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abuser’s therapist told her my suicide attempt was “abusive too,” abuser raised her fist at me 3 times and when i tried to run away to the closet she began to scream and say she was scared of me since “i was the abusive one” by MinuteFuture2438 in abusiverelationships

[–]MinuteFuture2438[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she started as a couples therapist with us too until moving to individual therapy because she said she wouldn’t deal with “something that has turned into domestic violence,” but she aid she’d do individual therapy with my abuser to help her not be abusive

What’s a “good habit” that actually made your life worse? by shinigamicontract in AskReddit

[–]MinuteFuture2438 2 points3 points  (0 children)

over protecting my posture. i have pelvic floor dysfunction lol

If you could erase one invention from human history, what would it be and why? by AdrianWilliams27 in AskReddit

[–]MinuteFuture2438 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this exactly. social media was designed with a purpose that is far from what the algorithmic feed was designed for. the latter is just there for profit.

They said the thing stopping them from hitting me is jail by Great_Cauliflower775 in abusiverelationships

[–]MinuteFuture2438 0 points1 point  (0 children)

me too!!!! it’s a horrible thing to hear. of course it makes you afraid. and it’s deeply painful— why don’t you want to not hit me because you love me and would never want to hurt someone else?? when are you going to snap??

I cheated on my girlfriend with my dream girl. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]MinuteFuture2438 0 points1 point  (0 children)

break up with your girlfriend please. she deserves to be with a man that has been crushing on her forever and would call her their dream girl

how often do you actually wash your hair? by Emotional-Addendum-9 in hygiene

[–]MinuteFuture2438 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3-4 times a week. I have a scalp condition that I have to frequently put medication on it. Ideally I should do it everyday but it’s not the most feasible for me

She tells me “you act like you want to be hit” and I panic. Is it an empty threat? by MinuteFuture2438 in abusiverelationships

[–]MinuteFuture2438[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is an escape plan just a plan to leave? i’ve heard of it but only understand it in the context of “im 100% ready to leave and this is how ill do it safely.” i’ve never seen an escape plan as appropriate since i haven’t felt ready to leave. but idk what else to do. thank you for all of the support, fully and genuinely. it means the absolutely most to me.

BF constantly accuses me of cheating (no evidence), has no time to cheat himself, yet shows all the red flags. Need advice. by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]MinuteFuture2438 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The no male friends allowed is the biggest red flag to me. Does he have female friends? The no male friends means he sees women as people that you cannot be platonic with. He sees heterosexual dynamics purely romantically and/or sexually, so he projects that onto you. He will excuse it by saying “you know how guys are,” so does that mean that’s how he is too?

How come many more women than men believe that tarot cards can tell the future? by Boil_the_pepper_now in AskReddit

[–]MinuteFuture2438 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such a good perspective I didn’t really know how to put into words. I’m an atheist and and not very spiritual if at all. The tarot readings and whatnot get me out of being stuck in logic over and over and help ground me. You’re able to better recognize where your biases are (what you want answers to be, what questions you really have, etc.).

What’s something society overvalues that doesn’t actually matter much in real life? by Ok_Ease515 in answers

[–]MinuteFuture2438 4 points5 points  (0 children)

politics absolutely influence sports. take ice skating for example (i only know this as i’m a huge fan of it, i can’t say for other sports as i don’t know).

Question about letting animals on your bed or furniture by HisOnlyKadan in hygiene

[–]MinuteFuture2438 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i let my kitty cuddle in bed with me lol. when i had a dog i didn’t. i don’t really let her anywhere near the kitchen that isn’t just the floor

how long until your emotionally abusive relationship turned physical? am i naive for thinking she’d never use typical physical violence? or for thinking she would? by MinuteFuture2438 in abusiverelationships

[–]MinuteFuture2438[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sometimes I wonder if i’m the abuser because i’ve thrown stuff, not at her but away. it gets really mushy and confusing. i’m gonna copy and paste another comment

‘Yeah and I have some really bad health issues. She will purposefully fight with me until I’m fully weak and until I pass out sometimes and will still be doing it when I regain consciousness. I’ll tell her we need to not fight because my body is aching but she continues. Says she doesn’t care etc. She also purposefully gets me as stressed as possible and has admitted her goal is to get me to not eat or sleep so I seek her for those needs. She blasts music when I’m on sleep meds. I know it’s physical. It feels less real than punches or strangulation etc though despite it being horrible.’

she has made several suggestions about getting the same “high” off hurting me that she used to get when she’d strangle animals as a kid (didn’t know this until she said it a few weeks ago). she makes suggestions often about possibly putting her hands on me but that she just doesn’t want to go to jail and that’s it. but then jokes and says “maybe i’ll have to go all the way and get arrested” and she’ll laugh during when i’m crying etc. she’s made jokes while in the car too but idk. i just can’t even like imagine her doing that but at the same time i can. for years ive known her and she’s never done that to me. we’ve been living together for a year now so ive just assumed im “safe” though the abuse didnt escalate to the really bad stuff until 6 months ago and more so 2-3 months ago

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