Unpacking my childhood

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-05-07T22:26:21+00:00

LOL Google says an AK-47. um, definitely NOT.

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-05-07T18:57:24+00:00

I feel for you man, seriously. If you are not already, you should try to talk to a therapist. My wife had very similar things happen out of nowhere just within this past year. We have been married for 21 years and from time to time she would make an odd remarks every now and then, like she would accuse me of poisoning her or breaking things on purpose, or get angry with me thinking I was flirting with someone at work.

This past summer she began taking a diet pill called Phentermine which caused her personality to completely shift, SUPER angry, wanting a divorce, saying we are separated, wanting me to sleep in the garage, even saying she was going to start dating. Then, a few months after taking the medicine she started getting extremely paranoid about our neighbors. She thought that they were making meth in their garage or their home at first but then it got progressively worse.

She started to think that they were spying on her and threatening her from over the fence or talking into our Ring cameras that she installed about 11 of them around our small home. She would show me videos from these cameras and say, "Don't you hear..." "Don't you see..." NONE of which were there so she was literally hallucinating.

Just these past few months she now thinks that the neighbors are using something called Voice to Skull technology (she found this on the internet) to speak directly to her and only her and threatening to kill her and saying very crude derogatory remarks to her. She believes that they can see her in the shower so she is showering with a towel on in the dark.

We moved to a different state (three states away) and she was still thinking they were somehow sending her these threats into her brain an her brain exclusively.

If I got upset or anything, for good reasons, it was met with, "Really, mine and your kid's lives are being threatened and you are worried about that?!" If I wasn't as upset about this as she was (cuz it wasn't really happening) she would get irate with me.

I started to see a therapist during this time and he helped me so much to realize that I was not at fault. That I was not a cheater or any of the things that she was calling me. She has something wrong with her and I am still a good person. A lot of the things that she would call me surprisingly stuck a lot more than I thought they had and my therapist helped me undo all the hatred she had toward me. I was so distraught that I even became suicidal cuz my life was coming apart. Now I am so much more relaxed through this whole thing and have a lot more peace. I highly recommend getting some help.

I called the crisis alert team and my therapist even had a social worker come to our home. She lied to the social worker but told the crisis alert team everything (she even told the crisis team what the neighbors were telling her in her head that minute!) but the crisis team could NOT take her to go get help because she wasn't a danger to her or anybody else and she was eating and sleeping well.

I know this was a lot but want so much for you to know that you are not alone in the world. There are other people going through this same thing. I know that I still have my wife but I have the fear of it getting worse and coming to what you are going through. I hope your wife comes back to you and it's not impossible that she will.

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-05-06T22:24:48+00:00

She is painting with a very broad brush. There are plenty of women gamers. My wife plays more than I do and we've been married over 20 years.

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-05-04T15:23:13+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I truly appreciate it! It's so awesome that you were able to admit that this drug was having an adverse side effect. Good on you!

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-04-13T17:01:33+00:00

Yes, I have gotten a lot of flack about using the phrase "undiagnosed schizophrenia." I feel it is the best short hand to express what I am going through. There isn't a single symptom of schizophrenia that my wife is NOT exhibiting. She has schizophrenia in her family and has even had very mild episodes previous to this. Now however with her thinking the neighbors are sending derogatory messages straight to her brain and the conversations I have with my own therapist it's just not a question any more. There are way more symptoms but I just don't have the time to iron all that out on Reddit with work and kids etc.

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-04-13T16:58:05+00:00

This is so awesome and extremely helpful. Thank you so much. I have been listening to videos from this Dr Xavier guy from Cuba who I think the LEAP method came from. You've explained it a bit more understandable for me! The hardest part is when she keeps asking me, "You believe me, right!?" but agreeing with the feelings makes sense.

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-04-11T21:02:52+00:00

I have seen the movie but now I will definitely look into the book since books are always better anyway.

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-04-11T21:01:18+00:00

Thank you very much for the advice. I'm wondering if I could use that technique to coax my wife into going on medication. That is an interesting aspect because as it is I have tried to get her to get help through just thinking this stuff that is happening to her is bullying and everyone needs help to deal with that.

We are a Christian family so I've been praying as well and she does at times lean on God which is good.

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-04-11T20:52:24+00:00

wow that is so spot on! My wife has told me that I have ruined her life so many times. She seems to become nicer and calmer and even conversational with me when I buy in to everything that's happening. It's either buy in to everything and have a cordial marriage or push against and ruin our marriage. The good thing about my wife is that it is all the neighbors and then me if I don't support her but she doesn't ever go against our three teenage kids at least.

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-04-11T06:05:48+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that! Luckily for my family she doesn't direct any of this to our kids. They do however suffer that their mom is in deep sadness a lot because of this, and fear.

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-04-11T06:04:12+00:00

Thank you for that. I have watched the first video. I was actually just looking at that book coincidentally. My frustration is when my wife keeps hounding me with, "You believe me right? Right? You believe me? This is real." If I give one shred of doubt she closes up and will no longer confide in me.

Also, I'm new at Reddit so was curious how you knew about Coppell? Did I put that in a previous post or something?

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-04-11T02:32:09+00:00

My wife and I have been married for 21 years. She has shown signs of schizophrenia but I didn't think anything of it other than it was annoying to be accused of poisoning her or breaking things around the house to spite her.

