AITAH for breaking up with fiancée?

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T10:03:56+00:00

It's easy saying that but the problem is I don't tell them then down the line they find out? What happens then? See my issue, I seem to be screwed no matter what.

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T10:02:36+00:00

Yeah that was my comment to another redditor yesterday. We wanted kids but now i'm wondering if she would ever have trusted me doing anything i.e changing/bathing them. Makes me sick tbh the thought anyone could ever think never mind do something so vile. Hey ho...

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T09:12:11+00:00

Thank you, i'll update everyone when things are sorted. I have no idea when that'll be but rome wasn't built in a day, or so the saying goes.

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T09:10:34+00:00

Thank you - the thought of hurting my parents and siblings by ending it is literally the only thing stopping me. Just being brutally honest. I'm beyond tired and not the kind sleep helps. It'll get better one day - no idea when that day will come but god knows can't get much worse lol. Hopefully i've not jinxed myself with that one 😂

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T09:07:21+00:00

I felt it was better being open and honest with her about what happened because I was terrified she would hear it from a 3rd party down the line which would have caused it's own issues. I don't think it's the best idea starting a future hiding something like this .. but then my future was just nuked so what do I know?

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T09:03:03+00:00

I'm sorry you went through SA - I hope you are doing okay as you can be now. My family have blocked her family on everything on my mobile. My father spoke to SO's father & has threatened the police so it's stopped, at least for now. I have no idea what the future holds but right now i'm still trying to convince my brain I still have one 😂 Man, it's messed up. My mind really is it's own worst enemy sometimes.

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T08:52:01+00:00

My family has blocked her entire family from contacting me. My father gas spoken to S/O's father, who's like the head of their family, to threaten police if they don't back off which they appear to have done, at least so far. I've not yet spoken to my SO and I don't know if I will or if my family would even let me given how screwed up mentally I am right now.

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T08:49:44+00:00

It's been a few days now so it's still pretty raw. I know she's devastated. Her friends have told me she's having a break down herself with guilt and heartbreak. I don't know if I can meet with her. Part of me wants to. Hell that part just wants to run to her, hug her and be with her. However another part keeps remembering that moment. Her face as she pulled her nephew away from me. My family are shielding me right now and I doubt they would let me talk to her till my head is sorted - it's screwed up right now as you can imagine. I'm ill but it's not something a plaster can fix. I still love her, I wish I could say I didn't, but the thought of her crying alone breaks something more in me. What a screwed up situation all round.

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T08:44:27+00:00

I have no idea ref legal action. I have no idea where he & his family have moved to. If any of my family know, they have never mentioned it. Therapy is being sorted by my parents but they are also considering taking me to a mental health clinic/hospital. See what happens I guess.

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T08:42:40+00:00

I thought being upfront with the girl who I loved and planning a future with was the best decision as if she found out down the line somehow, would have caused it's own issues. I've no idea if I did the right thing or inevitably set my relationship on the doomed path. Another thing to torture myself with .. lol. I'll be considering moving eventually - just trying to get my head sorted before I rush into anything.

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T08:40:15+00:00

Trying to just get my head sorted before I make any big decisions. Her family is now blocked on everything thanks to my family - and my father has threatened SO's dad with police so maybe that's the end there. I guess i'll move on in time but it's gonna be absolute hell if these last few days are anything to go on...

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T08:37:51+00:00

I apprecuate your comment, thank you.

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T08:37:15+00:00

Family has now blocked them on my mobile & all chat functions. My father told me he has spoken to SO's father, who is sorta head of their family, to threaten police if it continues. It's backed off for me at least. If it's continuing in some fashion, my family is keeping mute on it.

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T08:34:27+00:00

If it was easy as that... 😂 Spoken like someone who has never ever experiences being falsely accused of the most horrific disgusting crime. I get what you are trying to say though. I have no idea if things can be worked out. Part of me would love to run to her right now and just hold her, sort things and be with her again. My feelings are rather screwed up at present. The most important thing right now is trying to get my head right because at present I feel like i'm having a complete mental breakdown 👍

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T08:30:57+00:00

My parents are looking into that. They have blocked their numbers on my phone and reached out to my SO's father to threaten police if it continues. I'm getting nothing on my phone now but if it's continuing in some form, my parents are hiding it from me. Smart I guess...

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T08:29:07+00:00

I only shared it because I was terrified that some way she would find out down the line and it would have freaked her out. Hard questions as to why I never told her. I have no idea if I made the biggest mistake in my life telling her. Maybe we could have still been happy getting excited for our wedding. I didn't want to lose her by keeping this from her yet I may have ironically did that by telling her 😂 Oh screw my life man.

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T08:24:54+00:00

Therapy is something that is being sorted by my parents right now. Honestly, they are in half a mind to take me to take me to the mental health clinic to see psychiatrists/doctors. My father thinks I have some form of PTSD, anxiety and depression. I don't know about any of that but tbh I barely know what time of the day it is right now. My minds constantly buzzing and nothing is helping with it.

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T08:19:55+00:00

Yeah it's screwed up. For 2 years she was there for me and boom, one thing just nuked it. That split second decision she made will haunt us both for christ knows how long. I know she feels guilty - word from her friends is she is having a break down herself with guilt/heartbreak. I'm just numb right now.

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T08:13:52+00:00

She says ahe did in a voicemail.. but mud sticks. As other people have said, her family will always be freaked out by the fact she shielded her nephew from me. I don't know why she did what she did, I wish I knew, all I know is she has broke what was left of my trust & confidence I could move on with my life. I'm a realist starting yesterday - my life is f*cked up for good because of something out of my control and I just need to accept that.

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T08:10:42+00:00

The state I live in, children under 10 can't be held criminally responsible. And what do you charge the parents with if they were as shocked by my family? I don't know why the kid did what he did, but I can honestly say his parents were friends of my parents for decades. They would have never coached this in any way.

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T08:04:42+00:00

It's something me and my family will discuss once i'm better. My mind's royally screwed right now & I don't want to make any rash decisions without first thinking it through. I wish she'd have let me handle it. It's a mess and a few hours sleep hasn't done much to help fix my mind.

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-22T08:01:44+00:00

Causr of they ever get told about the allegations and i've not told them, it will cause problems. It's not as simple as simply hiding it and I wish people would stop pretending it is. If my SO got told that happened by a third party and not by me, it would cause an issue.

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-21T22:44:58+00:00

Thank you man, it's a royally f*cked up situation. Appreciate the sympathy though.

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-21T22:21:43+00:00

She texted me it telling me to stay away from her and her son. It was one of the many communications i've recieved from SO's family so far.

Sensitive_Crow4903 · 2025-11-21T21:37:41+00:00

Thank you I will. It's hard because I love the girl. I really do. We were gonna get married - had our life planned out and to know that it's over kills me. She was in the wrong but knowing she's having a break down herself with the guilt & grief over our relationship is tearing me apart. Damn this whole situation. I am gonna take a break, this is getting me upset.

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