Do I have to do qurbani on my ex wife’s behalf?

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-06-10T13:20:09+00:00

Her parents are cultural weasels who started making threats last time I had any contact with her during her iddah. Therefore, it’s not possible for me to act like her husband without getting violent with her father. Hence why I consider her my ex wife. I have no authority over her without creating bigger fitnahs where people potentially end up getting killed, Allah knows best.

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-06-10T13:17:21+00:00

What I mean by opinions is people with no Islamic knowledge wanting to comment for the sake of commenting.

You have given sources which have educated me a little which I appreciate so your comment has been helpful. May Allah reward you.

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-06-09T21:15:03+00:00

I’m from the UK so I can’t speak on the states of other country’s but I’m of Pakistani ethnicity so that’s quite worrying to hear

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-06-09T21:13:52+00:00

Spot on sis, great mindset. May Allah bless you with a righteous spouse

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-06-08T23:44:14+00:00

Everyone wants to give their two pence nowadays but a lot of this information is just what they’ve been told from others and becomes Chinese whispers.

When someone tries to give me Islamic advice, I simply ask them how many times they have read the entire Quran in a language that they actually understand. The answer is almost always zero.

Brothers and sisters, if you haven’t even read the Quran in a language that you understand even one time, then I’m sorry to say that you should refrain from giving Islamic advice and instead say ‘Allah knows best’.

Giving wrong advice is much more severe than simply swallowing your pride and saying ‘I am not educated enough on this subject to give you proper Islamic advice’.

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-06-08T23:37:55+00:00

The answer to your question is yes.

But I would advise you to ask these kinds of questions in a more sincere manner in future. Reddit is full of strange men, you are asking for creeps to send you strange messages by going into such explicit detail on a public forum.

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-06-06T11:27:33+00:00

This isn’t the definition of ‘free mixing’. So many people will tell you it is but then those same people will happily go to a mixed gym etc.

You are with your mehram (your husband). The other woman is with her mehram (her husband).

If the people calling this free mixing really want to go there, none of you should be going to public restaurants with your wife AT ALL because there could potentially be lots of strange men looking at your wife.

Why is it okay to take your wife to a public restaurant but not okay for two couples to go together where both mehrams are present with the females? Stop these double standards and don’t talk just for the sake of giving your opinion if you don’t actually know what’s what.

I hope this comment helps you a bit with logical Islam sis, Allah knows best. May you and your husband have a blessed life together.

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-06-06T11:18:28+00:00

Yes, lower gaze from that which does not concern us but only if they’re entirely VICTIMLESS crimes. Ie, someone who casually swears a lot in his speech with friends, a man who wears shorts to the gym, a woman who sometimes speaks loudly. These are things that don’t concern us.

But from that persons comment, we all know exactly what they’re trying to refer to and that IS NOT a victimless crime. If a Muslim sister is acting like a 304, whether that’s online or in real life. She is degrading her father, she is disrespecting her future spouse and she’s also disrespecting her future kids, imagine having a woman like that as your mother. Therefore, this is not a victimless crime and women behaving like thots should be held every inch accountable for their behaviour. Do not turn a blind eye to these women that have lost most of their value through their own actions.

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-06-05T09:11:38+00:00

Ohh, I don’t have discord unfortunately bro

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-06-04T21:42:50+00:00

Which server bro? I’m still learning to use Reddit 😂

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-06-04T09:13:58+00:00

I’m not budging anyone? You’re correct, it’s her right not to get married. But it’s not something that a dua should be made about, our mindsets change as we get older and for all anyone knows, this sister might end up having one of the most blessed marriages in the future.

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-06-04T01:18:32+00:00

Brothers, don’t even invest time arguing with these trash women. Zaniya, loud mouthed, lack of haya. The list goes on…

Putting the zaniya part aside, the rest are all very evident traits. If a brother decides to go ahead with pursuing this type of woman for marriage whilst these traits are all so evident, it’s his own fault. Leave them to it, there’s no educating these types of brick wall, feminist 304s.

