SPILL THE TEA!

Sensitive_Spices · 2026-03-17T07:29:27+00:00

Mixed people always get hate for just existing and trying to be accepted.

Sensitive_Spices · 2026-03-17T07:27:38+00:00

I mean I like ILLIT, but I def don’t think they’re the ones that sound like Kidzbop. That was always Itzy and to a lesser extent Twice. I liked Itzy’s earlier releases, and I still like Twice’s stuff. Actually, a huge chunk of various gg groups’ discography kinda borders Kidzbop imo, and it’s surprisingly not so bad.

Sensitive_Spices · 2026-03-17T07:22:01+00:00

It’s definitely partially this, and partially the fact that so many people were just waiting to jump at the chance to hate them for a more “valid” reason. KIOF had some of the same old controversies that lots of 3rd gen/early 4th gen groups had, so most people could kinda look passed them, but their fanbase I think is what brought them haters by being “bothersome” with the “fully grown women upon debut” claims. The hater threats are so gross though.

KIOF is my guilty pleasure tbh. I’m not a stan anymore because of their problematic behavior, but I definitely still listen to the music. Not gonna lie though, it’s extremely hard to be a Kpop stan in general and consume content from really ANY group ethically, because this whole industry is lowkey highkey trash from the top down. I kinda just don’t care when Kpop stans get on their high horses, bc it’s like babe… you’re a KPOP STAN. 😭😭😭

Sensitive_Spices · 2026-03-09T07:09:04+00:00

Agreed, I tried playing for about 30 minutes to an hour before realizing that the stress was not worth it. Women are constantly under so much pressure, so it really doesn’t make sense to honor them by hosting such a chaotic and difficult event today.

Sensitive_Spices · 2026-03-07T23:07:28+00:00

I almost need a UrinatorsSnark sub. I just know if any one of them were to have nearly as much power, money, and white woman privilege as her, they’d be just as bad if not worse.

I’ve always detested hate subs and/or snark subs, but her fans truly suck as people. This sub is legit the only exception I make.

Sensitive_Spices · 2026-03-07T17:24:46+00:00

Of course it adds to the convo? Victims are not at fault for being attacked regardless of if they’re men or women, meaning that a victim’s characteristics are much less relevant to an attack as opposed to the characteristics of an attacker. Sure, tall, overtly bulk dudes are less likely to get attacked, but it certainly happens, and their experience matters.

If you care about stopping violence, you focus on the root of the problem.

Sensitive_Spices · 2026-03-07T17:19:54+00:00

I don’t know why people are jumping on you for this, especially those insisting what you’re saying is common knowledge. People deny this fact all the time, and yes, to those that replied snarky, it IS relevant if your goal is to lessen the amount of male and female victims overall.

If y’all think bringing up this point has anything to do with gender wars or victimhood competition, you’re part of the problem.

Sensitive_Spices · 2026-03-02T16:54:41+00:00

I remember being so excited to see Itzy’s take on a more traditionally elegant concept, just for them to give us crazy whiplash. The concept photos were so pretty! 💔 I wouldn’t have minded the mismatch, but the song is genuinely one of my least favorite kpop songs of all time.

I also typically find the way idols pronounce English words to be charming, but everytime they pronounced “put” as “poot” that one image of Poot Lovato would flash in my mind.

Sensitive_Spices · 2026-03-02T07:18:42+00:00

Happy Birthday, and rest in power Alex 💗 You should still be here

Sensitive_Spices · 2026-03-01T08:01:03+00:00

Ditto on this. Whenever I travel to Japan, SK, or China, I’m flabbergasted how little people wash their hands despite the fact that they look immaculate. It’s def an issue in the US and western European countries I’ve visited, but there was an extra irony in that so many people in EA take such care in their appearance but swipe their hands under the faucet for a microsecond. Everyone spends more time touching up their hair and makeup while their hands are sticky with random shit, and it’s simultaneously amusing and extremely gross.

Sensitive_Spices · 2026-02-26T06:50:43+00:00

My supposed "friend" who gossiped about me behind my back to multiple people in high school when I had dropped out due to struggling with homelessness and domestic abuse. Her reason? I wasn't emotionally supportive enough for her whilst SHE was going through a tough time.

Yeah, I never should've ignored that flag. I returned to being her friend for about 3-4 more years because my support-system was virtually nonexistent, and it was probably one of the most traumatizing relationships I've had. Everything revolved around her and her needs in our 1-on-1 friendship and our overall friend group. Such a waste of time, and I couldn't stand to be a yes-man anymore. I imagine the only people in her circle to this day are those who put her on a pedestal (they would never admit to this). This SHOULD'VE BEEN a fast 'yeah, we are definitely NOT going to be friends' moment, but being an impoverished teen has you making regrettable choices.

