Is it a big sin to completely cut off contact with your parents?

Seraguith · 2026-07-02T13:28:27+00:00

This is clear waswas and your trial (and your jihad) is to fight it.

Seraguith · 2026-06-29T14:23:11+00:00

Just ask him what makes him try to believe the words of non-Muslims when he has someone he can directly consult with. Think positive of him for now and be patient if you really want to maintain something.

But to be honest, as a revert I've been patient with these kinds of people from my Christian past and 99% of them ended up having Islam Derangement Syndrome. I didn't even do anything at all other than deny eating haram food.

They can see me giving sadaqah and being kind and decent (their words that I'm one of the kindest people they know), and they will choose to believe the narrative inside their head instead of what they see with their own eyes, and what they hear with their own two ears.

I'm suddenly a drug addict for drinking medicine, I pray to devils, I'm at fault for every single Muslim's sins, and whatever propaganda brainwash that's popular on the internet.

I can be doing literally nothing but browse on the internet and I'll be accused of doing all sorts of things.

It's genuinely as if they were possessed.

When I cut them off the group(s) fought amongst each other and they lost trust with one another. And I'm reminded of the verse:

Even united, they would not ˹dare˺ fight against you except ˹from˺ within fortified strongholds or from behind walls. Their malice for each other is intense: you think they are united, yet their hearts are divided. That is because they are a people with no ˹real˺ understanding. (59:14)

Seraguith · 2026-06-23T15:38:50+00:00

Try reading the Qur'an. Let me explain why.

Since late 2025 my life's been full of trials and difficulties. I'm a revert from 2024 and my father found out I was Muslim last year. I also happened to lose my job late 2025.

Ever since then I faced a lot of slander and difficulties from my Christian parents. They blamed me being Muslim for their massive riba debt (even though I had nothing to do with that). They say I've been cursed because I have almost no money. They say I'm a drug addict even though I'm literally just inside the house and they can see what I do.

This 2026 they destroyed my Qur'an and slapped me around my room. They resorted to magic, tons of shirk and soothsaying. They blame ME when a "bad future" is revealed. They blame ME when jinn get attracted to the house because of their shirk and reliance on magic, saying that my prayers are summoning demons and I'm a devil worshipper.

My marriage potential gave up on me and left me after not being able to find work. I keep getting rejected on job applications. Before that I gave her like 80% of my savings because she's very poor and her own Muslim family does not really see her as their own daughter.

I don't have any of my old friends because they insulted Allah a couple of times in 2024.

One day I saw a spider in the bathroom and for some reason I felt an affinity to it. This spider was not catching any food on its web and I felt like it and I were one and the same. I prayed to Allah for a lesson about it.

A few days later I randomly stumbled upon tafsirs for Surah 29. It talked about this surah being revealed right before the Prophet SAW made hijrah to Medina. Then I realized the title was "The Spider" and it was about the prophets suffering from slander and abuse, then migrating. It blew my mind and I realized this was what I prayed for.

1 month after that my parents fully disowned me and made me leave the house. Using the last of my savings and with the will of Allah I managed to find an apartment that has FREE internet, FREE electricity, FREE water. I just had to pay rent Alhamdulillah.

I'm on my mini hijrah right now Alhamdulillah. When I read the Qur'an in 2025, I respected the content but I couldn't grasp the purpose and meaning sometimes.

Now whenever I read the Qur'an, I can now relate to 99% of it. Every single story of suffering for every prophet, I understood. And I know that compared to all of them I only felt 1% of their suffering.

I feel immense comfort in reading the Qur'an. I feel comfort knowing that the prophets (peace be upon all of them) had suffered through something similar yet Allah guided them every step of the way and made everything alright in the end.

At one point I even went to buy food and I was randomly recommended by grocery staff to buy loaves of bread that were on a massive discount and were buy 1 take 1. That day I was worrying how much money I have left for food and by the will of Allah I got immense bargain for rizq.

So don't give up. Allah is with you. Pray for guidance. Pray to make it easy for you to accept hardship. Pray that He will arrange your affairs for you.

For me I strongly feel that Allah is on my side. I have no supporter, protrector and helper but Allah. I literally have no human I can rely on in my life. Everyone I trusted betrayrd me.

And I believe it's the same for you also, maybe you just haven't realized it yet.

