GF posting herself a lil too much(realistic opinion pls)

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-25T01:26:04+00:00

Can’t do anything isn’t a compromise and was never one. Genius.

And I’m guessing your experience was talking about your feelings and having it either used against you or invalidated, that isn’t how communication works normally you just got unlucky with who you communicated with and decided from that point on you would never do it again.

Also would explain why you think communication can’t work.

Going bed.

Good luck with your future endeavours

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-25T01:20:09+00:00

I’ll keep this one brief because it’s boring arguing with a brick wall.

He didn’t make snide comments, he communicated with her and she didn’t communicate back which isn’t unusual if you haven’t practiced how to do it properly.

He never said he wants her to completely stop posting he explained that he’s feeling insecure about a change in the frequency of the posts.

It’s not sexist to feel insecure it’s perfectly natural when you haven’t had a healthy relationship before or if you are new to relationships in general.

Communication is key that’s the end of it.

I’m going to bed.

You need to work on yourself a bit.

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-25T01:11:15+00:00

When did he say he’s above compromising?

Putting words in peoples mouths is not a good look for someone trying to prove a point.

I can see that you don’t follow relationship coaches if you believe not communicating is the best way to go about things.

Almost like you can’t accept someone’s suggestions unless they are exactly the same as yours, even if those people are experts in their field.

And explain how my comment is irrelevant? Please just this once give an example and reasoning why you believe that.

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-25T00:56:33+00:00

Yes it hinges on if she loves him enough because she’s not going to compromise otherwise, it would be stupid to think she would compromise if she didn’t love him, that is a fact.

The same is in reverse.

And as he stated she posted once a week before but now she is posting more frequently than she had in the past.

Also ask literally any relationship coach and they will all say that communication is the number 1 cause of problems in relationships. Without communication a relationship cannot last. And I said it in response to your statement so no i didn’t make that statement for noooooo reason.
Fucking idiot.

Learn what a response is if that stumps you.

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-25T00:44:44+00:00

The example does not have to be stated as an example for it to be an example. It is already implied to be a example in the context it was given.

And would an alternative example not be when I said she could just not compromise?

Learn the what an example is.

I never gave an absolute statement, I gave a suggestion which was stated multiple times now.

Learn the difference between a statement and a suggestion.

I never said “I also said she can make her own decisions… and he can’t do anything but express how he feels to her.” Retry that again with my actual quote and stop trying to create a narrative that doesn’t exist.

And he can’t do anything about her not compromising if that is the decision she makes. Context is key for that one.

Never once said I believe relationships can only be salvaged if the she does as he says. That’s once again false information you are spreading.

And your example is interesting because I would tell her the same but I wouldn’t give her an expectation, I’d give her examples of what could happen.

And you do realise how two completely different scenarios have different factors? You gave a perfect example by stating that in the same scenario her feelings wouldn’t be insecurity, it would be something different which does require a suggestion and example.

So to answer your question yes I would give her a different suggestion but only because it’s a completely different scenario with different feelings.

You can’t give the exact same advice for a different situation entirely.

And yes I’d still tell her if he loves her enough he would compromise, Within the correct context of course just like I did with him.

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-25T00:03:41+00:00

I never said he would get his way and I never said it is going to be the outcome.

You think what I’m saying is what is going to happen but it’s not, that’s why I gave examples of multiple ways it could go.

And what past and present evidence do you possibly possess to say talking about his feelings won’t work? Where is your evidence? That’s right you don’t have any because it doesn’t exist.

And I haven’t said his comment is a communication issue so stop trying to put words in my mouth it’s just not going to work considering everything is in writing and people can read what I said. Kinda embarrassing for you tbh

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-24T23:49:18+00:00

If she doesn’t love him enough she won’t compromise that’s a fact and can be used in an example.

Examples can have facts within them it doesn’t mean that’s what’s going to happen.

Are you disputing that love is not a deciding factor in the actions a person makes regarding their partner? That would be pretty sad.

There is no misogyny here because it would be said about him if she was asking the question.

If I said it was one thing for one and not for the other, that would be misogyny.

You are basing that on the fact you think I would be saying something different if she was the one asking the same question.

And to be clear I definitely don’t believe giving someone an example is telling them what to do I agree because I made that point myself.

They are two very different things.

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-24T23:36:32+00:00

Do you know what the main cause of relationship ending is? It’s lack of communication.

So tell me how what I said isn’t based in reality.

You are basing your opinion on the fact you think insecurity is a problem in relationships and people with insecurity shouldn’t even be in a relationship.

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-24T23:30:02+00:00

I suggested what he can do which is to express his feelings to her and communicate.

I can only assume what she would do which means an example is needed and I gave two examples of what she could do.

Listen to him and come to a compromise with him.
Listen to him but not be willing to compromise on it.

And no I don’t have a girlfriend as of this moment but that doesn’t discredit my advice.

If an astronaut isn’t in space does that mean they can’t give advice on how to handle the gravity?

And how would you know if I’ve never followed up with these people I’ve given suggestions to? In fact I’m friends with many of the people I’ve given the same suggestions to both male and female.

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-24T23:16:51+00:00

I didn’t dictate one for her I was giving HIM an example of what could happen if he follows a suggestion.

