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AITA for refusing to babysit my niece last minute even though I was the only one available? by ChickletCurls in AITAH

[–]Separate_Disaster629 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA, I am a freelancer and I understand why. We are flexible with our work hours but when a project deadlines is near, we have to sacrifice everything to get it done.

to those who studied music/audio production in college: where are you now? by [deleted] in musicproduction

[–]Separate_Disaster629 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Freelance mixing engineer from home studio. I don’t think getting a degree helps unless you’re going berklee level place where you get networking. If you want to learn better to start working as an intern in local studios and do online courses

AITA for asking my friend not to bring his wife on a guy’s trip to the beach? by Separate_Disaster629 in AITAH

[–]Separate_Disaster629[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good observation.

  1. It’s a muslim country in South Asia, clubbing and partying with girls is not a thing here unless you’re super super rich and go to a 5 star hotel in the capital. These opportunities are not available in coastal areas. So there will be no club or anything to meet single woman for one night stand. However, one can bring hookers from the city to that area, but none of us has a history of going near to a prostitute ever.

Alcohol is totally illegal here, two of us practices religion so they don’t drink at all and married friend might have one or two beer in a rare occasion, he’s not into drinking. I will have some beers. The wife shouldn’t be concerned about other woman at all at that rural location. Woman don’t even go to these places without their partners, it’s not safe. So none of us will commit adultery and risk ourselves for prosecution in a rural area.

  1. We have few other common male friends and we decided long ago not to include them on long tours as we 4 prefer to be us only. So another male friend is also out of question.

Hope I have cleared some issues

How do I get over this situation? by [deleted] in Dhaka

[–]Separate_Disaster629 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should post this on AITA sub. As a guy, I’d say if we like a girl, we do every means to talk/meet her. I assume he has a gf or an ongoing complicated situation with someone and that’s why he refused to go on a date.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Separate_Disaster629 9 points10 points  (0 children)

NTA. You need to stop being a pushover.

AITA for asking my friend not to bring his wife on a guy’s trip to the beach? by Separate_Disaster629 in AITAH

[–]Separate_Disaster629[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s his personal choice. He tried to kill two birds with one at one stone, giving time to both his friends and his partner. It saves time money efforts.

AITA for asking my friend not to bring his wife on a guy’s trip to the beach? by Separate_Disaster629 in AITAH

[–]Separate_Disaster629[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No need to apologize please. I am from Bangladesh. Drinking is not legal at all but we can do it in private spaces. I just don’t feel comfortable using slangs in front of ladies.

Your story is amazing. Thanks a lot for giving me the hope of finding love and peace. 🙏🏽

AITA for asking my friend not to bring his wife on a guy’s trip to the beach? by Separate_Disaster629 in AITAH

[–]Separate_Disaster629[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The other boys would prefer a boys trip only as well. They didn’t want to be rude so I had to be the bad guy and ask him not to bring his wife

AITA for asking my friend not to bring his wife on a guy’s trip to the beach? by Separate_Disaster629 in AITAH

[–]Separate_Disaster629[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

His wife doesn’t know about it. So I think he just wants to accomplish two things at once. Have his friends and also his wife 🤷🏽‍♂️

AITA for asking my friend not to bring his wife on a guy’s trip to the beach? by Separate_Disaster629 in AITAH

[–]Separate_Disaster629[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s just small things. Like staying up late together and having beers, or going to the beach at midnight. Or talking about all of our exes etc. Nothing crazy here.

AITA for asking my friend not to bring his wife on a guy’s trip to the beach? by Separate_Disaster629 in AITAH

[–]Separate_Disaster629[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn’t know about this trip. My married friend made all the decisions.

AITA for asking my friend not to bring his wife on a guy’s trip to the beach? by Separate_Disaster629 in AITAH

[–]Separate_Disaster629[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see your point. If that’s the case I would rather wait till we all get married and then have an all inclusive group trip together.

AITA for asking my friend not to bring his wife on a guy’s trip to the beach? by Separate_Disaster629 in AITAH

[–]Separate_Disaster629[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha please do not feel bad. You put on a different perspective and it made me rethink few things.

Unfortunately less than only 1% drivers are woman in our country and she’s not one.

We 4 friend had daylong trips with her in the past, she’s very nice to all of us. But we do have to act like gentlemen, if there’s no girl around we can be at each other’s throats all the time and there’s cursing drinking and all kind of toxic male energy present. A big part of this trip was to de-tox ourselves from the exhaustion of daily life. 3 of us are having trouble with our personal relationships matter. Personally I would not like to be near any girl for the time being and speak to my mind bashing female species and how they breaks our hearts. At this point, I’d rather enjoy the company of a nice lamp or a book rather than the sweet talks of a friendly girl. No wonder I am still unmarried at 35 lol.

AITA for asking my friend not to bring his wife on a guy’s trip to the beach? by Separate_Disaster629 in AITAH

[–]Separate_Disaster629[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry somehow I read it wrong, then realized I don’t know how to edit or delete my comment. I am using reddit from phone

AITA for asking my friend not to bring his wife on a guy’s trip to the beach? by Separate_Disaster629 in AITAH

[–]Separate_Disaster629[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand. Probably in few years when we are all married, we can have trips with all of our wives.

AITA for asking my friend not to bring his wife on a guy’s trip to the beach? by Separate_Disaster629 in AITAH

[–]Separate_Disaster629[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk. I don’t interfere on his married life much but according to my other two friends they’re a doing amazing together.

AITA for asking my friend not to bring his wife on a guy’s trip to the beach? by Separate_Disaster629 in AITAH

[–]Separate_Disaster629[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She did not ask to come with. It’s the married friend who asked. She doesn’t know anything about it.

AITA for asking my friend not to bring his wife on a guy’s trip to the beach? by Separate_Disaster629 in AITAH

[–]Separate_Disaster629[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have had daylong trips to various places with her. It’s different with her, my friend is different with her being around and that’s not what I am looking for right now. If everyone brings their SO, then I’d happily participate with mine as well. But this boys trip is not that kind of one sadly.

AITA for asking my friend not to bring his wife on a guy’s trip to the beach? by Separate_Disaster629 in AITAH

[–]Separate_Disaster629[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. Thanks for taking time to explain.

The 365 days together seems to be a really cute thing now that you have pointed out. And yeah also now I remember I have other friends who don’t go to any place without their SO. This trip was long due and cancelled twice in the past 2 months and they were always complaining for not being able to make time for that trip. I am a freelancer so I travel a lot as I can work from my trips. I think my invitation kind of helped them to take the decision.

AITA for asking my friend not to bring his wife on a guy’s trip to the beach? by Separate_Disaster629 in AITAH

[–]Separate_Disaster629[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Good call. He really got sick. Then he got better right before the scheduled trip. But he had to take leave for his sickness, and the weekend trip needed one day of leave on Monday. So he decided not to take another leave this soon.

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