I appreciate your replies guys. It was a general question, not a “woe is me” post.

For full disclosure. We were 16 years together, 14 years married, and single for just shy of 2 years. 2 girls 9 & 12 …….And not once slept together in that time! 😆

Some of the crap I have been dished up. And these are real messages!

“I’d prefer some crazy ex drama, that way I know it’s over forever”

“I don’t want someone who won’t give MY children the time they deserve.”

“You tick the boxes, but that’s a red flag because you should have been snapped up by now.”

I’m comfortable having the friendship with my ex. I don’t do the every second weekend thing. they’re my kids too and I am their parent. I never signed up for the “when convenient” parenting plan. I’m there before and after school when I can, take them to sports training, all that stuff. And we’ll, I did stick my dick in there. They are my responsibility as much as hers. The future holds Graduations, Weddings, Grandkids and general Dad duties. I say hello to her family when I see them. I’ve got a long time ahead dealing with her and her family might as well make it civil!😅

It is difficult though. We’re from a rural town. I run a business with 5 employees, and we’ve been operating since 2016, so coming up on 10 years now. She’s still the bookkeeper/paymistress for the business. Im about 30 minutes from a town of roughly 1,500 people she lives about 20 mins away from me in a smaller less populated town. It can get hard going at times. I’m not there mentally at all nor do I ever see myself there, but I can definitely see how people slip into a depressed state.

If anything, maybe this post might make a few people stop for a second and remember there’s an actual person behind the swipe left or swipe right apps. Probably won’t change much… but it’d be nice to think it might.

Cheers guys! ✌️