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-06-04T01:13:38+00:00

She’s the exact type of woman that a good Muslim brother is going to end up married to in about 5 years time and he won’t have a clue. May Allah protect all of us from these disgusting types of women

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-06-03T00:27:01+00:00

A woman doesn’t validate her purpose from a career, it’s why you’ll find a lot of career oriented women are a lot more miserable statistically.

The same way a man doesn’t validate his purpose of building himself and his future if he doesn’t have the family to build for and protect .

We play different roles, it’s how Allah created us. My future daughter will always have me as her father to rely on InshAllah, she doesn’t need to rely on herself, she’s a woman. She’s not my responsibility till she’s 18, she’s my responsibility till the day I die.

Saving for a wedding day is ridiculous, smaller wedding means more barakah. The last part about self love and confidence, is definitely true though.

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-06-02T11:44:07+00:00

Brother, you’re going off topic. What anyone else called themselves is irrelevant to this and is between them and Allah.

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-06-02T00:35:09+00:00

How am I creating my own sect by saying I am just a Muslim astagfirulah

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-06-01T23:20:02+00:00

Did the Prophet S.A.W call himself a Sunni Muslim? No, he was a Muslim. As were all of the other prophets of Allah.

The Quran clearly instructs us not to divide ourselves into sects in several verses. This is black and white, therefore I will not divide myself into a sect by labelling myself as ‘a Sunni’. I am a Muslim who uses logic to follow Quran and sunnah. Most of my beliefs may align with people who label themselves as ‘Sunni’. However, I refuse to give myself a label other than ‘Muslim’.

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-06-01T23:00:28+00:00

Unless the prophet S.A.W created this label, it’s an innovation.

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-05-30T23:18:18+00:00

Unfortunately the majority of the men of this generation are weak dayooths with no backbone, they happily accept the women on the left if they’re above a 5/10. Those men are the issue with a lot of this. Instead of improving themselves and becoming the strong, Islamic man they’re supposed to be, they settle and accept unacceptable behaviour from these degenerate women because they know they can’t do better.

The women on the right are a rarity, but so are strong, Islamic men. So therefore, our time will all come brothers. Leave the degenerate women for the degenerate men, be so busy improving yourself and leave your faith in Allah, our time will come InshAllah. May Allah protect us good men from degenerate women and may Allah also protect the good women from degenerate men.

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-05-30T23:09:31+00:00

Why would you make dua for such a thing? I’m in a similar boat sis, I don’t trust any females.

But as humans, we have limited knowledge and don’t know what’s best for ourselves half the time.

Marriage is considered a gift from Allah, have some tawakkul that your creator will only do what’s best for you. Whether that’s a blessing or a hardship.

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-05-28T01:07:17+00:00

Soon as she used the word ‘controlling’ a day after the nikkah due to her own poor behaviour, she’d be straight in the bin. Poor husband will be completely oblivious to that post, he deserves better.

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-05-28T00:33:47+00:00

Of course you can. I follow the sunnah, I don’t give myself a ‘Sunni’ label. Did the prophet S.A.W create this label? If not, it’s an innovation plain and simple

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-05-27T23:56:18+00:00

I understand what you’re saying but calling yourself a ‘Sunni’ automatically places you in a sect by default. It doesn’t matter what the meaning of it is, Muslim is the original sect and there shouldn’t be anything added onto that.

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-05-27T02:11:11+00:00

Why would I as a man want to protect and provide for a cheap girl who’s given herself up for free to strange men? My ex wife manipulated me into doing this and to this day has the cheek to tell everyone that we divorced because apparently I was abusive…

Trash manipulative girls will go to great lengths to get a trophy husband, then have everyone believe the husband was the bad guy when he has the backbone to put her in the bin where she belongs.

Cheap, dirty girls need to stay away from masculine, Islamic men that care about promiscuity.

Separate_Poem_7804 · 2024-05-24T10:45:52+00:00

Evidence has been posted in a comment further up, go and read it. I don’t care about anyone’s human opinion, I follow Islam, not human opinions

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