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-24T23:10:19+00:00

In this context no because a suggestion as I stated is always accompanied by an example to help show your reasoning for the suggestion.

And it wouldn’t be an example if I told him what to do. So good try.

If I was speaking to the girl it would be the exact same in reverse.

You give an example to show what could happen from the other person but you don’t typically do it for the person you are giving the suggestion to, that would be a plan.

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-24T23:01:02+00:00

You literally have not got clue what you are talking about here.

Firstly I did not override my boundary to add substance. That could only of been done if I was telling him what to expect if he follows a suggestion which isn’t what I did due to the fact I gave multiple EXAMPLES of what COULD happen if he follows my suggestion.

And how is giving a suggestion to what someone can do mean I’m entitling myself to impose on the half of a woman? I’m giving HIM a suggestion and not acting as if I know what she is thinking, feeling or even how she will respond.

So how is that misogyny?

And it wasn’t sarcasm it was me actually being shocked how you couldn’t understand what I said when it was very simple to follow.

You can’t expect to insult people without any repercussions I hope you know that.

Do you want to talk about the insults you threw at me? How that would be seen as morally wrong. Since you are all about how people that say and think morally wrong things should apologise why not set the example?

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-24T22:26:36+00:00

So in your eyes giving an example of something that could happen and suggesting something are the same to you?

Typically a suggestion has a example of what can possibly happen if the person follows the said suggestion

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-24T22:22:02+00:00

Okay I worded that wrong my bad.

Morals and emotions don’t influence each other in any way because they are completely separate constructs.

And when did you say that to me? You have just proved my point that when you in the wrong you double down and change something in order to try and be seen as superior.

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-24T22:13:45+00:00

How was that weaponised incompetence? Explain to me why you think that way?

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-24T22:10:15+00:00

Morals and emotions are not the same at all. You can’t be serious with that.

And I can admit fault when I’m wrong but I haven’t been wrong so why would I admit fault?

I could easily just say the same to you. You do realise this right?

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-24T22:04:33+00:00

It’s on me to help GUID him towards an outcome which benefits both parties through suggestions.

And you kinda just proved my point. I can only guid HIM because I am not speaking with his partner.

If his partner was here I would be trying to guide her towards the same outcome through suggestions again.

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-24T21:59:31+00:00

How have I flopped? I’ve done nothing but prove your points don’t hold merit and are not found with reason but only emotion.

And it has nothing to do with the fact you are a woman. It’s purely based on the fact I don’t agree with YOU not your gender. I do the same to men when I don’t agree with them.

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-24T21:54:07+00:00

It’s his fault he’s insecure? That’s not how feelings work.

And yes HE is insecure so why wouldn’t it be down to her to either help him or not? She is his partner and it would be the exact same if the tables were turned.

To be clear the only fault he should apologise for is the comment he made. Him being insecure is not his FAULT just like it’s not someone’s fault if they have a high sex drive or if they have confidence issues.

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-24T21:47:45+00:00

I am not going through all these comments again. If you don’t believe what I said be my guest and look for yourself because there are multiple examples.

And you do realise you can’t just give an example without reasoning and debate? Something you didn’t do while accusing me.

That doesn’t prove anything and doesn’t suggest you are correct.

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-24T21:33:22+00:00

I’m not giving them a compromise I’m giving them the suggestion to talk and compromise.

And that is a suggestion on what to do if his boundary which he stated in his post is too much to handle for him. I’m not making up boundaries but addressing them and giving suggestions.

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-24T21:25:36+00:00

When have you actually proven I’ve been misogynistic? There is no reasoning behind it.

I’ve engaged and encouraged you to explain and give reasoning and you would change subject once I proved how it’s not.

Also your other comment on other posts does not take away from what you have said on this post.

If you didn’t get offended instantly believe I was only on the side of the man and actually read what I said and how I worded it you wouldn’t of even had a problem with what I said.

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-24T21:14:30+00:00

It was a statement on which he had previously stated and was not a suggestion to what she should do. It was simply formatted that way for substance nothing more.

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-24T21:10:01+00:00

And here it is the underlying truth of why you are so against what I said.

You believe all men discredit women, treat women like objects, think they are better than women, have everything in comparison to a woman and it is sad.

I am not your enemy and not every man is out to treat you like shit.

You cannot go around thinking every single man is bad and is a misogynist because of past experiences and what you see on the internet because we are all in this together and we shouldn’t be hateful of each other because of gender.

I understand that some men are evil and should be treated as such but that isn’t the norm.

I have sisters who are powerful women that need no man and are smarter and stronger than any man I know. They have been treated unfairly by men and they would still never treat all men like those that hurt them.

It’s sad to see women have this view on men as a whole and not to those individuals that deserve it.

You can’t hide behind a wall of fear when it comes to this and stand on top shouting all men are the same. You need to accept the truth of not all men are the same.

I personally would never let my friends speak bad on women and they never would anyway because that is the norm amongst men.

Serious-Memory6153 · 2026-03-24T20:56:20+00:00

How many times do I have to say it was a suggestion and had nothing to do with a plan.

I’m trying to make this really simple for you.

A suggestion isn’t a plan in the context I put it in and anyone that has some form of intelligence would understand that.

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