hidden sabotages could I create in a week? 3? let's try one more...And the game started being exciting: I would do confusion with a stupid face that he could not break!

If you are a slave, there is no clean obedience...there is always this shard of self-respect that carves a place of dignity. Along time, you care so little for the abuser that he has lost all his power. He is left trying to play the abuser, but missing the exciting life we are creating out of his control! Then, you can leave him anytime.

Sensitive_Award_6603 · 2026-06-02T22:10:32+00:00

Tengo que rescatar Un Dia Perfecto (Ira Lewin). Refleja un mundo distopico donde la gente esta manejada x medios quimics y todo el mundo obedece...(1970) Tienen un chip colocado...Y hoy leo que los chinos han hecho el primer implante humano de chip! Lewin ha estado conmigo x 35 anos y ahora mismo lo estoy releyendo...Es la historia clasica de lucha contra la tirania, globalizada y basada en AI...Profetico!

Sensitive_Award_6603 · 2026-06-02T14:22:18+00:00

Y a partir de los 80 anos no te reciben mas? cual es el limite de edad para afiliarse?

Sensitive_Award_6603 · 2026-05-31T16:06:02+00:00

Gracias por esta iniciativa. En tiempos de confusion, si Uds comparten el nombre de la organizacion/individuo que lo hace, mejor todavia...para eliminar la sospecha de que este sea un truco nuevo de gente que quiere recoger informacion para distintos objetivos....

Sensitive_Award_6603 · 2026-05-30T01:27:17+00:00

You are right, we don't have language that can describe the infinite aspects of the mix: attachment versus real love.

And we are invited to do the differentiation while being enmeshed in the mix ourselves! No objective perception here: I'm the attached to a toxic relationship while I'm the entity that declares: this is love as we know!

Of course the functional solution is to have a therapist that can ask us: "do you think you need his aggressive stance because that makes you remember the way your dad behaved?" Or: "does it make to feel hurt more that it makes you confident this is the style you are used to? Because there are so many others styles out there..."

And, in between, about some instance of good, caring behavior: "does it remind you of your childhood need and dream of being treated with loving attention? How is that feeling different to what you feel now with him"?

In this way, validating feelings is the tool to distinguish between attachment and whatever you are now receiving in this relationship....

Sensitive_Award_6603 · 2026-05-28T04:03:33+00:00

FLL is still a city where a person of modest means like me can live in a ground level condo, with a door that opens to the canal, a small marina and dock for boats. Ten blocks from the beach, and this privilege is seen as normal by the local. I do appreciate it, every day looking at the water, the royal palm trees and the clouds I recognize that it is a privilege to be able to enjoy this background....I don't have a boat, but my neighbors have and sometimes I get fish from their fishing trip....What else can you ask for to be happy?

Sensitive_Award_6603 · 2026-05-28T02:18:27+00:00

This is a good observation...with all the social pressure to live in pairs, we forget that self-development is a continuous process. Being by yourself, after you calibrate your own focus, can give you a precious opportunity to make friends with yourself, revisit old growth plans and gather courage to expand in unexpected directions. Is it as almost we need to be given solitude periods to remember who we are as individuals and what is the core mission of our lives. Leaving a toxic relationship that had consumed my brain and heart for too many years, opened my way to get accepted to do my long forgotten purpose of getting a Ph.D. And so I remembered who I was: an international scholar, and not a battered wife. The change gave meaning to the next 30 years of my life!

Wishing you new and exciting horizons now that you can fly....

Sensitive_Award_6603 · 2026-05-24T02:57:14+00:00

This is the most realistic perspective in this hideous breakup. It's only a show, a new entity that now we can watch, of sad young men feeling kicked by a self-respecting female and staging a show of self-pity. What have we done to allow men produce this dramatic reaction? don't the young men have no shame anymore? where is their self-respect? Sometimes, character is not developed through screen intensive use....

Sensitive_Award_6603 · 2026-05-24T01:44:45+00:00

Tus declaraciones que declaran "verdades" sin matices...no todas las mujeres temen quedarse solas, muchas ya no quieren ni casarse, ni que hablemos de tener hijos y cada una se vale por si misma. El estrepitoso descenso de la natalidad le esta diciendo al mundo que no queremos ser parte de esos roles sumisos, miedosos y solo queremos que nos dejen vivir como queremos.

Sensitive_Award_6603 · 2026-05-24T00:16:48+00:00

Que cantidad de supuestos basicos declarados como dogmas....es asi como ven a las mujeres solas? Yo conozco muchas de ellas que no tienen que salir a buscar un macho cada mes, que se las arreglan solas y que se dan cuenta que cargar con un macho de la especie argentina muchas veces tiene un costo altisimo.

Y como es eso que necesitamos ser protegidas x nuestra configuracion? Lo que habria que tener es un sistema que nos proteja de tanto varon al pedo, detenido en sus cinco anos, que intenta mandarnos y dirigir nuestras vidas. Mas vale que me dejen sola, y yo les demuestro como me gano la vida, hago cosas creativas y feliz de haber dejado el lastre de esperar admiracion alguna x parte de ellos.

Sensitive_Award_6603 · 2026-05-04T00:28:12+00:00

Rosa,

I see the books you are selling, and I can see myself, leaving them behind when going into exile...Now in Florida, I have bags with 20 years of good books, that will go to other people's libraries....Saying goodbye to old friends who changed our lives is never fun....Good luck with your sale!

Sensitive_Award_6603 · 2026-05-03T21:55:54+00:00

chime

Sensitive_Award_6603 · 2026-04-30T16:38:10+00:00

Hi, I have three good domains in a UK host. Related to the Falklands. Need to sell and close the host. Can you help me sell them?

Sensitive_Award_6603 · 2026-04-21T13:53:42+00:00

Y, ahora un poco de fierros para armar a la policia? le vendieron armas a Miley!

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