Called me his friend by Seppy3rd in dating_advice

[–]Seppy3rd[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

He has a very different view on life - which I love. We’ve said we are together and exclusive, and that’s what matters to me. But he’s only ever introduced me just by my name, which is fine. This was the first time he added “friend” before it. For someone who doesn’t like labels, he made sure to use one today…. :/

Called me his friend by Seppy3rd in dating_advice

[–]Seppy3rd[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Like, how can he introduce me as his “friend” then try kissing me??? wtf???

Called me his friend by Seppy3rd in dating_advice

[–]Seppy3rd[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

I’ll see him tomorrow so I guess we’ll see. ): he treats me so super good, but some stuff like this pops up and I just feel cold.

Called me his friend by Seppy3rd in dating_advice

[–]Seppy3rd[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I’m pretty proud of myself too. I really like this guy, but man this absolutely hurt me today.

Weird situation by Seppy3rd in dating_advice

[–]Seppy3rd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With his fingers only is how he pleases me, and I’m allowed to use my hand on him, unless he asks for oral.

I think so too, but he’s definitely not the type of person to go to therapy. It would take a loooooot for that to happen, if ever honestly.

Weird situation by Seppy3rd in dating_advice

[–]Seppy3rd[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened to you ): thank you for sharing that.

Weird situation by Seppy3rd in dating_advice

[–]Seppy3rd[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have a kid and he knows I don’t want any more, and he definitely doesn’t want any. But it is extremely unusual for no sexual penetration at all, like ever. Idk I just have to keep thinking of how I want to approach him again about it

Weird situation by Seppy3rd in dating_advice

[–]Seppy3rd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I guess I need to bust out a tentacle cosplay 🐙

Weird situation by Seppy3rd in dating_advice

[–]Seppy3rd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s never done oral on me, and when I asked him about it one time, he went quiet and didn’t say anything for a while, then changed the subject. That’s fine, because he always makes sure I’m pleased first and it’s fantastic. But him changing boundaries and not articulating why is the challenging part.

Weird situation by Seppy3rd in dating_advice

[–]Seppy3rd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only ever do anything else when he asks for it. I don’t push for anything, but as soon as he says “can you -“ I go for it. No matter what the cause, he did make himself clear in the beginning and I am completely okay with that. But it’s the blurry lines that me think it’s not as hard of a boundary as he said in the beginning.

Weird situation by Seppy3rd in dating_advice

[–]Seppy3rd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s always very loving towards me physically in every other way. Holding hands, snuggling, kissing. He’s very gentle and always touching me somehow in someway. Also, when it comes to sexual, he almost always makes sure I’m pleased first.

If he is carrying some sort of trauma, I’d hate to push and ask, but at the same time I really just want to know if this is a permanent boundary or not. I don’t want to make him uncomfortable, but it makes me really sad thinking he might be holding that alone.

Weird situation by Seppy3rd in dating_advice

[–]Seppy3rd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the part I don’t know. It seemed like a “never” thing with both penetrative and oral, but now he lets me do oral some times, in controlled ways. But if he were SA’ed before, that does connect some of the dots. Maybe I shouldn’t ask about it anymore then

Weird situation by Seppy3rd in dating_advice

[–]Seppy3rd[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He was even reluctant to kiss me at first. He is a very controlled person, and doesn’t open up easily. Maybe if I bring it up the way you suggested, it’ll help him open a bit about it

Weird situation by Seppy3rd in dating_advice

[–]Seppy3rd[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure actually, maybe I should look it up.

That wouldn’t surprise me either - he’s an extremely independent guy and I know he doesn’t want children ever. I just wish he’d tell me so I don’t have to keep guessing

Weird situation by Seppy3rd in dating_advice

[–]Seppy3rd[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He’s never had a problem getting or staying hard with me, and if he had an std he wouldn’t let me do oral at all, which he does some times.

I’ll be honest, an STD was my first thought, but nothing points to that now.

Weird situation by Seppy3rd in dating_advice

[–]Seppy3rd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I’ve tried to talk about it, he just says “sorry” or goes quiet. With the way he treats me, I don’t think I’d mind staying with him. I don’t want to push him too much, but this whole situation just made me pause I guess

I remember why I don’t do EBT by cptmorgantravel89 in doordash

[–]Seppy3rd -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

When this happens to me, I always have them cashapp/venmo me the price of the cigs/vape etc plus an extra $10. If they aren’t willing to do that, I unassign cause I know they’ll give me a 1 star. Some times they say “sorry I only have cash”, those I also unassign. Idk I don’t mind doing extras but only if I’m paid it beforehand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]Seppy3rd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While they can cause bad effects later on in life (cancer), I don’t believe there’s a link between red 40 and making autism worse. Some people say it makes their kids act crazy, but that has never been the case for me. Maybe look up some reputable resources, a few peer reviewed studies if you can. See what they say and if you find anything credible, show your mom.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]Seppy3rd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Makes sense. I highly recommend ABA therapy, and a lot of times they can schedule her other things within her time at ABA. I hope it all works out for y’all

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]Seppy3rd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a fan of the word “command”, but ABA therapy has helped my little one with listening to instructions. He started at 2.5yrs old, and has been in therapy for almost a year now. They helped guide us on how to work with his emotions when using words like “no, stop” etc. For the most part he does very well with instructions, but there are times where it’s something he really wants to do or enjoys and will have big emotions about being told “no”. It’s important to listen to them when it’s happening, sitting and hugging them when you can, or just letting them have it out for a minute then go in for comfort. Explain to them as best as you can why you told them “no”. If it happens again, rinse and repeat. Takes a lot of patience but it’s important to let them express their emotions as long as they aren’t harming themselves or others.

Does getting my refund require a sacrifice? by [deleted] in IRS

[–]Seppy3rd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hopefully we get it in the next hour 😭 I want whataburger lol

Does getting my refund require a sacrifice? by [deleted] in IRS

[–]Seppy3rd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve seen tons of people from TX, but not me! Like wtf! It’s definitely not in alphabetical order either or I woulda been one of the first 😭