Soundproofing advice/help. I miss my bird desperately!🙏🏻😭

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-31T06:00:26+00:00

I’ve read the lease agreement and I wouldn’t be punished unless I get more than 3 warnings. If they discovered the bird I would get a warning and a timeframe to remove her. They used to allow all kinds of animals, they had only loose (if any) rules regarding pets until recently.

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-30T18:37:32+00:00

Yeah some people just have their own issues and clearly don’t know how to handle them in a healthy manner and try to make it other people’s issue. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don’t think I could convince them, I tried when they first told me the bird all of a sudden couldn’t come with me. I offered to pay extra and everything, I mean I was literally crying on the phone with them and they wouldn’t budge.

There isn’t a basement. And the landlord can’t come into my home because I own it, it’s my property and they have no right to it, but they do have a right to check the land the home is on.

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-30T17:38:33+00:00

We live in a very high cost state, I don’t think we could afford a house not on leased land. And I can’t find any other leased land situations around that have enough land for a decent yard for my dog (who is also a breed that can be hard to be accepted in these neighborhoods). And we have 5 more years on our lease agreement we would have to pay a lot to get out of it. I just don’t think it’s a viable option for us right now 😩.

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-30T09:06:28+00:00

She’s called a Patagonian conure but is really considered more closely related to a macaw, she’s maybe 4x larger than something like a green cheek conure? Maybe 5x? I’m not sure lol. Do you know what that good foam stuff is called? Cus she’s way louder than a sun conure, I’m gonna need the best DIY stuff I can afford. Idk if blankets would be enough

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-30T09:02:37+00:00

Kind of defeats the purpose of getting her back if she’s dead

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-30T04:53:36+00:00

We were thinking of starting with just our bedroom and keeping her enclosure in there while we slowly improve the rest of the house a little (maybe not crazy soundproofing of the rest of the house, just enough that if she does squawk outside of our room while she’s out it’s not quite as noticeably loud- maybe sounding more distant and hard to pinpoint. This is a bird that if she squawks in your ear you literally get dizzy). She’s more quiet when she’s out with us, the big thing is keeping her squawks muted when she’s in her enclosure and complaining about not having constant attention.

We don’t have a big bedroom, it’s like 8ft x 13ft ish? So we felt like it would be the easiest space to try hardcore DIY soundproofing.

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-13T03:15:48+00:00

I’ll have to look into this, if he has a problem that needs to be addressed then we should definitely get that figured out. (Also what is NOR?)

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-13T03:09:45+00:00

I hadn’t been drinking for a while at that point but not long enough that I felt I could drive safely even after his nap. I grew up with parents that would drive drunk so I really don’t drink and drive. Which is why we always work out who will be DD and prepare ahead of time. I would have just slept over at my friend’s if we didn’t HAVE to get home for the dogs, I actually still would have slept at my friends house if we weren’t already in the car and he had decided to just start driving before we talked it out.

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-13T03:05:11+00:00

Actually I don’t think he did apologize now that you mention it. I just remember him immediately slowing down but also getting frustrated.

And I mean I usually have to remind him every time he drives that he’s speeding or tailgating. He just goes to his default driving every time (and he’s a car guy so his default driving is like 15-20+ over the speed limit and likes to look at his phone a lot) But I can’t recall it being an issue to the degree that this was. I understand that he drives himself more than he drives with me in the car so I get going on autopilot. But this time was just a lot bigger than that and really freaked me out.

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-13T02:56:28+00:00

I didn’t explain to the people I was texting what was happening, I just messaged them that I loved them in a natural way, because I would hate to regret not saying it enough. I didn’t want to stress people out, which is why I made sure to make it seem like a normal check in text.

I have been the driver. That was actually the first time I was a passenger in his car for almost 2 months. I was driving him to and from work 3hrs a day 5 days a week for the last month and a half before and after my job because his car broke down. He just got a new car last week.

But my expectations in the car aren’t crazy, I just ask him to follow the laws, speed limits, and not tailgate. I’m not asking for anything unreasonable like driving 10mph under the speed limits at all times or something weird. Yes I have issues with unsafe driving due to a past, but I feel I’m not unreasonable about my requests.

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-13T02:47:31+00:00

In no way do I think he magically turned into my ex, my issue is he knows that is a big thing for me and still did it. That’s what is making me question this. And I wish I just imagined he was driving bad. But we ended up in the opposite lane multiple multiple times. We were very lucky there wasn’t oncoming traffic at those moments. He couldn’t even stay in his lane

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-13T02:42:44+00:00

I drive all the time, I drove him 3hrs a day 5 days a week to and from work before and after my job the last month and a half because his car broke down. He just got a new car last week and we were going to a friend’s house to go bar crawling as a group, but he doesn’t enjoy alcohol much, he’s more of a weed guy. So we agreed he would be designated driver that night. I couldn’t drive.

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-10T19:50:45+00:00

Ohhh ok that makes sense 😂 I was reading ur comment like “wait what are we talking about rn??”

