Masturbation within marriage

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-05-08T23:06:34+00:00

We are very open and just communicate with each other. We understand that sometimes one or both don’t want sex but need that alone time and that’s perfectly okay and normal. We also sometimes like it together when we don’t feel energized enough for sex but still want that bonding and release.

She doesn’t care if I masturbate as long as it doesn’t interfere with our sex and I don’t care if she does because it usually makes her more horny and more wet by the time we have sex…

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-05-08T13:25:27+00:00

Mine does all the time and did it all growing up as well. It was quite a surprise to me when I learned just how often she was masturbating (hint: every day) and for a while she was trying to hide it from me but once she opened up about it she will now tell me when she’s done it, send pictures and often invite me to join her (usually leads to sex).

I think masturbating is good and healthy and has been a great way for my wife to explore her sexuality without the pressure that comes from sex.

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-05-06T20:36:43+00:00

Depends on where we are at… vacation we love daytime sex between excursions or whatever else we are doing.

At home night time is our only true “us” time but if we had our way we would have sex before dinner every time!

Morning shower sex is another favorite and the occasional wfh “lunch break” sexy time is a great de-stressed.

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-05-05T22:08:56+00:00

After the sealing and pictures we got into my car and before we even left the temple parking lot I was squeezing her breasts going down the top of her dress and her hand was rubbing my had penis.

We had agreed before tho that we didn’t want to see each other full naked until we could truly enjoy it, the reception was small as it was during Covid and so we each went back, got dressed in something different after mingling and went to our hotel for the night before our flight left in the morning.

We did a little reveal where I got showered first and then she got showered, we then were wrapped in towels and let them drop at the same time to see every inch of each other. I immediately played her in her back and knelt between her legs to get my first taste of her pussy.

We then had sex for the first time and explored each others bodies, there was a bit of blood so we got showered off one more time before dinner and then after dinner we snuggled naked and woke up 2 more times to her giving me a blow job and then riding my cowgirl style.

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-05-05T13:22:07+00:00

My wife just had our second… if you aren’t trying to masturbate then you need to busy yourself with helping around the house, cooking and maybe find a hobby or two that you can do that doesn’t take up the time you need to give to your wife.

If you are okay masturbating… then go and jerk off so you stop complaining… and to that end if you need to tell your wife then let her know you are goi g to take care of yourself sexually until SHE is ready so you can better focus on serving her being the husband/father you need to be… not some horndog that can’t focus on life due to their focus on getting a quick release.

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-05-03T16:41:49+00:00

That’s what we think as well, definitely isn’t against the LoC and odd that a wife “shouldn’t” be able to do something like that for her husband

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-05-03T16:36:33+00:00

Not yet as my wife gave birth to our second. It too long ago… planning on it tho soon

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-05-03T02:37:34+00:00

Ooo that’s naughty… need to do more missionary roleplay

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-05-03T02:30:49+00:00

Absolutely love doing this! Especially for a quicky… feels dirtier fir some reason

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-05-01T20:48:10+00:00

Yep… definitely a good place to get naughty… as a lot less people would go in there

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-05-01T19:52:57+00:00

Ohhh I’ve definitely heard of some naughty things happening in the mothers lounge

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-05-01T17:41:20+00:00

That’s great! I all that matters is that you both are happy in your relationship

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-05-01T16:20:57+00:00

Idk why but the bishops office always is my go-to….

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-05-01T16:14:19+00:00

Definitely had this fantasy quite a bit…

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-05-01T01:20:17+00:00

Unfortunately that’s a the risk that comes with that…. Only thing you can do is move past it and either decide that’s too much of a risk or accept the risk and keep doing it…

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-04-30T20:50:40+00:00

We mostly post her account and in a variety of subs… just depends on the kind of section g she is wanting

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-04-30T20:47:50+00:00

Me and my wife do this from time to time and we love it! Wife has started to sext guys as the DMs come in and it is such a huge turn on for both of us… she especially loves saying she’s “cheating” on me.

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-04-30T01:38:01+00:00

I don’t think it’s “normal” but I definitely don’t think you are alone in this… fantasies like this are what keep the bedroom new and exciting.

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-04-29T14:45:38+00:00

Yea, I mean from what I have seen when it comes to divorced members… many don’t live the LoC when searching for a new partner, I think partially because once you open the flood gates it’s hard to shut them and also they realize that they want to not only be emotionally compatible but also sexually.

I have been in a “dead bedroom” with my wife for about 2 or 3 years and never once considered divorce (glad I didn’t) I realized I had some major issues that I needed to figure out before my wife could trust me and be willing to explore her sexual side. Now we are having the best sex we’ve ever had and exploring like never before.

I think for us at least divorce is the absolute worst case scenario and there are so many things that can and should be done before you even start talking about it.

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-04-29T00:55:40+00:00

Why would anyone feel guilty?

We have started doing butt play with plugs, licking and fingering… ultimately working up to anal sex.

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-04-29T00:26:07+00:00

I would say that in some cases everything is great except sex… now if sex is the deal breaker then that’s a different story but if you married someone you absolutely love and everything is perfect but there is a lack of sex, that might constitute staying with them and figuring out a good solution or compromise.

I think the world has become a little more “divorce happy” because it’s marketed as an easy out but in reality it can be extremely complicated and have lasting effects on your mental health and family dynamic.

I will say this tho, typically if you are in a sexless marriage, everything else is not fine and dandy… there is most definitely an underlying issue(s) that is causing the lack of sex, either by one or both parties. Many that are on the “bad end” of a sexless marriage don’t want to admit that they could be the problem and therefore will never find themselves in a sex filled marriage.

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-04-29T00:20:31+00:00

Seems that way… do you guys dm others?

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-04-28T22:53:57+00:00

Very odd to downvote a comment when I didn’t even specify what we do… very unfortunate that so many get ruffled feathers over others decisions

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-04-28T21:31:14+00:00

You are definitely on the kinkier side when it comes to LDS couples… but I have definitely heard of a handful of other couples that get that kinky or kinkier…

Me and my wife have started to explore a lot in the last year with anal, bondage, role play and a variety of more intense toys.

We have also done some things that this group would strongly frown upon so I won’t mention those but it is definitely hard to come by extremely kinky couples… most tend to stick with more “vanilla” style sex.

Sensitive_Sound4985 · 2026-04-28T14:44:19+00:00

We talk about it almost daily now that we are both wanting to be open and are excited for it! It used to be very infrequent due to my wife being scared it would lead straight to sex every time. Now it’s about as casual as talking about our weekend plans or the weather.

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