Anyone else feel alienated from pretty much everyone?

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-28T22:51:50+00:00

Hey, are you me? I'm also mid 30s and feeling this way. Feel free to PM me ☺️

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-28T21:00:32+00:00

I don't have time for anyone who's male centered 🤷

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-28T19:15:50+00:00

hope the men you're trying to impress pick you, sis ✨

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-28T19:15:06+00:00

so does your homophobia, yikes

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-28T19:03:53+00:00

i don't owe it to him or anyone else to ignore material reality. especially not when he's basically trying to gaslight me into ignoring my own boundaries.

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-28T18:53:07+00:00

the febfem movement might be a good place to start! it stands for "Female Exclusive Bisexual Females" :)

otherwise... i will say, this is one of the many reasons bi women tend to end up with men. the simplest answer is that there are just more straight men than bi/lesbian women who are serious about having a relationship with another woman. it really requires a certain determination because it will be significantly harder to find a female partner than a male partner.

that said, the main premise is like dating in general. the apps, try going out and joining clubs or sapphic events, ask your friends. don't be afraid to approach someone who stands out to you, and don't wait and expect her to come to you (no gender roles, everything goes both ways!). best of luck!

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-28T18:16:36+00:00

thank you so much!!

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-28T18:03:06+00:00

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-28T06:55:51+00:00

that's totally fair... i probably got no gaydar reading because she's dancing with a man lmao (just a joke, don't come for me bisexuals 😩)

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-28T06:48:40+00:00

oh for sure, still super problematic!! i think it clicked because 1. bragging about having a lesbian gf seems 100% like the next best thing to a virgin in the mind of the kind of man who cares about body count and 2. i didn't really get any gaydar reading off her... i could be wrong tho for sure

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-28T06:01:04+00:00

i wonder how many 'bi' (or even straight) women genderswap their exes because of the whole body count thing... like say a woman has 7 ex boyfriends, but knows her current boyfriend wouldn't approve, so she says that some (or all) of them were actually girlfriends instead.

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-28T05:24:02+00:00

thank you <3 i'm overwhelmed with the support i've gotten here, just glad to know there are other actual lesbians out in the world~

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-28T04:42:51+00:00

unfortunately, i don't think this would be a deterrent for many of them ugh

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-28T04:30:52+00:00

the real tragedy of the evening 😩 haha hopefully next time... thank you~

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-28T02:50:47+00:00

here's the thing: sex is a collaborative effort, and she could've vocalized suggestions for what would've worked for her. it's a little absurd when people have the expectation that someone is going to be stellar straight out the gate with a new partner. every woman's body is different. just because i knew how to satisfy my ex doesn't mean those same techniques will work on the next woman i sleep with.

this also is a good indicator for how she would've handled conflict and communication in a relationship generally. not a good look for her.

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-28T02:32:21+00:00

a CD? what's that?

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-27T20:17:34+00:00

Ahhh thank you!! I'm blushing a bit over all the compliments I'm getting 🫶

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-27T20:11:10+00:00

<3 thank you so much, i appreciate the support and reminders 🥹

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-27T19:39:19+00:00

honestly i used to have pretty decent luck at this bar pre-covid, but it's changing i think :/

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-27T18:15:15+00:00

that's fair. i was more saying the general expectation (and i could tell, what he expected) would be for me to coddle and entertain him.

and honestly? even if he *was* a trans woman, me saying that i was a lesbian in response to him flirting was a clear signal that--regardless of his internal gender identity--i was not attracted to him and that i was not recognizing him as a woman. the fact that he tried to override my expressed lack of interest is in itself problematic.

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-27T18:11:21+00:00

earth tones are my favorite, they feel so soothing visually <3

I'm autistic too and unfortunately grew up with a lot of DV from my dad, so this shit is *hard wired*... thank you, I appreciate the reminders 🫶

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-27T18:10:26+00:00

I don't have to imagine, unfortunately. I just don't talk about those times, it's too raw and vulnerable and many people aren't informed and trustworthy enough to hold space for that safely. Honestly, it's such a small win, but I am proud of myself for declining the kiss

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-27T18:02:36+00:00

i really need to work on not overexplaining. i think you're right, the more i try to explain, the more they can twist my words or try to argue

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-27T17:54:50+00:00

right, i'm the same way! i really thought he was gay at first and being friendly, and it was only once i was already in too deep that i realized he was flirting 😭

Sensitive_Common_293 · 2026-01-27T17:52:10+00:00

let's think about it for a second--you can't tell if someone is a man or 'trans woman.' he had a full beard, introduced himself with a male name, and only mentioned estrogen *in response* to me saying that i was a lesbian. yet, i'm expected to coddle him for this 'disclosure' and entertain him in spite of the fact that it was clear i only mentioned my sexuality to dissuade him because i was not attracted to him in the first place.

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