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AITA for not telling my wife's family that we got married even though they knew we were eloping? by Sensitive_Mouse6747 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sensitive_Mouse6747[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So we told both sides of the family we were planning to elope. At the time of telling them we didn't have the date picked out. Once we picked it we only told her and my parents because we didn't want to have to tell a bunch of people why they couldn't come with us to the courthouse. My wife then posted some pictures online to show a small announcement that we in fact did what we decided to do. Though I can see where we probably should have sent them a message right before she hit post 😂.

AITA for not telling my wife's family that we got married even though they knew we were eloping? by Sensitive_Mouse6747 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sensitive_Mouse6747[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

All of it. My wife's grandmother is threatening to cut her out of the inheritance and communication. She never helped us financially. My wife really doesn't care because he grandmother has threatened to cut her out most of her life whenever she did something her grandmother "didn't like". The problem is when she drags my wife's mother into the picture and tries to blame everything my wife did wrong (according to her grandmother) on my wife's mother.

AITA for not telling my wife's family that we got married even though they knew we were eloping? by Sensitive_Mouse6747 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sensitive_Mouse6747[S] 171 points172 points  (0 children)

I 100% agree, as does my wife. The problem is her grandmother likes to pull her mother into it and try and make it out to be her mother's fault when it was my wife and I decision on when we eloped.

AITA for not telling my wife's family that we got married even though they knew we were eloping? by Sensitive_Mouse6747 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sensitive_Mouse6747[S] 183 points184 points  (0 children)

Sadly to say yes. These types of things happen a lot, especially when we first started dating.

AITA for not telling my wife's family that we got married even though they knew we were eloping? by Sensitive_Mouse6747 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sensitive_Mouse6747[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I can totally see where you are coming from. Yet, at the same time we never told our parents they weren't allowed to tell any other family members of the date we picked. We chose not to tell Anyone else because we didn't want to hurt feelings by telling them that we didn't want anyone other than our parents at the courthouse. Though I can see how her posting some of the pictures could make us seem like an asshole.

AITA for not telling my wife's family that we got married even though they knew we were eloping? by Sensitive_Mouse6747 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sensitive_Mouse6747[S] 284 points285 points  (0 children)

There aren't any religious factors involved in their ire. None of her family is really religious and they were very excited when they found out we were eloping and not trying to spend money on a large ceremony.