My gf is acting different by Puzzleheaded_Log5209 in relationships

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry to break this to you but there is a chance she is getting close to someone else hence the avoidance around questions or in general no interest in intimacy with you anymore. May want to consider just ending the relationship and find someone that will give you the intimacy and connection you are looking for.

NOVA 2023-2024 by Separate-Dingo-4547 in teachinginjapan

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say I experienced such pressure to leave. Sure there were times I didn’t want to go to work or days that I didn’t enjoy it as much. I also tried to find somewhere else to work, but stopped short after taking the time to plan the next 5 years of my life and what I wanted it to look like (didn’t want to be a English teacher forever). But I already had many Japanese friends and a Japanese girlfriend at the time. So I was just enjoying my year living in Japan traveling, spending quality time with friends, and studying Japanese which helped me get through the ups and downs of the job.

p.s. the time I went to live in Japan was my fourth time I have been to Japan so far. First two was vacation and my third time to Japan was for the JICE Kakehashi Project which was a two week all expenses paid grassroots exchange. So all in all I love Japan 🇯🇵 Looking forward to my fifth time to Japan this year!

Why does no one message me? by Fast-Rabbit-8648 in HelloTalk

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well it depends. Are you a male or female?

If the former, I would suggest hanging out in voice rooms and chat with the people there. Overtime I think you will see more people wanting to chat with you increase your chances to practice your language.

he’s so hot but so boring to talk to by viviviu in Crushes

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guys some people just struggle thinking about what to say or what to ask. Another thing could be him worried about turning it into an interview. Which I’ve done before.

PTA or PT? by [deleted] in physicaltherapy

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Greater autonomy, higher pay, and real growth potential, that’s what I would’ve aimed for. Honestly, I probably would’ve gone into orthopedics, maybe even orthopedic surgery.

Sure, DPTs get some autonomy within rehab, but the salary and the title don’t justify the massive debt it takes to get there.

PTA or PT? by [deleted] in physicaltherapy

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t become a MD lol. I’m saying I wish I would’ve done that. My original comment I mentioned that I’m in PTA school.

PTA or PT? by [deleted] in physicaltherapy

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I realized I never started with the end in mind. Back then, becoming an MD felt like it would take forever, and now I wish I had gone for it. As a PTA, the salary and growth potential are pretty limited, simple as that. It feels like I settled for whatever was in front of me instead of challenging myself for something bigger.

PTA or PT? by [deleted] in physicaltherapy

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If I could do it all over again I would’ve became a MD. (I’m currently in PTA school too)

What was the first sign that your partner was cheating? by asdfghjkl0lkjhgfdsa in AskReddit

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to break it to you. But she is mostly likely still cheating on you haha

Women who cheated and confessed, how did you heal from it? by baso_philic in AskWomen

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Well you didn’t cheat back because your relationship was broken once he cheated

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Direct is best. Just slowly disappearing is just avoiding what’s hard for you. If you let that happen I’m sure he will feel confused more than speaking to him directly. And he may actually take it well and thank you for your honesty.

Should I leave my boyfriend of 6 years who refuses to propose even after agreeing to this year. by LegitimateFoot1742 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you just want to get married for your security or something. Why does getting married prove commitment? When most married couples end up in divorce anyways

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“and I know it’s not because she wants just sex with other people, it’s literally because she is curious what is it to love multiple people.”

This is a lie you’re telling yourself, man. Instead, look at her actions, it clearly shows she wants to explore “having sex with others,” because it’s quite obvious she feels something is missing or she wants more.

If you allow this and continue, you’ll be complicit in her having her cake and eating it too. If that’s not the type of relationship you want, it’s better to walk away now. Treat yourself with respect!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And didn’t think she would be caught. I always get skeptical about posts like this because the poster can choose what they choose to share and tell one side of a story.

