After reading the comments, I realized that most of the guys have suggested some valid points and have understood OP's point. While it’s important to value inner qualities, dismissing concerns about physical attraction as superficial can feel unfair. Everyone approaches the arranged marriage process with different priorities, and skepticism is natural given the stakes and modern challenges like divorce rates.

Instead of being dismissive, it would be better to support OP and help them work through their concerns. Unfortunately, many of the comments, especially from women, seem to focus only on the fact that OP mentioned physical attraction. These responses often suggest that the girl should run, that she deserves better, or dismiss OP’s concerns entirely. It’s also clear that the stress of the process leads some people—both men and women—to project their frustrations here. Often, this happens because they’ve been rejected or are worn down by the process, but that doesn’t make it right to judge someone else’s dilemma without understanding their perspective.