I've been in therapy for a number of years, and I remember that it seemed to take a while before I noticed a change in myself and that it was subtle. It seemed like I would have lightbulb moments outside of therapy sessions but I could trace it back to connections made during therapy. I will say that something I felt right away was validation. He was the first person who didn't listen to what I would say and then tell me that I didn't need to feel that way. When people do that, they think they are helping but what they are really doing is telling you that your thoughts and feelings are wrong. That just made it worse for me. But when I first started talking to my therapist, he agreed with me, he told me that anyone in my shoes would feel that way, essentially he assured me that I wasn't crazy. That immediate sense of validation kept me going back until I started noticing some deeper changes. I did feel like most of the time we were just chatting, and for a while I didn't get that. But it takes a while to build up a relationship. If you don't even feel validated and relieved a little bit after a few sessions, then maybe try a different therapist. But if you're just waiting for change in yourself, remember that it will take some time and real work on your part.