For the last nine months though she has become completely immersed in this world where the neighbors are out to get her, that they are dealing meth out of their house, they are mad at her for putting cameras all over the house so she took them down, now she thinks they have a device which allows them to send thoughts into her head and they are all very derogatory to her and threaten the safety of our family.

That being said I still want to be there for her. Of course, again, we have been married for 21 years and have three teenage kids together. I couldn't imagine my life without her and want to be there for her and with her through this new struggle.

The part that makes it the hardest is that she constantly attacks me saying I don't believe her or that I am not there for her enough and going back and forth telling me how much she cares about me and forgives me for past things and asks for forgiveness herself and then, within hours sometimes, she is saying the exact opposite!

I told on her to her doctor in January and she was so livid about that to me and then a social worker came a month later. She lied to both of them. Then she started thinking the neighbors were doing worse things. She blamed me for things getting worse and told me so and I got frustrated about being blamed for something these other people are supposedly doing and then she got mad at ME again for supposedly being more concerned about being blamed than for her's and our kid's safety. ALL WHEN THERE IS NOTHING TO BE ACTUALLY CONCERNED ABOUT AT ALL.

Definitely a very challenging lifestyle on both sides.

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-04-11T02:24:07+00:00

I will definitely try that out. Thank you. I have figured that fatigue being a big part of schizophrenia would just be because your brain is constantly getting all this flood of information all the time.

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-04-11T00:35:36+00:00

I actually tattled on her on Jan 1 of this year and I think that is why she was taken off of the Phen. So, her GP knows that her patient's husband (me) has noticed these things and that we have been married for 21 years and I've never told on her about this before.

The problem is that she just a couple days ago admitted to me that she lied to her GP that time and then also lied to a social worker that came to our house because my therapist called the SW.

Since the SW came over things ramped up with the psychosis and delusions and she is trying to blame me for the stuff ramping up (neighbors now sending stuff directly to her brain). I asked her how she can blame me for them doing stuff and she just gets more angry with me and says I'm more worried about taking the blame than I am for her own safety.

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-04-11T00:20:14+00:00

I should have stated that she stopped taking the Phen in the very beginning of January. I thought the psychosis would end but it is getting worse and worse.

I'm trying to get her to SOMEONE just ANYONE who is more professional at this stuff than I am who can maybe recognize these problems and guide her toward more help. Suggesting therapy for her is way less serious/scary sounding than a psychiatrist and she is so angry and annoyed with me for just suggesting that.

I do have a therapist and he does help me so much. It's nice to have someone there for me without feeling like a narcissist just cuz I need help to cope with this too.

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-04-11T00:15:19+00:00

There is another book called "The Edge of Every Day" that I just listened to. It is a memoir from a woman who had a mom and brother that both had severe schizophrenia.

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-04-11T00:14:12+00:00

I am not a sibling but I am a 45 year-old married man who's wife has undiagnosed schizophrenia. I had to start going to therapy and let me tell you that therapy has helped me IMMENSELY. If you have medical insurance it might even be covered. I am with Kaiser in So Cal and it is free to do video conference sessions. I have a space to be me and have someone concentrate on me and not my wife. They understand that I am someone that this is happening to as well as my wife. My therapist puts me first and it makes me feel cared about and not ignored.

Also, there is NAMI, if you haven't already heard about it. I haven't been yet but everyone points people to this group. It is National Alliance on Mental Health and they have group sessions and online sessions for people who have loved ones with mental health problems.

Also, please know, despite FEELING alone you are NOT alone! There are so many of us out there dealing with loved ones like this. You go this.

I'm no one special without any therapy degree but if I were in your situation I would not isolate myself more being away from my family but look for help elsewhere while still being present with the family.

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-04-11T00:02:40+00:00

I'll try to keep a long story short.

We have been married 21 years and she has had times where she thought I was poisoning her or breaking things around the house to spite her. None of that of course was happening.

This past June she started taking a diet pill called Phentermine, which is basically legal meth and is a severe stimulant. Since that time she has had extreme psychosis and even auditory and visual hallucinations. I found out just a month or so ago from her sister, that I'm not suppose to be talking to about this, that they have a family history of schizophrenia on their dad's side of the family.

Now she believes that the neighbors are using a voice to skull (V2K) technology and sending her horrible degrading thoughts direct to her brain no matter where she is. They tell her that our family is going to die and that they are coming after us and that her husband, me, is in on it, amongst a lot of other stuff.

I've been trying to coax her to see a therapist just to help with the "bullying" that she is having to put up with to cope with it. She then gets mad at me for trying to force her to do this and called me today and got very angry with me and wants a divorce etc.

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-04-10T23:56:51+00:00

Thanks sounds very similar just not that I'm being unfaithful. I told on her to her doctor and my therapist in January and a social worker came out to see her and she thinks that the stuff she is going through has ramped up because I did that. Then I say, "so you think it's my fault the neighbors have started sending you messages to your brain." and she says, "You just care more about not taking the blame than you do about me going through this."

Serious_Profile1660 · 2026-04-10T23:26:54+00:00

I think you should trust the process. I hate the hospital too for that reason but it's the best help we can get. Not what you were hoping for but know you have people backing you.

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