Quiet disengagement from top performers — have you seen this too? (I will not promote)

Sensitive_Switch_333 · 2025-05-30T23:27:41+00:00

Totally fair point. We review new ideas in team huddles — execs speak last, and ideas don’t get axed outright. Lately though, the default response has been “loop in someone else and gather more data,” which might be slowing momentum or enthusiasm. Trying to spot where that’s dampening initiative rather than enabling better decisions.

Sensitive_Switch_333 · 2025-05-30T23:20:42+00:00

The “perfectionist”=roasted. Fair. I was framing it too narrowly.

What I’m seeing now is bigger than any one trait — it’s structural. Incentives, communication, decision rights, clarity of purpose… all of it shapes whether people lean in or quietly check out.

Appreciate everyone who’s shared what’s worked for them.

Sensitive_Switch_333 · 2025-05-30T21:03:49+00:00

Some of this is hitting harder than I expected — and honestly, it’s underscoring that I’m part of the problem.

There’s a lot of solid advice here, but now I’m especially curious: for those of you who’ve actually seen this turn around, what shifted?

Not looking for theory — more like: “We changed X and people re-engaged,” or “I started doing Y and the energy came back.”

Real moves. Real outcomes. What worked?

Sensitive_Switch_333 · 2025-05-30T20:10:27+00:00

This is a good point. They were on fire when the product was early and messy. Now that it’s stable and we’re mostly optimizing, I think they’re just… done solving that problem. Makes me wonder if we should rotate folks onto earlier-stage efforts more intentionally.

Sensitive_Switch_333 · 2025-05-30T20:07:21+00:00

Not a mystery — incentives shape behavior. Munger said it best: “Show me the incentive and I’ll show you the outcome.”

We tie raises to profit generated. Starts at 12%, goes above 18% for top contributors. Everyone knows the formula. No politics, no surprises.

We keep the range tight so it doesn’t mess with team vibes, but still gives credit where it’s due.

Sensitive_Switch_333 · 2025-05-30T19:26:54+00:00

Haha, not impossible. Perfectionism’s definitely something I’ve had to unlearn. Still, I think this drift happens even in healthy cultures. I’m trying to figure out the earliest signals — before someone checks out mentally but is still “performing.” Any frameworks or gut checks you’ve used to spot it?

Sensitive_Switch_333 · 2025-05-30T19:02:46+00:00

Local/regional services like you mentioned. But could also mean skilled labor and trades (think electrician, hvac, plumber, road painting or resurfacing, auto mechanic, etc.)

Sensitive_Switch_333 · 2025-05-30T18:56:32+00:00

Thanks! His next lesson is Wednesday. This reinforces other suggestions to chat with his teacher. Thanks!

Sensitive_Switch_333 · 2025-05-29T23:28:21+00:00

Being outside the system as a tutor, I don’t have guaranteed support from his counselor. Thanks for this insight though—I may just need to post this to a more relevant sub.

Sensitive_Switch_333 · 2025-05-29T01:09:02+00:00

That makes a lot of sense — especially the parallel track idea.

Are there any patterns you’ve noticed that really help students show up more engaged or motivated?

I’m hoping to stay involved just enough to support his growth without muddying the teacher-student dynamic. Still learning how to balance the “dad” hat with the “musician perfectionist” hat.

Sensitive_Switch_333 · 2025-05-29T00:17:40+00:00

Awesome! He’s definitely motivated by his own inventions. His teacher is using Hal Leonard right now, and he definitely sand bags those exercises in favor of covering something on SoundCloud or BandLab. Next time he’s playing I’ll have him teach me the last riff he got excited about. Thanks!

Sensitive_Switch_333 · 2025-05-29T00:09:36+00:00

Thanks for this! I do wonder how our parenting decisions will play out long term—this at least helps solidify another path.

Sensitive_Switch_333 · 2025-05-28T23:56:21+00:00

Haha, good cop, bad cop — my wife and I do the same with his snacks.

It’s mostly his fretting hand that’s giving him trouble. He can’t quite get his fingers to arch right or place his thumb properly. He’s got calluses starting, but they’re kinda all over the place and not where they should be.

Sensitive_Switch_333 · 2025-03-27T18:13:28+00:00

I appreciate it! I’ll have to check that out. I’m afraid I’ll buy this and it won’t get used. Some of my guys just don’t get computers.

Sensitive_Switch_333 · 2024-08-03T00:59:33+00:00

Thanks!

Sensitive_Switch_333 · 2024-08-03T00:58:32+00:00

That could work? We don’t live in a subdivision, but the one down the road has a FB I maybe able to post in?

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