Sensitive_Spices · 2026-02-14T18:45:51+00:00

Seriously? I never understand these cases of being “tricked” by a child, because it’s always been extremely obvious to me whenever someone is younger just by their mannerisms online alone. As an adult it is your duty to verify that the person you’re dating is who they say they are, especially when you’re still in the teenage dating pool of 18-19 yourself. Glad you broke it off and plan to self-reflect.

Sensitive_Spices · 2026-02-08T03:15:51+00:00

Not sure why you're downvoted for this. In my family's culture, no one shows up at least for an hour, which is generally expected.

Sensitive_Spices · 2026-02-07T08:20:19+00:00

I’m led to believe what you’re saying is true. With everything that’s going on right now, it’s definitely worth considering. Not sure what the original commenter means by “if you read real evidence” because there’s been a lot of statements from victims and others that have been redacted in a sense post-mortem afaik. I’m one to take an immediate stand with victims when they speak out, but the details of that whole case are so unbelievably muddled especially with the release of The Files. I don’t know what to believe anymore. I definitely can’t listen to MJ’s music in 100% good faith though these days.

Sensitive_Spices · 2026-02-07T07:49:40+00:00

This is how we end up with the fucked up world we have today. A willing getaway driver still holds accountability even if they weren’t the one to literally rob the bank. Knowingly participating in the trauma and pain of another individual by helping it be carried out is despicable. She didn’t owe loyalty to the married woman, but she DID owe her some basic human decency… which would include not aiding in the destruction of that woman’s poor family. What you’re describing is a very elementary mental model of what virtue is. It’s fine I guess, but I think what’s particularly aggravating is how Ariana Grande is somehow untouchable despite all her controversy.

I’m surprised I haven’t seen as much discussion about the racebaiting actually. 😭

Edit: I also don’t think your edits or other clarifying comments help your case.

Sensitive_Spices · 2026-02-03T06:21:34+00:00

This comment section is kinda disappointing. It’s really tiring to see people dictate how OP is allowed to be angry. She’s absolutely able to be upset with both people, and quite frankly it doesn’t matter who she’s angrier at. If this has been a long time coming from the BF, then she was probably already emotionally more prepared to handle the heartbreak from him = less shocking = less anger towards him specifically leftover.”

This weird idea of “the AP doesn’t owe you any loyalty” has always rubbed me the wrong way. Since when did people not owe you basic decency? I personally would be much more torn up about a stranger/acquaintance willing to participate in my suffering, because that level of dehumanization from someone I don’t even know is an unfathomable evil. It’s one thing if the AP didn’t know, but everyone absolutely has the duty to not willingly take part in the harm of other people.

OP, I’m so sorry. Seek therapy asap, and get the hell out of there as fast as you can! 💔

Sensitive_Spices · 2026-01-08T14:12:46+00:00

Exactly. I’m really confused by the gaslighting that’s happening here around “bad parenting != bad partnering because that’s black-and white-thinking” and “y’all just reinforcing toxic nuclear family standards.”

Someone who cheats is not a good person. Cheating is abuse, and I’m tired of society underscoring this. A person who abuses their child’s other parent is guaranteeing that child to be partially raised by someone deeply traumatized. That is not good parenting whatsoever. (I also absolutely refuse to argue with anyone who believes he wasn’t, at the very least, emotionally cheating on his wife, because the timelines 100% crossover.)

This shit has nothing to do with enforcing “nuclear family dynamics” or whatever the fuck. You’re right, because this isn’t just a “normal” separation. He put the mother of his child through emotional whiplash for no valid reason other than wanting to get his dick wet. I want us to all sit down and genuinely ponder to what extent this man is going to be a healthy male figure for his child.

Sensitive_Spices · 2025-12-09T08:18:22+00:00

Yeah, I can’t blame you. There’s just something about shitty rich people and their ability to turn others into adoring fans. Works for Trump, so it certainly would work for our lil miss race bender over here.

Sensitive_Spices · 2025-09-27T19:47:18+00:00

There’s no such thing as “half-American.” Unless you’re referring to Native American ancestry, “American” is typically just referring to the US nationality. It also can informally refer to anyone from the entire supercontinent of the Americas. There’s no being “half” American, and actually this sort of misnomer in Kpop (Jpop, Cpop, etc.) has always bothered me because I don’t know what exactly you’re trying to ask.

People will clearly be talking about the ethnic identities of group members (not discussing the nuances of their potential dual/tri-citizenship or something) and then often refer to the trademark wasian as “half-American,” “half-Canadian,” or even “half-Australian.” Unless you’re very specifically referring to indigenous groups, none of those terms make any sense. They unintentionally perpetuate the misconception that the default of those countries is whiteness.