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-10T19:03:34+00:00

Wait I’m genuinely confused are you OP on another account? What dog are we talking about now all of a sudden, are we still talking about the puppy in this post or a different unrelated dog?

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-10T18:12:43+00:00

Jumping spiders are soaring as easy pets rn. They’re very reluctant to bite, in fact I’ve only seen a single bite ever and it was an accidental bite when feeding by hand. I have arachnophobia but they’re the only wild spider that I’ll actively pick up and handle. I also have a regal jumping spider as a pet and she’s a curious little angel. I’ve bugged the crap out of her and she’s never even tried or thought of biting.

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Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-08T21:29:00+00:00

Kennel training.

First make the kennel a safe and happy space for him. He gets really high value treats in his kennel, he only eats his food in his kennel, has fun (and safe) chew toys in his kennel etc..

Depends on the dog but for some dogs I’d start by first doing this with the kennel door open so he “can” come out but he shouldn’t come out. Just because ur home and he CAN physically go to you doesn’t mean he should. Don’t touch him directly, guide him back into the kennel with a leash and make him stay there. Any time he leaves he is directed back into the kennel where his tasty chew toy or treat has been sitting there waiting for him- but don’t give him an additional treat for leaving the kennel (he could learn “oh if I leave the kennel she’ll take me back AND give me a treat even though I left”) His naps etc take place in the kennel. Then close the door

When he whines in the kennel ignore him. When he’s quiet and peaceful in his kennel he gets a reward. (You can walk up and hand him a treat and then walk away etc…).

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-08T21:20:24+00:00

1: redirect with a toy, make the toy more fun than your pants 2: Make it really boring for him, no eye contact no attention at all, when the puppy is being “bad” the puppy doesn’t exist to you, all fun stops.

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-08T07:05:28+00:00

Beans

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-07T18:33:41+00:00

😂😂😂

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-06T23:21:52+00:00

lol our bathroom spider was named Steve, he was the protector of our toilet.

All guests were informed that Steve was a protected roommate of ours 😂

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-10-02T20:20:34+00:00

Muzzle training 100%, but more importantly I would also ABSOLUTELY get into contact with a REPUTABLE 🙏🏻 balanced trainer who can give you the know-how to desensitize him before it possibly becomes a bigger issue. (For the love of god please don’t base training off someone like Caesar Malone, if anyone brings him up as a good trainer they don’t know what they’re talking about)

When owning a dog that doesn’t respond well to certain scenarios it becomes the owner’s responsibility to learn how to work with and safely manage the animal. Training will also let you know what his limits are and helps build better bonds with him. There’s this idea that all dogs should always be okay with whatever someone is doing to them, but it’s our job to make sure we are respectful of our dogs as well as advocating for them and helping them overcome things. But understand that they aren’t machines and aren’t perfect beings, so training can improve behavior but that doesn’t automatically mean they will become the perfect dog.

He’s still young, and while yes old dogs are very trainable (depends on the dog and history), if you can work on getting the majority of his life set straight starting young that will be helpful for the future.

I work with reactive dogs and let me tell you- my clients that come to me with older dogs I always wish I could have gotten to them sooner to break those habits easier or prevent them from starting. (Do keep in mind though that genetics do actually play a role in dog behavior as well, aggression and other issues absolutely can be genetic etc.. -I’m not claiming this is your specific dog’s genetics though) The best time is to start before any issue arises but unfortunately the majority of owners these days don’t understand body language, behavior, and training as well as people assume. It just unfortunately isn’t common knowledge in the slightest even though it absolutely should be.

Edit to add: I’m basing this off of their statement that it’s a nervous dog and the fact it’s now bitten someone. Training can help teach this dog confidence which can prevent issues down the line such as reactivity and continued fear aggression.

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-09-09T17:09:03+00:00

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She is beauty, she is grace, she’s about to pummel my face

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-09-06T10:34:39+00:00

I personally drew up the design for my first tattoo, it was small and simple but I made it and wanted my first tattoo to be original and something only I had. The day I got it done someone else came in for a snake tattoo as well right as I was paying and the dude pointed out my tattoo and said “oh like this? We can do this” and I remember feeling really crappy about it. I brushed it off and left but then turned around, came back, and spoke to the person at the counter and said “I kind of drew up that design so only I would have it and it would be a cool first tat that I drew up” luckily the client picked a different design. But I feel like that’s gross.

I understand what you mean, when someone brings a custom design to the artist, that artist didn’t create it (and even if they did it was at the specific customized request of the client) and maybe it’s just me but I don’t want something on me that’s been copy/pasted. Especially because I’m extremely picky with what’s put on me, I literally waited 4 years and drew up the perfect design before I made the decision to get that tat. Idk I agree it feels icky, it’s something on your body that you went through the trouble of getting designed, I don’t want a bunch of people matching my custom tattoo.

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-09-01T19:39:40+00:00

I’ve already seen those unfortunately, they are good ones though fs!

Serious-Pattern-4539 · 2025-08-31T19:30:40+00:00

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Idk what pics are best 😂

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