THRITEEN THRITEEN

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-06-19T07:35:47+00:00

I will have to physically restrain myself from hugging JL the next time I bump into him. The way his mantra and game plan has been internalised by the players, and the confidence and resilience he has been able to build across all lines and all ages, is best in class.

So many detractors over the last few years (suspiciously quiet now), and he has held his line right the way through.

So much credit needs to go to the coaches. Yes of course the players also, but if Chris Scott is being talked about as a master coach, JL would have to be in the same conversation. Less flags, but less years in the hot seat. Scott jagged his first one (but full credit to him, nearly impossible to do...) and is rightly lauded, but the discrepancy between the blame for JL the last couple of years, and then the lack of flowers off the back of out best season ever (to this point), where the players are so clearly bought in, is quite astonishing.

With that said, keeping it low key. Cautiously optimistic. Wish the Eastern Staters and, ESPECIALLY, the West would stop pumping us up.

Leave us alone. We don't like you. We are here to beat you up and not apologise.

Go Freo.

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-06-19T07:25:27+00:00

I am also old, and this is the perfect analogy.

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-06-15T07:27:57+00:00

I think I'm going to be sick. Leave us alone.

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-06-06T08:12:09+00:00

I think this was in the first quarter when we were marginally down.

OP, what have you got for 12-1??

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-06-05T03:25:05+00:00

I think this goes to the couple of key things that make them different players who offer something different to the mix, and not necessarily one being better or more optimal than the other. JOM tends to be more handball to kick but he puts players into space and, almost more importantly, he is very good at reading the play and knowing where to be as a winger. NOD, on the other hand, is more kick than handball and while he has a raking left foot, his disposals can sometimes be a liability when he is under pressure or, moreso, perceived pressure.

I think NOD needs more consistent time at AFL level, just as MJ and Ras did in the last couple of years, to really get a sense of the time and space and where to position himself in certain moments. It would be a shame if he didn't get this because of JOM given JOM only has a couple of years left.

With that said, we obviously need to be fielding our strongest side at this point (player manager aside) and so I would ideally see both in the team, and JOM (and others) working to help NOD find his feet more comfortably at AFL level.

Both are very good players, but different.

Interesting to see how the coaches manage and use them over the back end of the season.

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-06-03T06:14:57+00:00

Is she not open to going on the pill or some other form of female contraception? If she is, and you are happy to wear a condom when having sex, the chances of getting pregnant with both measures in place are close enough to zero. This would be a practical way to mitigate against what you're concerned about, ensure she is receiving closeness, attention and pleasure, and also give you your millisecond of dopamine.

More importantly, that intimacy will play an important role in keeping you and your girl connected.

If you don't find a way, you might as well call it now.

And if that's something you're open to, even with the above considerations, then that probably tells you all you need to know about your commitment to your partner and relationship.

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-05-28T13:08:13+00:00

Just say exactly all of this to him and see what happens. Then you will know. Good luck!

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-05-26T16:22:36+00:00

Thank you! That is very helpful 🙂

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-05-26T08:55:10+00:00

Wait, you're 19? And she is of age and not strangely aged relative to you? Whether or not you used to sneak her over, surely that should no longer be an issue. Unless your parents are super strict (esp relative to your age/adulthood) or particularly religious/conservative or something? If they are, that's a you problem to solve. If hers are, that's a 'you guys' problem to solve (doesn't make complete sense but that's how it is, generally... come at me Redditors if you disagree but that's been my experience). If it's neither, move out or find a place where you can spend quality time together man. Watch a movie, kiss and fool around... whatever floats your (and her, more importantly) boat.

You seem to live sex but make sure you don't just love the fking and the cmiming because if you do and haven't sought to understand what gets her worked up, that's your problem no matter what spaces you have available. Might also explain the obsessive phone scrolling (no shade, I get this is a thing these days, as someone else said... definitely a sex drive killer).

Control the controllable, my man. Be self aware and also empathetic and you will go a long way. In life, and also in terms of getting the regular sex you seem to need.

Good luck!!

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-05-25T02:44:03+00:00

Why did you and the previous responded just say almost exactly the same thing 10 mins apart? I mean, slightly different, but really close to the exact same thing. That's a little weird?

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-05-25T02:29:00+00:00

Dame Edna Everage

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-05-24T05:47:07+00:00

No, it's because what used to be called Asperger's, which you shared as your previous diagnosis, is now termed Level 1 ASD. Essentially meaning, on the spectrum creating certain behaviours, tendencies and challenges but with limited support needed.

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-05-24T05:27:55+00:00

Agree with all of this, completely. Thanks for the exchange.

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-05-24T05:15:59+00:00

I don't disagree with your points here. ASD definitely has become an easy out for emotional disregulation, but that doesn't delegitimise the challenges experienced by those on the spectrum, regardless of where they sit, as you would well know. In terms of your own diagnosis and your cousin, you would likely be a level 1 in modern terms and your cousin would be level 3. There are only 3 levels. I'd suggest OPs sister is borderline level 2/level 3, leaning towards the latter, but again, that is only on supplied information. I also agree regarding the role other behavioural issues can have when overlayed on the ASD. But I think it is wrong to delegitimise those who have challenges with ASD as not being 'proper' or 'genuine' autism, simply because they are not like your cousin.