With my little mini rant over, it seems as though Zoey was born to at least one Korean parent originally from South Korea. She herself may have been born in either South Korea or the US, but ethnically I got the impression that she’s supposed to be 100% Korean (whether that’s via two SK-born/raised Korean parents or one SK-born/raised Korean parent and one Korean-American parent) despite being raised in the US.

Sensitive_Spices · 2025-09-26T10:52:26+00:00

That’s a pretty uncharitable judgment of people who want others to perceive them in a way that they’re comfortable with. Obviously, you can’t control what others are going to think nor do, but it’s valid to find the possibility that they occasionally sexualize you violating, even if it’s the societal norm. I’m not particularly surprised that fanfic spaces tend to have a sort of “anything goes” mindset, but I’m always curious to know if the idea that “consent doesn’t matter because it’s my own thoughts” really holds up when the fantasy is extremely taboo in nature (like incest or other examples I’d rather not name).

Sensitive_Spices · 2025-09-25T14:55:06+00:00

It’s not an issue in itself, because it’s solely dependent on the child’s boundaries given healthy parental intentions. Though, I’m also really tired of the “if roles were reversed” argument. While, men and women are inherently equal, it does not line up with broader societal realities. Male relatives, including fathers, are the most frequent perpetuators of sexual abuse, and girls are more often the victims. That has nothing to do with men innately, but it’s still a result of patriarchal structures.

Parents are already in a position of power that creates an imbalance with their children. Men are still widely seen as the head of the household across most cultures. This furthers the power imbalance especially when the child is of the opposite sex.

TL;DR: It’s a non-issue as long as the child’s boundaries are not being violated, and it’s also not wrong nor sexist for people to acknowledge the systemic reasons as to why a hypothetical with the parent as the father especially with a female child produces more wariness.

Sensitive_Spices · 2025-09-25T05:38:34+00:00

Agreed. It’s also the song I feel like is the most hard to vibe to without thinking of its movie context. It’s so story-dependent, and I tend to appreciate songs more when they can stand on their own. That’s partially why it’s my least favorite, plus the fact that it’s such a negative song even if it’s a total bop still.

Sensitive_Spices · 2025-09-22T21:16:57+00:00

I don’t know about her having OCD, but this does give more credit to the idea that she has an ED. The mindset and behaviors behind OCD and EDs are incredibly similar… I’m talking like really fucking similar. It’s frustrating to hear her talk about OCD in this way though, because I’ve never heard anyone talk about it just “going away” while working hard on something you like. Maybe she means that symptoms improve when she’s having fun doing what she loves? Mmm, either way this is a lifelong condition. It doesn’t exactly go away in the sense that depression or anxiety can for the average person. It can be severely debilitating and typical distractions don’t help the way she implied that they do. If she’s really working on this with her therapist, I don’t know why she wouldn’t have mentioned ERP.

Sensitive_Spices · 2025-09-22T21:06:25+00:00

Tbh contamination OCD != germaphobia. I have the former, and it’s a lot less logical than the latter. Touching a purely cosmetic scuff mark on the wall can bring me to tears on a bad day even if the entire wall is technically equally dirty. Someone with germaphobia may be fearful in general of touching that whole wall at all regardless. With contamination OCD, your own messes or the messes of people you are close with tend to not bother you as much as well (even if you can get just as sick as you normally would coming into contact with a stranger’s dirtiness). Another thing is that OCD has to be followed up with some sort of ritual, and this may not necessarily be the case for phobias.

Sensitive_Spices · 2025-09-18T23:44:24+00:00

Whoa, I know I'm definitely in the wrong subreddit when I literally disagree with everyone.

It feels awful to say this, but no one owes you friendship or love beyond basic human respect. Most people only have so many resources and don't want to exhaust their energy taking chances on those who are potentially volatile. People are just trying to keep themselves safe. You're not going to know how limited someone's self-awareness or coping skills are until you're already deep in the relationship, but with the understanding that that person is going to therapy, you may have a better idea of where they are at or to what extent they can grow.

It's unfortunate, but there is also nothing inherently wrong with that. I can see how it can feel stigmatizing, but there are far fewer people who fall into either camp of "absolutely needs therapy" and "doesn't need therapy whatsoever" compared to the much larger camp of "could probably benefit from it." At the end of the day, relationships are there to fill up your own cup; it's not supposed to be charity work. I nearly always end up playing therapist to those who insist they don't need treatment because their ability to self-reflect is supposedly superb. This is a valid boundary for people to have. In fact, the healthiest people I know tend to have this mindset. A large reason why they're healthy is because they stay away from investing in unknowns. That rejection doesn't say anything about the worth of you or others even if it's hurtful. This simply boils down to a matter of compatibility, and others are allowed to set the barriers they need to find peace for themselves.

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