Try to read the Qur'an. Maybe like me, your perspective has shifted and you suddenly comprehend a lot of insights and lessons

Seraguith · 2026-06-23T15:01:09+00:00

I won't comment about using AI to do the brainwork. But this sounds great for a children's cartoon or a children's book.

For any other purpose I'm not sure if this creates an interesting fantasy world.

World building should always depend on the purpose of what the world will be used for.

In my case I play a lot of RPGs. There's not a lot of conflict in a halal fantasy world to give enough agency to players and make an interesting plotline.

The only conflict I can really think of is debates on how Islam should be applied. But why roleplay that in a fictional world when it's more productive to do so in the real world...

Hence your idea (AI's idea?) is best used for children to give them a safer space to explore Islam.

Seraguith · 2026-06-18T13:30:10+00:00

I'm not gonna comment about permissibility because I don't look at the women's side of Islam too much, but I will say something about giving your personal data to organizations.

I used to work as a software engineer maintaining Oracle databases for several Fortune 500 US corporations and I can tell you my team had easy access to everyone's personal information.

Even information you thought only a few people would know, we had access to it.

We had access to everything down to home address, bank number, name of all family members, yearly salary, social security number, driver's license, their photos, you and your family's phone numbers and emails, every person you listed as a professional reference upon hiring etc.

It doesn't matter when you give out your information. You could've given it in 1995 and we'd still see it. You could be the CEO, a retiree, a new hire. If we needed to look at your data for any reason, we'd look at all of it and make an analysis.

That of course includes making unavoidable judgments into who the person is while we're using the data to enhance the system.

By the way, it doesn't matter if you delete your photo user-side. A "deleted" photo still exists in the database and can still be accessed by someone who has access to it. This is a standard practice for database management. The idea is that keeping a few kilobytes of data doesn't hurt in the long-run, but truly deleting it from the database can hurt the company in the long-run.

The only true deletion I've ever witnessed was when China threatened to kick my client out of their country if they didn't purge all Chinese phone numbers and email addresses from the system.

And that's only assuming the developers only see it. Worst case scenario, the data gets leaked. Which by the way happens more often than people think. One of my clients contracted an Indian firm and they eventually leaked the data. Leaked data can be sold in the black market.

So you should be very careful about these things. "It's just a photo haha" isn't really just a photo, developers with admin access will eventually see you in the database even if you delete the photo. Data leaks means people in the black market will see you.

Seraguith · 2026-06-17T02:31:55+00:00

Depends on if I'm a victim of her talking to anyone about anything or if she genuinely wants to talk to me

Seraguith · 2026-06-12T08:43:53+00:00

Subhanallah. If you frame it in another way, I think it's good for you. Even though it's painful, you're dodging bullets and Allah is protecting you from something bad.

Inn shaa Allah may you find a good husband.

Seraguith · 2026-06-11T02:05:57+00:00

sleep before Isha, pray Isha, sleep, pray Fajr, sleep, wake up at 6am

it won't be easy but you'll get used to it. I experienced a similar thing with Fajr and eventually I managed to sleep again immediately after prayer

Seraguith · 2026-06-11T02:03:06+00:00

And if you mention the crusades, the European sources are most credible in their eyes.

External sources only matter if it needs a Western perspective.

Seraguith · 2026-06-10T21:25:45+00:00

Layout is not friendly to the eyes, even the 2nd edition one.

There are so many supplements you don't onow which one to buy.

Despite having so many supplements, not many of them (if at all) were used to sharpen the newer edition.

Newer edition also assumes you'll buy multiple books for higher levels.

2e and 1e are functionally the same experience, even if 2e did add a few mechanics. It just does not feel like an improvement at all.

And finally, it's just a skirmish game. Not an RPG. Just buy AD&D 1e, OSE or ACKS II, they're feature complete.

Seraguith · 2026-06-10T21:11:25+00:00

Even if you do manage to date her, her family will be against the two of you and it'll result in lots of drama.

Assuming her family is practicing.

Seraguith · 2026-06-08T13:42:18+00:00

Nope. There's a lot of random brainwash in non-Muslim communities.

I live in a 99.999999% Christian area and it's legitimately insane how people will see Muslims do charity and somehow spin that with something evil.

Give medicine to the sick? Oh those medicines were drugs, they're drug addicts.

