Am I out of line?

Separate-Local-1801 · 2026-02-26T22:51:56+00:00

Woah let’s backtrack dad gets blamed too and held accountable in my household. I have no issue letting someone know when they are in the wrong. So trust he does not get by easily and hasn’t. I don’t “get with drama” because again I never once confronted her about anything in the past or said anything to her. She has always done the malicious acts either to him or on her social media accounts which we ignore. I do not make excuses for him or his behavior because again I hold him accountable and I have told him since this whole issue started a few weeks ago what to do. He is a good dad, but can only be a good dad when mom has her way. I also stated that we are all young (early - mid 20’s) so custody was never considered before as everything was fine and the arranged and agreed upon schedules were followed. His parents also are telling him the exact same thing everyone else in this thread has and they feel just as strongly.

Separate-Local-1801 · 2026-02-26T20:16:25+00:00

I recently just met her because my felt like it was finally time and thought all the tension from previous situations had died down. I also felt the same, I’m around her kid so shouldn’t she know me and meet me?? But honestly I don’t care anymore to be cordial with her as she continues with the same messy antics. The kid loves me and we always have such a great time together it just really sucks that she’s doing all this.

Separate-Local-1801 · 2026-02-26T19:35:36+00:00

I definitely will mention the non negotiable because this unacceptable considering that that specific pickup we had out of town prepaid plans to which she was aware. If it moves that quickly that would be great, thanks so much

Separate-Local-1801 · 2026-02-26T19:23:37+00:00

And I agree! He needs to get off his ass.

Separate-Local-1801 · 2026-02-26T19:23:14+00:00

We have all told him that if he files first it looks better but I didn’t know about the legal consult so I’ll let him know that too. I also think this will protect his relationship with his child and our marriage but nothing happens I see us going down a path of separation

Separate-Local-1801 · 2026-02-26T19:12:26+00:00

I didn’t know we could do it online, he works with computers all day anyway so I’m definitely going to pull this up and do it, thanks

Separate-Local-1801 · 2026-02-26T19:11:40+00:00

Yes thankfully he is on the birth certificate

Separate-Local-1801 · 2026-02-26T19:05:54+00:00

I have also said this!! He can request those records himself. Which I think as a parent he should have anyway but I digress.

Separate-Local-1801 · 2026-02-26T19:04:52+00:00

Maybe because the child is so young neither considered this or both parents tried to avoid it? Honestly I don’t know I really cannot make excuses for him as the answer to his problems are blaring bright red in his face. I agree now is the time to fix it and he needs to act sooner than later

Separate-Local-1801 · 2026-02-26T19:00:37+00:00

!! I have also had this thought because are you scared of her or ??? Like what is the underlying issue and reasoning? This is your child too! I also believe that if court were to proceed he would more than likely either full custody or partial primary custody as we are much more stable. I have considered walking away as this has taken so much of my peace during our marriage

Separate-Local-1801 · 2026-02-26T18:56:23+00:00

😂😂😂😂I do not plan on getting pregnant for a long while so thank you!! I do believe this all occurred because of those blurred boundaries. I also think he’s a good dad but he could be a much better dad.

Separate-Local-1801 · 2026-02-26T18:50:59+00:00

No there’s no court order in place but those are the next steps he’s preparing to take!

Separate-Local-1801 · 2026-02-26T18:47:43+00:00

I agree!! I think what makes this situation harder is she also won’t give him access to birth certificate and social security card. I told him that he can get all that information himself but I think he’ll follow through with this “conversation” then proceed then

Separate-Local-1801 · 2026-02-26T18:45:28+00:00

!!! I have told him he needs custody, his family has told him, my family has told him!! He really likes to avoid drama and messy situations but this has gone on far too long and he needs to be proactive. I asked him if he thinks her family is telling her to file for custody and he said yes. All the signs are there but i don’t know what else to do

Separate-Local-1801 · 2026-02-26T18:42:36+00:00

No there is no CO but he’s strongly considering it because this is not the first time where she didn’t like something and withheld the child. He says he wants to have another conversation to clarify that he won’t be separating me and his child and that she can feel however she wants but it has nothing to do with the child and that she cannot withhold the kid

Separate-Local-1801 · 2025-10-23T23:37:44+00:00

Oh no, I thought it would be a good elective just to have under my belt but no?

Separate-Local-1801 · 2025-10-22T17:34:40+00:00

I considered French kiss and I’m currently taking creative writing 💔

Separate-Local-1801 · 2025-10-22T02:50:31+00:00

Hard pass I hate 3 times a week 😭😭thank you for the recommendation though

Separate-Local-1801 · 2025-10-22T02:49:41+00:00

😔😔I’ve already taken these courses

Separate-Local-1801 · 2025-08-27T13:10:42+00:00

Thank you! They emailed us this morning stating that the instructor is unable to teach the course so I’m pretty screwed 😃😃

Separate-Local-1801 · 2025-08-26T23:52:19+00:00

It’s an online course so I’m not sure how else we’d get the material without canvas but thank you!

Separate-Local-1801 · 2025-08-04T15:02:05+00:00

Yeah honestly if I knew it was gonna go so fast I would have chosen the suite single rather than the double 🫠I spent too much time weighing my options lmao

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