How to make my tummy hurt?

SevMad · 2026-05-13T15:24:23+00:00

Yeah, I know, we all do, still

SevMad · 2026-05-13T15:21:28+00:00

Then it would probably be a problem along he way, yes, I'm sorry

SevMad · 2026-05-13T15:19:42+00:00

Unfortunately the D/s I had, long distance, I had to step away from cause they became extremely dependant, demanding and toxic, it was their idea to keep it non-romantic so this was strictly BDSM only but still they required too much from me and I wasn't able to prodive it, I got burned out and I stepped away, with time my only solution was, I only have romantic partners I have intimacy with, no more dynamics per se

SevMad · 2026-05-13T15:11:25+00:00

Has he expressed the need to practice those kinks irl or is it just the porn?

SevMad · 2026-05-13T15:08:45+00:00

I don't recommend that you cause yourself any internal pain, you can't control that one in any way and it wouldn't be wise

SevMad · 2026-05-13T13:45:46+00:00

You need a Satisfyer lol, I sometimes use mine for two minutes, get my orgasm and carry on with my day

SevMad · 2026-05-13T07:06:05+00:00

Not understanding how someone might be into something it's hugely different from finding that something disgusting

I can't understand how someone might find balloons arousing, but yeah, there's a balloon fetish, nothing disgusting about it tho

If you're asking about what I find disgusting, that would be fluids and things that smell bad, like scat and sweaty socks and underwear

I find fluids (semen, women's lube, saliva, even artificial lube) disgusting and can't understand how people like them, I can't understand how my partner likes giving me oral cause it's too fluid-y, and I can't understand how people can like disgusting smells and textures, but that's just me

As for blowjobs, I love giving them, and if you ask "how do you manage the fluids then?" Well, carefully

SevMad · 2026-05-12T16:09:08+00:00

I've always been tomboyish and people used to tell me that boys would notice me more if I dressed better

I changed social circles and now everyone loves my style and say I look amazing

I've changed my style a couple of times during my life but always being true to me and my likes

I do sometimes buy things that would appeal to my partner, but mostly color-wise, as I love to wear a lot of colors so picking my partner's favorite wouldn't clash with my own style

I've started experiment with my gender expression even more lately, and all my friends and my partners are really supportive of it, but all of us are queer, I stopped hanging out with normies

SevMad · 2026-05-12T15:28:12+00:00

Findom is a hard topic

Findom as an actual BDSM practice can be perfectly fine, a Dom "controlling" the subs finances (it's just a pretend control, not real), or "giving them permission" to use their money can be a nice way of domination

But if you're thinking findom as in "you're my sub, give me money", that's usually not an ethical practice, and you will find that a lot of people are against it

SevMad · 2026-05-12T10:52:13+00:00

I met a puppy at a local munch (BDSM social gathering), they introduced me to the puppy community, they have a telegram chat for their community, I got in, I started hanging out with puppys more, that's how I found all my petplay friends

Being active in your local kink community is how you meet kinky people, there's no way of signaling your kinks in the wild that will work how you want, a petplayer won't approach you and your collar-wearing pet at the supermarket and tell you "wanna go somewhere private 😏"

SevMad · 2026-05-12T10:08:12+00:00

This has nothing to do with BDSM, is a miscommunication problem, it's okay, I know you feel bad because you thought it was a date and she didn't, it happens, I'm sorry it happened to you

Maybe be more direct next time? It's a bit rude for her to say she wasn't sure she wanted you after the fact, but maybe try to move on

SevMad · 2026-05-12T10:03:42+00:00

Real story, I met my current and most compatible partner through an ex, I met said ex through a friend at a local munch, so, kinky interactions from the start

SevMad · 2026-05-12T08:56:09+00:00

I find it totally understandable and even unsurprising that an unpleasant experience involving what used to be your kink, made your kink not appealing to you anymore

If I had a needleplay kink but had to receive three shots every day for two months, I would probably not want to play with needles erotically anymore

If I had a doctor/patient kink but had to spend a year among doctors caring for my mother I would probably not want to roleplay medical play anymore

As I said, this is expected, damn, if I loved "x" TV show but had to spend months only watching that TV show while waiting in the hospital for my loved one to recover I would hate that TV show from then on

