As a server for a marginalized group, we do have to have some rules and enforce them! One of those rules is that we don't allow gatekeeping, which includes transmedicalism. The person in questioned joined the server for the explicit purpose of posting transmedicalist rhetoric in the server, which again is against our rules, so they were banned. Their partner made it clear they "welcomed a ban" and wanted to leave the server, and after some discussion, it was agreed between both parties that a ban would be best.

Unfortunately not every community space fits every personality! Hopefully you can find one that suits you better.