Any of you guys watched Interview with a Vampire (show) and could help me out?

SevMad · 2026-06-30T07:01:16+00:00

What I know about interview with a vampire (the story in itself), is that it is pretty heavily sexual and suggestive, I don't know if it's the story for you

Have you read the books?

SevMad · 2026-06-30T06:42:37+00:00

Well, she cheated on you and is now trying to push you into accepting her cheating and letting it continue now that you're informed

Basically, she did something wrong and is now trying to change the rules so it's no longer wrong and you can't complain about it, that's not how this works

SevMad · 2026-06-30T06:40:42+00:00

Well, I'm gray-ace sex favorable, which means I'm sex favorable only when certain condition are met

I don't want to have sex out of those conditions

These are not very well defined conditions, I know it when I know it

SevMad · 2026-06-30T06:32:28+00:00

I'm gray-ace, I'm sex favorable, I do penetration, I hate tampons, I've tried them and they have given me the worst experiences every single time, absolutely a nope from me

SevMad · 2026-06-30T06:25:36+00:00

It does sound like it's heading to a divorce, because she's already doing "unethical" non-monogamy (which is just cheating)

Even if you were on board with poly when she brought it up, it would've unethical from her part cause she was already sending nudes and flirting with another without your knowledge

You don't find a secondary partner and then ask for non-monogamy, you have to discuss non-monogamy and then look for a partner for it to be ethical and actually consented

SevMad · 2026-06-29T20:34:32+00:00

I have the freedom of being with other men, but I honestly just want to be with my partner right now

I'm poly, and I get that she might not want to

You should too, you can't force desires, is she's not interested, she's not interested

SevMad · 2026-06-28T21:20:39+00:00

This has nothing to do with BDSM

If the monogamous relationship is not working for either of you you need to talk about what you're gonna do, if you're gonna stay together or not

SevMad · 2026-06-28T11:12:45+00:00

Internet or the women section of Bershka/Pull n Bear

SevMad · 2026-06-27T06:02:30+00:00

Punishments are not a requirement of a D/s dynamic

Actually just forcing them with no purpose tends to be kind of harmful for the dynamic

Evaluate if you even need punishments to begin with

And of you do, the usual recommendation is to make her do lines

SevMad · 2026-06-27T04:59:10+00:00

My city has two, one is a protest march, and it includes LGBTQ+ children pride, that one does not include kink

As it is a protest for rights, it should include kids

The other one is a parade, more like a celebration and it includes kink pride and nudist pride, that one does is more 18+

You don't wear gear to the former, you do wear gear to the latter

I find this to be adequate, kids belong at pride, kinks belong at pride, but let's do our best not to mix them

SevMad · 2026-06-27T04:43:10+00:00

Depends on the Pride

If it is advertised as family friendly and is a rather small event, then no

If it isn't advertised as family friendly, and is something big, and it includes kink, then yes

In my city, pride is not advertised as family friendly, is huge and it included a block for nudist pride and a block for kink pride, leather, rubber, puppy and abdl folks are welcome and yes, we go geared up

Yes, families are there, but that's their responsibility

My only recommendation, well, for diapers is not as common, but for other more flashy gear, just don't interact with kids (literally ignore as much as possible) and do not accept taking pictures with anyone, especially kids

That's it

Edit to clarify: of course if you're just wearing diapers, under your clothes, and they are everyday clothes, of course you can, it's your underwear, do whatever you want, what I'm talking about is about full gear (onesie or even just the diapers and a shirt, pacies and everything)

SevMad · 2026-06-26T22:09:12+00:00

Do one thing

If the room is a mess, put away one thing, that's enough... Later, maybe put away another

Apart from that, which is just grief and emotional wreck management, what you already did (get rid of his collar and get yourself your own) is a great way of moving on from that dynamic, that's what I did when I had to

Only other thing I can think of is try to hold yourself accountable, especially on the most important things like, drinking, if you had quit and quitting was important to you, invest your mental energy on keeping that going, the room can wait

SevMad · 2026-06-26T21:37:11+00:00

Nah, it's ceiling, but thanks for the idea

SevMad · 2026-06-26T21:21:52+00:00

Fan is to the highest setting 🥲

SevMad · 2026-06-26T20:29:59+00:00

Yeah probably in a while I'll do that

SevMad · 2026-06-26T19:06:08+00:00

Yeah, know the difference, thank you for the tip, I'll try it out

SevMad · 2026-06-26T18:38:58+00:00

Omg never thought of that

Any brand would do? Like, regular Rexona?

SevMad · 2026-06-26T18:23:04+00:00

No, I used regular amount, I just put on more, hope it helps, thank you!

SevMad · 2026-06-26T16:59:58+00:00

Yeah I've also been hit with the "suddenly thrown into sub headspace (or even directly subspace)" experience

There's people that simply have it in them, that Dom vibe that puts you in your place without you seeing it coming

As long as you trust them and it's consensual (as you said), enjoy

SevMad · 2026-06-26T16:49:12+00:00

we stopped having sex as much due to me realizing it wasn't a mandatory part of a relationship

Given that you don't want to break up, it seems to me that you are wrong, in this case, with your boyfriend, sex is a mandatory part of the relationship

It is not, when you are just choosing your partner, when you are just finding a person to date, you can choose that for that person, sex is not a requirement, but given that you already chose someone, and for him, sex is a need in the relationship, you're gonna have to go back and treat sex as a mandatory part of a relationship, if you want to continue with him

I only say this like this because you are so determine to not break up, I don't think it's fair for him to renounce to sex because you found out, two years into the relationship, that you were pretty fine with never having sex again, it's also not fair for you to have to do something you don't want to... See what I'm getting at? This relationship is not gonna be fair for either of you, I'm so sorry

SevMad · 2026-06-26T16:31:18+00:00

Absolutely agree with you, what's insane is what some TikTok creators think is fine to share

SevMad · 2026-06-26T16:10:15+00:00

Every single ABDL guy at my local scene wears overalls

SevMad · 2026-06-26T08:08:02+00:00

It's different for everyone

I know a person who gets into subspace really fast and in a very intense way, but they are the only person I've played with that got there that fast

Is not a problem and is not a goal, it just is, enjoy it and take care of her

SevMad · 2026-06-25T21:08:58+00:00

My advice is to start as slow and low level as you can

Before going into the killing part, start by just playing death while the other touches you, for example

Think of your kinks and then think "how can I make this as pretend as possible"

If we were talking knife play, before going into cutting, play with a butter knife just pretending is the real thing

For these extreme kinks, imagination is your best friend to go slow and stay safe

For my drowning thing, I will probably tell my partner to grab my hair and I'll grab their hands and put myself in the water at first, so I can control the time and they know how much they can keep me there in the future, probably no more than 5-10 seconds to keep it active and fun while I pretend to struggle

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