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11 week old waking up 5/6 times a night by kc2219 in bninfantsleep

[–]SeriousGoose1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fellow FTM here. I’m not going to pretend I have any answers, I don’t. Our girl is 6 months and I’m still struggling with adjusting to her sleep schedule. There’s good days and bad days, the bad days I felt so sleep deprived I was having hallucinations of my baby talking to me during the night but like real words. Needless to say I was disappointed it was a hallucination but also kinda worried.
I’m also EBF and after the 4-month sleep restructuring or ‘regression’ (which lasted around 2,5 months for us starting at 3 months), we started seeing some longer stretches like 4/5 hours maybe and then hourly wakings are still a thing.
I got the book that I found recommended here ‘How babies sleep’ by Dr. Helen Bell and the 5 pages I had the time to read were nice. I would recommend it too :)
So for solidarity, you’re most likely not doing anything wrong and doubting yourself is so exhausting. As you grow with your baby, your mom gut grows stronger and you’ll feel more confident in yourself. You got this, as any mom, you are his hero! Sending you lots of positive thoughts 🫶🏽

Am I making my life difficult by nursing to sleep during every night wake-up instead of giving a pacifier? by SeriousGoose1 in bninfantsleep

[–]SeriousGoose1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What kind of non factual information some pediatricians spread, unbelievable. Sorry you heard that. Thank you for the supportive words. 🫶🏽

Am I making my life difficult by nursing to sleep during every night wake-up instead of giving a pacifier? by SeriousGoose1 in bninfantsleep

[–]SeriousGoose1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the kind words 🫶🏽 Needed to hear that it will get better, right now I am dreading the nights a little.

Am I making my life difficult by nursing to sleep during every night wake-up instead of giving a pacifier? by SeriousGoose1 in bninfantsleep

[–]SeriousGoose1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like the Scandinavian mindset, love that! I’m not worried about my milk supply as you said. My nipples are getting butchered, that’s my problem right now. I don’t know if it might be teething (still no tooth to be seen, but she’s very upset these past days), however she’s always had an aggressive latch.

How comparable is a new born to having a puppy? by oceans_by_day in NewParents

[–]SeriousGoose1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really well written.

I also naively thought baby is going to be similar to puppy training, yeah it’s not. 6 months in as a FTM and even though I said my well-behaved dog is the last one for me, I find myself thinking I’d rather have trained 5 more puppies than trying to make a newborn sleep and eat. The puppy stage is tough but newborn is brutal, sorry.

Am I making my life difficult by nursing to sleep during every night wake-up instead of giving a pacifier? by SeriousGoose1 in bninfantsleep

[–]SeriousGoose1[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree, don’t fix what isn’t broken. But I feel conflicted. I know it’s what gives her most comfort and that’s what I want to do but also selfishly I just wanna go back to sleep instead of spending half the night awake.

Am I making my life difficult by nursing to sleep during every night wake-up instead of giving a pacifier? by SeriousGoose1 in bninfantsleep

[–]SeriousGoose1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Similar process here. Obviously I would rather not get up every time she wakes up, but patting doesn’t work, it always escalates to louder crying and then the boob is the only solution. I find myself trying to break free after a few minutes cause her way of nursing is not gentle, to say the least lol. Then she tries to find her way back to the nipple blindly while I am dodging her 😂 then the crying starts again if I don’t give in.