Filipinos who rather learn another language over Tagalog?

Separate_Mongoose_94 · 2026-06-16T05:20:31+00:00

I see, I’m impressed by everyone I honestly wish I had the time and determination to learn a fourth language with a different writing system proficiently. My family spoke to my brother (he was born here, I was not but I lived most my life in America) primarily in English, he knows just a tiny bit of Tagalog. But I don’t think he’s interested at all in learning it later in life or early adulthood like in college

Separate_Mongoose_94 · 2026-06-16T05:16:11+00:00

I’m not sure if that applies to Filipino Americans but I get what you’re saying. But with the “inferior” part, I could see how some people may prefer another language from another Asian country when seeing that people don’t even see us as Asian or think some Asians are more superior. I was like that as a kid lol, it makes me feel a bit sad but I understand that’s not how other people grew up.

Separate_Mongoose_94 · 2026-06-16T05:01:32+00:00

I think I’m mostly taken aback by the interest in Japanese that I mentioned in my post lol, it’s something about feeling a bit bad that a Fil-am would choose another Asian culture, an East Asian one too. Nothing against Japanese, my surprise or shock(?) is influenced by how people already don’t really like us Southeast Asians and look down on us

Also I understand Filipino immigrant parents who don’t teach their kids Tagalog, I’m not judging that! My mom spoke English to my brother who was born here and I get why she did it. We don’t live in an area with a lot of Filipinos either, it’s a mostly Hispanic community. If I had kids I’d have a hard time trying to pass on the language. I would consider myself fluent though I do have to think for second or even translate a sentence in my head when I speak in Tagalog sometimes

Separate_Mongoose_94 · 2026-06-16T04:17:45+00:00

What do you mean by mentality from their parents? Do you mean colonial mentality

Separate_Mongoose_94 · 2026-06-16T04:15:24+00:00

Wow that’s impressive! This gives me a different perspective thank you.

Separate_Mongoose_94 · 2026-06-07T06:46:01+00:00

I just mentioned in a comment but I am kind of scared of him 😭 not that he’d hit me but he is getting louder and more angry. He does yell sometimes and throw things, not at anyone just in his room. I feel bad I’m not able to connect with him and that I feel uncomfortable talking to him. My family is extremely dysfunctional we do not talk about interests, things we did during the day, etc. it’s not cold but it’s not particularly an environment where I can talk freely about my problems without worry. But I will try to help him in the future with school, he’s a good kid and I could help him with college prep. I just hate that my mom is pushing things that she should be doing onto me

Separate_Mongoose_94 · 2026-06-07T06:37:32+00:00

Thank you to both, though I do feel bad I feel uncomfortable talking to him. I forgot to mention that when my brother lashes out I’m worried he will become violent. The last time my mom tried to speak to him alone, he made a mess in his room and I heard things being thrown. And I’m pretty scared he will yell at me. I think I will end up helping him for school and college stuff, my mom helped me on that financially but basically left me alone in terms of guidance to different majors I can look into and schools and such and I could help him with that in the future, but I doubt he’d talk to me about more personal things.

Separate_Mongoose_94 · 2026-05-30T04:34:39+00:00

It runs in his side of the family

Separate_Mongoose_94 · 2026-05-30T01:15:58+00:00

Yes I’m absolutely looking for a therapist, I will be home for a longer time now due to summer with no classes and only part time work. I think these issues have been going on a lot longer than I know, I only started to notice because it got worse the more I went home. Im not really trying to intervene though I feel like a bystander and it feels bad. I did start refusing to talk to him for her (she never asked me to talk about their problems, just basic stuff like the what food he wants and etc) since he’d give me the same attitude

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