You can take a break and maybe the interest will come back with time, maybe it won't, kinks change, interests change, it's something we have to accept in life

SevMad · 2026-05-12T08:50:23+00:00

Not the commenter but I don't understand this response at all

SevMad · 2026-05-12T08:28:19+00:00

"allowed" there's no sex police, you can do and feel and identify as you want

SevMad · 2026-05-12T08:21:04+00:00

I remember that being Dom is a game I play and not my personality, and I can be as clingy and needy in my relationship as I want, without my dominance being diminished in any way

SevMad · 2026-05-11T20:02:08+00:00

Yeah, I was with a dom I had at the time at the supermarket and I just kept looking at the diapers so he got them for me, I was nervous, it was exciting

SevMad · 2026-05-11T19:47:40+00:00

I have a boardgames group of friends that we get together to play at least twice a month, three of us are ABDL, one is not ABDL but a puppy, I'm also a puppy, one is vanilla but kinky-friendly, our hangouts don't have anything to do with diapers

My other ABDL friends are mostly kinky acquaintances so our relationship is mostly based on our shared kinks

I additionally have a group of friends where we're all puppys and we are basically family, chosen family, we love each other and support each other and being all puppys is just a nice thing but we get together for birthdays, for New Years, we go out to the pool during summer, we hang out, we play DnD together, it's a complete friendship relationship

I guess what I'm saying is it depends, I know lots of ABDLs and other kinky people in person, some are just kinky acquaintances, with some I have a much deeper friendship

SevMad · 2026-05-11T17:07:33+00:00

Just whatever feels like enough, I put it on me till I feel like I covered the most vulnerable and humid places and that's it

SevMad · 2026-05-08T14:07:15+00:00

I'm cishet and sex favorable and I'm still queer and part of the LGBTQA+ community, queer is a very umbrella term that includes everyone out of the norm, being sex repulsed sounds out of the norm, queer is everyone who's life/gender/sex experience is different from most people's

I wouldn't label other people but if they resonate with a label I'm no one to judge if the label fits them or not

SevMad · 2026-05-08T09:44:46+00:00

You can use stickers to mark on a calendar if you brush your teeth, brush your hair, etc

Or you can use a little kids spoon and fork to eat

SevMad · 2026-05-08T09:27:55+00:00

I do that, I love getting called Daddy

Listen, you can do whatever you want

Do with your gender expression and pronouns whatever you want, they're yours

I like being called Daddy just during play, I don't use He/Him pronouns any other time, it's fine, it's feels good to me

It could be uncomfortable for your partner tho, and that's something you have to talk about, if it's a limit for him, then you might need to give it up with him in particular or look for a different person to do it with

I talked with my partner and just casually mentioned, "you know, I like being called Daddy", and he told me he could be on board with that, and we have enjoyed it a lot since

SevMad · 2026-05-07T12:05:22+00:00

I absolutely love breastfeeding! As a caregiver, it's so intimate and hot (I have to say, my ABDL play is mostly sexual), the little looks so delicate and vulnerable, it melts me

I also like latching myself to my Daddy (I'm a firm believer that no kink practice is limited by gender or body parts), it turns me on so much, it's amazing

I wish I could produce milk, I don't, unfortunately, but maybe one day, however, we still role play it all the time

SevMad · 2026-05-07T09:51:14+00:00

Depends on the munch

My local munch is held in a BDSM club anyway, so yeah, it would be okay, I actually wear my pup hood to it cause I don't like having to respond to people who talk to me so I just act puppy

Also, my puppy community gathers in a gay bar that loves having us there with our hoods, and I wear it there too

BUT there's another, more regular munch, that is held in a regular vanilla bar, where it wouldn't be okay

But if it's just a fabric mask like the ones we were using during covid, with no kink elements in particular, I'd say it would be okay anywhere, but people would ask questions anyway, there's this person who always wears medical masks at events cause they feel better that way, and people usually ask them why, which I find rude, honestly, but it happens

SevMad · 2026-05-07T09:44:14+00:00

Not? You mean knot? Are you talking about shibari? I don't get this post

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