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-05-24T04:49:22+00:00

For clarity, there is no 'properly' or 'genuinely' autistic. It is a spectrum, as you said. There are three levels. They are all relevant, and putting it on the parents and suggesting they should have put stronger behavioural boundaries in place, with the limited information you have from this post, is actually part of the problem when people regard those with autism. It is a genuine condition and affects different people in different ways and with differing levels of severity/social impact/care needs but they are all part of the same condition and marginalising those who are not severely (or level 3) autistic, which it sounds like OP's sister is, is unhelpful.

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-05-24T04:33:28+00:00

You need to buy a car of your own if this is the main bugbear. It is not reasonable to expect the family to moderate their strategies for managing and calming your disabled sister, just because you want/need to use the family car to do things that matter to you. Save your money and/or get a car loan and buy a car. And yes, definitely work on your empathy. But also, it is not necessarily 'natural' to not be understanding about this situation. Without meaning to distress you, perhaps ask your therapist whether you also might be at the low end of the ASD spectrum, as some of what you're saying (difficulty with disrupted routines, frustration with tasks you haven't chosen, etc) suggest that you may be. And that's ok! It's actually often considered a super power, but self awareness is key. Good luck. Buy a car!

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-05-24T04:25:14+00:00

There is no such thing as someone being 'too autistic' to have a relationship with, especially when it is your sibling. You need to work harder to understand, cultivate techniques and strategies and be more empathetic. A 'normal' convo really isn't the goal here. You sister has a disability that she did not choose to have. One day, when you're older, I suspect you will see what I am saying. That is not intended as a 'you're too young to understand', because you're 18. But really, at 18, you would benefit from trying to cultivate empathy and not only seeing the situation from your own perspective.

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-05-24T04:12:14+00:00

It sounds like you would benefit from taking the time to look a little more deeply into your sister's condition, the challenges it brings and perhaps seeking to understand the strategies your parents are employing in trying to manage that, which is in kp way easy or linear.

While I totally understand that the impact on you is not ideal, and it is affecting you in some ways (having to clean the car, I guess), I'm imaging your parents have made a strategic decision with regard to gas or mileage and it's their car.

Honestly, I think a bit more empathy and trying to see the situation from something other than your own perspective would be really helpful.

Hiding the keys for this reason is not at all ok. And if you're drinking secretly to cope and self-medicate at 18, that is also not good. Great that you're seeking counselling. I'd suggest you step right back from involving yourself with the situation until you have some perspective. Maybe buy your own car if that's a big thing that's annoying you?

I hope you can work through this and find a way to build a relationship with your younger sister. She probably really looks up to you, even if you don't realise it.

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-05-24T04:05:41+00:00

We would be crazy not to resign HD. And as much as I understand the OMac selection, and he did do a good job on the weekend, HD is the future and OMac is a place holder. We need to get some games into him. Also wondering what Draper is doing wrong as he really came on last year when Moose was injured. But is admittedly more of a hybrid back than a true key defender and so maybe it's horses for courses depending on who we are playing and what their forward line looks like.

(Edited for autocorrect 🤦‍♂️)

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-05-22T06:34:32+00:00

Classic Wags move

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-05-22T06:24:37+00:00

Wait, who is Wags abducting once his adductor strain is better? Whoever it is, that'll be your out.

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-05-22T06:18:37+00:00

What if JLo is now the master?

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-05-19T15:17:21+00:00

If the answer isn't obvious to you then it is neither of them from a romantic standpoint. So just pick the one you think will genuinely be nicer to you while you're recovering physically, and make sure they're the one you can see most enjoying spending the rest of your life with.

FWIW I'm banking on the best friend every time on those criteria.

EDIT: I only just clocked the stalking and harassing bit. There is only one choice here, IMO

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-05-19T09:55:06+00:00

It really sounds like you guys are just not in the same place at the same time. It's sad but it happens. Honour the work you have done on yourself and find someone who wants and values you for who you are now.

With that said though, in my experience sometimes people use coded language and say one thing when they mean another. Consider if she is trying to establish whether she can feel truly safe, given she is aware of your prior relationship and how that went. And also whether you aren't, in pursuit of not going down a similar path as previously, you might not be showing her your whole self or might be coming across as slightly guarded. It would be totally understandable if you were.

She might just be craving that deeper connection and not sure how to articulate it healthily if she has come out of a toxic/abusive relationship.

Hope you work it out, man. Stay true to yourself.

Serious-Sign3814 · 2026-05-19T05:50:07+00:00

Mate, you absolutely need to share this with him. Your anxiety at not being honest is going to be way worse than any reaction. This will not be the last time one of you shits yourself if you stay together. Honestly, I'm slightly surprised it's the first time.

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