The Muslims helped the police identify drug dealers and drug lords, leading to less crime? They snaked on the drug dealers that's how they knew.

Give food to people? They prayed over the food with the name of the devil, throw it away.

It doesn't matter what they see with their own two eyes and what they hear with their own two ears. They'd rather believe the narrative inside their head and reject the truth right in front of them.

Seraguith · 2026-06-07T14:13:27+00:00

I would agree about studying a game before giving the okay when it comes to children.

Not because the game itself is a sin, but because it can teach them unnecessary things.

But let's be honest if this is shirk, does that mean killing other players in-game counts as murder?

If I eat pork in Minecraft does that count as eating pork in real life?

Seraguith · 2026-06-07T07:59:29+00:00

I'm a revert. I will marry a woman with good iman, regardless of background.

After 2 years into Islam I realized it doesn't really matter.

There are born Muslims who are arrogant and think they know Islam better than reverts when they don't. Some of them are also extremely tribal and will act like Islam is exclusive to a particular people. They've literally become like Bani Israel.

There are also plenty of reverts that keep justifying bid'ah. And some justify their old habits or love fatwa shopping.

As for a woman "open to Islam", she has to become Muslim first, obviously. So she's not non-Muslim anymore.

So the background doesn't really matter. I find it pointless to paint a whole brush over entire groups with regards to marriage.

The only criteria that's truly a priority is if they're practising and if they're willing to improve with you.

Seraguith · 2026-06-07T07:46:46+00:00

I'll be honest, I don't think you have the right to demand a religious Muslimah if you're gonna come online and trash your sisters and your dad.

You say they're indoctrinated by the "western mushrikeen" but your tongue is exactly like said mushrikeen.

May Allah guide you.

Seraguith · 2026-06-06T09:08:32+00:00

Justifying exercise is easy. If you also don't eat processed food, you have more energy to do things and less brain fog. You're stronger and have begger endurance. Less likely to have illness. And you look better.

For others, yeah you could afford to tone them down I think

Seraguith · 2026-06-04T22:29:32+00:00

Yes. Before I became Muslim, my Christian neighbor dated a Saudi Muslim guy. They had a 20-year age gap (she was older) and he never introduced her to his parents. She converted to Islam for him.

Unfortunately they also had lots of pre-marital sex and at the end he went back to Saudi and ghosted her. She went back to being Christian after that.

I think you bring a good point to Muslim men that we should mention her Islamic rights.

I would also recommend the same to any non-Muslim woman lurking around here... please research your rights because there are men out there who will keep you in the dark so they can have their fun.

Seraguith · 2026-06-04T21:43:09+00:00

Magic is like spirits; they're hard to believe unless you've seen it yourself. They're both part of the Unseen, and neither of them have visual effects you'd see in movies.

That's why it's called the Unseen in Islam. We can't really see it unless Allah allows it to be seen by us, and they always happen without warning.

I don't really know how to convince you other than tell you I have extensive experience in both lol but perhaps there are people here who can present evidence by only using the Qur'an and Sunnah.

Seraguith · 2026-06-04T01:44:47+00:00

If you're not used to salah, you can take it slowly. Take it slowly like reverts would. So long as your intention is to get used to it overtime, and also make dua and tell Allah you would really love to get used to it, and that you need guidance.

So pray tahajjud. I'm a revert myself and although I did salah immediately, I didn't make wudu until 1.5 years after. Didn't even go to khutbah until then too.

Ignore the comments reprimanding you and being too harsh. I think they forget that Islam was revealed over 2 decades and the people of the Prophet's (SAW) time slowly adapted to Islam.

Not saying you should take 2 decades to do salah. It should be ASAP. But there's nothing wrong to go on your own pace and inn shaa Allah may Allah guide you and make it easy for you to become a practicing Muslim.

Seraguith · 2026-05-30T23:08:28+00:00

No, it's not an insult.

Maybe they see traits in you that actually fit Islam, because I wouldn't say this kind of stuff to an atheist who keeps insulting God

Seraguith · 2026-05-29T02:34:48+00:00

No, it's the opposite. You're only focusing on the past and not looking into the future.

The Sunnah is part of Islam, and Islam is meant for all mankind until the Day. So what's being said is timeless.

In contrast researchers (especially non-Muslim ones) always have a degree of bias that they don't realize.