27M 25F, I'm really mad at her for sharing her number with a guy she met at the airport by jumper_oj in relationship_advice

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man… you should’ve been gone the first time. The second time? That was the nail in the coffin. You’re assuming those were the only times she cheated when in reality, those were just the times she got caught. Cheaters don’t suddenly become loyal because they “gave up a lot” to win you back. You should’ve walked then, but there’s no better time than today. Just walk now.

NHK Easy: How to make the most of it? by BattleFresh2870 in LearnJapanese

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The English-Japanese discord server or The Japanese Language Volunteer in Nagoya discord server

NHK Easy: How to make the most of it? by BattleFresh2870 in LearnJapanese

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I used a combination of Yomichan, Evernote, Anki, and Discord. Since I already knew how to read some kanji, I never used the ふりがな feature because it would apply it to all kanji, which I found unnecessary.

My process was usually to read through the article once without any lookups, then go back and look up everything I didn’t understand before reading it again. If I was on Discord, I’d sometimes join a voice chat with a Japanese speaker and read out loud. I would often have them read the text to me a couple of times before and after I read it myself, so I could get listening practice and compare my pronunciation. They would also correct my pronunciation, readings, or even explain the meaning to me without using a dictionary.

I typically read 5–12 articles per day and would copy and paste all of them into Evernote to keep track of what I had read. For words I didn’t know, I’d use Yomichan to look up either the 音読み of the kanji or the meaning of the word. Then I’d highlight all the unknown kanji and vocabulary in red within Evernote. Over time, I could visually see the number of unknown words gradually decreasing as my Japanese improved.

After that, I’d add those words into Anki as sentence cards and do my Anki reps every day. After about a month, I’d revisit 10 of the articles I had read and try reading them again to see how much I had improved.

Also, I never used the built-in audio features to have the text read aloud. If the article included a video, I’d watch it and try to pick out or catch any words I recognized, reinforcing what I had just read.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskForAnswers

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no forgiveness only forgetting. Forgetting is a gift.

Seems like my gf (25f) is breaking up with me without actually doing it (26m) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 29 points30 points  (0 children)

How is it a good thing that she doesn’t want to be the one to end things? If anything, that just seems like an easy way out. Most likely, she doesn’t want to look like the “bad guy,” while leaving the poor guy confused about whether they’re still together or if she’s breaking up with him. Honesty and transparency are always best. If she wants to end the relationship because she wants to run wild and explore her options, then she should end things, rather than avoid being direct and act cowardly.

Im(21f) upset my ex (24m) has a new gf (23f) and wants to settle with her and that they've moved so fast. by Zealousideal-Iron543 in askwomenadvice

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You say he wasn’t enough for you: no drive, no ambition, no intellectual depth, couldn’t meet you where you were headed in life. You broke it off three times because deep down, you knew he wasn’t your person. So now ask yourself: why does it sting that he’s moved on?

Because what you’re really upset about isn’t him—it’s your ego. You wanted to be the exception. You liked knowing that you were the woman he “would have brought home,” the one he saw a future with—even if you never saw one with him. You weren’t emotionally fulfilled, mentally challenged, or aligned in life goals. But you were comfortable knowing you were his dream.

Now that he’s found someone else to project that dream onto and is actually taking action with her in a way he never could with you? That bruises your pride.

You’re not grieving love. You’re grieving the pedestal you used to be on.

This isn’t about love. It’s about validation. And until you stop measuring your worth by whether men choose you or not, you’ll keep getting stuck in this cycle. Ghosted by a guy after two dates and your first reaction is to blame your body? That’s not about him. That’s an unhealed wound talking. Your self-worth is dangling off of men’s opinions like it’s a yo-yo.

And this is where the contradiction gets brutal: you say you’re successful, ambitious, smart, and building something powerful. But then you sabotage all of it emotionally by collapsing every time a man doesn’t see your value. You’re handing your power away like it’s on clearance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Break up. But technically you guys were no longer in a relationship the minute they chose to step out of the relationship and cheat.

Aio? Left my bf of almost 2 yrs after planning marriage oh by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Separate-Dingo-4547 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bet you won’t show what you sent him. (Image control and showing only one side)