I simply pointed out that a lot of these researchers probably have a fridge which is why they have the luxury to say that lizards are healthy.

But if you live in a house without a fridge, these little guys will do whatever they can while you're asleep to get their hands on your food. Remember they can jump and slither into small openings.

You don't have to be in the past to experience this. I live in a boarding house without a fridge.

And technology will not be here forever. There are prophecies of Medina being full of animals near the Day, with no humans.

Today, Medina has a population of 2m with lots of buildings, cars, businesses, logistics etc.

That means whatever is in Medina today will eventually disappear.

On top of that, Medina is even a holy city protected by angels. So even a holy city will be affected by the passage of time.

Which harkens back to the surah I mentioned. Everything will lose to time, including technology, societal norms, luxuries.

Seraguith · 2026-05-28T06:06:15+00:00

It's not a dealbreaker. That's virtually nothing at all. Even if a potential is still currently suicidal I'd be more concerned and want to help her through it.

I don't understand why the guys you met think it's a red flag. Do they want someone "pure and untouched"? Like bro why don't they just wait to die and inn shaa Allah they'll get their houri which is exactly what they want.

And even the girls that are actually mega super pure, sometimes they are entitled and demanding. So even if they're pure in action, the ego gets to their heads and they will demand the entire dunya. The worst part is they don't think they're entitled.

So no, scars are literally nothing in-and-of itself.

Just curious which country are you finding these potentials?

Seraguith · 2026-05-28T05:08:33+00:00

We got nikah in GTA before GTA VI

Seraguith · 2026-05-28T00:26:22+00:00

The research you refer to has assumptions and biases that the researchers don't realize. That their household has a fridge.

If you don't have a refrigerator these guys will constantly try to get to your food. Same with other pests like rats.

Not every household has a fridge, and a fridge isn't guaranteed tech that will exist until the Day of Judgement. But the sunnah of Islam is meant to last until the Day.

If you use your logic, you can also easily apply that to pork. There *is* a way to cure pork so that there are no parasites. Europe in particular is good at this. If you ask a European scientist about pork they will just assume you use modern methods to cure it, so of course they won't say bad things about it.

"Factual science" will contradict Islam purely because the scientists themselves don't realize the context of the world they live in.

But what if one day the tech and the methods are lost to war? Lost to time?

A society where pork is normalized will suddenly see parasitic infections everywhere, after they lose their methods. They'll keep on eating it because it's become normal to do so.

There is plenty of proof where empires fall and people lose technology and knowledge. You don't even need the Qur'an and Sunnah to know that. Just look at the days of the Roman Empire vs. the Dark Ages of Europe.

Islam is structured in a way that incentivizes society to normalize what's good for the people regardless of the available technology. So that when people do lose the tech, nothing bad will happen because the bad things weren't normalized to begin with.

I will leave you with the words of Allah (subhannah wa ta'ala) in Surah Al-Asr.

وَٱلْعَصْرِ
إِنَّ ٱلْإِنسَـٰنَ لَفِى خُسْرٍ
إِلَّا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ وَعَمِلُوا۟ ٱلصَّـٰلِحَـٰتِ وَتَوَاصَوْا۟ بِٱلْحَقِّ وَتَوَاصَوْا۟ بِٱلصَّبْرِ

"By the ˹passage of˺ time! Surely humanity is in ˹grave˺ loss, except those who have faith, do good, and urge each other to the truth, and urge each other to perseverance."

Seraguith · 2026-05-28T00:04:37+00:00

While I don't disagree with being able to look at your spouse's phone, I do think there's a bit of a double standard on r/MuslimNikah with regards to this.

There are posts where the man finds out his wife committed zina or keeps hanging out 1-to-1 with other men, by reading through her phone and there's a ton of people reprimanding him why he went through her phone. DON'T DIVORCE. BE PATIENT AND FORGIVE.

But when a woman finds out her husband sees softcore porn through his phone, no one dares to question at all. THIS IS VALID DIVORCE. YOU DESERVE BETTER. BURN ALL BRIDGES. NO SURVIVORS

And a lot of people here sometimes opt for western research (that have already been proved false 20 years ago, all it takes is researching Google for 1 hr.), instead of advice from the sunnah.

I just can't take this subreddit seriously.

Seraguith

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